Am I an asshole for telling my 23 year old brother to get a job when he has a 2-year old son?

[Anonymous]

My brother and his girlfriend have a 2 year old together. He has been spending at least a night, sometimes two at our father's house instead of going home to his son. He'll crash anywhere between 10PM and midnight and doesn't typically leave until around 11 the following morning. One morning I went to our dad's to see him still in an old bedroom and ask why he wasn't either with his child, or out DoorDashing, his only source of income. His girlfriend works at Dunkin. He blew up at me and told me his kid and income were none of my business and to keep my distance for the foreseeable future. His girlfriend had no part in this conversation nor did I bring her up. She wasn't even at the house. Hours after he blew up at me and threatened to call the cops, I got a text from a number I didn't recognize, but the wording made me believe it was his girlfriend. She reiterated that their kid is fine with his mom and that my brother works hard day in and day out, which is bullshit because his only income is DoorDash and asking daddy for money, and much of that he spends on weed. Its been two monghs now and neither of them speak to me. Am I the asshole here for telling my brother to grow up?

[HateyouxD]

Nah but your brother is going through s stressful time. He could be in & out of interviews and not securing one. Hence all the pot he smokes. Also, smoking pot gives you dirty pee. Tell him to go to gnc and get the niacin and take 3 or 4 a day for 2 to 3 days so he can pee clean and get a real job but you might want to be more nice and kinder to him. Sounds like he's going through a lot

[Asker]

Does that explain why he spends random nights at our dad's house? He hasn't worked an actual job in at least a year and a half

[Asker]

Does it also excuse the fact that I did and said nothing to his girlfriend at all, but she felt ok with texting me from an anonymous number telling me that he's got more of a right to sleep 12 hours at a time at dad's house and do dabs until noon when he could be looking for a job to support his son?

[HateyouxD]

He could be lying to the girlfriend. He probably texted you from a fake number pretending to be her.

[Asker]

I honestly wouldn't be surprised

[DryGermanGuy]

No, not at all, just a bit naive to expect a different reaction from calling out a deadbeat. I tried to help the same sort of guy, who was even constantly whining about his life, and got the same reaction. Never again.

[DextroShade]

No, he needs to man up and provide for his family.