Has any of your fam/friends ever said anything like Option A or B to you?

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Option A— “I should’ve had a son/daughter instead.”  So say you’re their son/daughter but the parent says they wish they had a son/daughter instead.  OR OPTION B — If your friend says “ You should’ve been a guy/girl”  because maybe your mindset/actions/style/emotions/etc matches that of the opposite sex more. And no I do not mean any of this is a trans way.  But yea my friend girls get mad at me and say I should’ve been a dude because a lot of what I say comes across as fckboy-ish 😂 Like damn I would say thats offensive but I know my ass really ain't no good half of the time. I can't help it. I grew up with more guy friends than girl friends and I guess their thoughts and ways rubbed off on me. I’m not a girly girl and would totally sit open-legged in pants/shorts, but I’m also not tomboyish enough to come across as butch. I definitely still look like the girl I am and act like one for the most part. But yea my mindset is definitely not that of a typical girl 😆 I guess now a days girls would deem me a “pick me” ass bxtch since I’m not a “girl’s girl”. I disagree but i also really dont give a damn. 🤷‍♀️ So yea has anyone ever said you should be the opposite of what you are?  #FeelFreeToList

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

Pop always assume I’m the guy in my relationships in How I approach things, discuss things or handle stuff when there’s conflict. And of course growing up guys found me easy to talk to. And people today will say I’m strange or to cerebral or not properly feminine in my behavior. I often get accused of being a anon guy pretending to be a girl…

I’m not “ like a guy” I just don’t go out of my way to “perform as a girl” and guys as children, and as adults, have more freedom to just be natural.

Most normal kid behavior is considered “boyish” bc girls have to start performing much earlier bc being feminine means taking away natural behavior and replacing it with censorship.

in the same way emotion is considered “girlie” bc at a certain age guys are supposed to pretend they don’t care about anything.

I have never ever been able to identify with any “truism” about “girls” nor “guys” that’s partly why I do not put much stock in this is how boys are this is how girls are. The rest is bc if you look closely and examine enough info, you can clearly see that beyond performance there really not any constant proof of someone’s sex, behaviorally.

I’ve spoke to people anonymously for years and they all sound the same to me when they are not trying to prove how feminine it masculine they are.

Tho, I do find men easier to talk to but I think that’s just bc being direct is accepted within the male species and women are shunned for it, largely. So there is just less guess work with guys and when you have a guy alone and he trusts you, they exhibit all the same emotions and cares and fears that supposedly only belong to “ the fairer sex”

Deep inside we all have similar concerns and goals and how we express stuff is largely based on social credit or the lack of..

I grew up very very much on ky own just surviving very little socializing so I never felt preside to adhere to any kind of “normal behavior”

I’ve always just done what came naturally, provided I thought it ethically sound. in my opinion people are just people. Let them be people 🤷🏻‍♀️

DreamLife7 · Accepted Answer

I've haven't had any of those things said to me but I honestly think your mindset is fine because it's a blend of both masculine and feminine. Your friends can really learn from you because girls like them are the ones who end up getting played if they don't have that masculine/feminine blend like you

RavVid · Accepted Answer

I'd like to say no but another guy did say I was being emotional once. At the time I was wanting to punch my boss' nose in so I don't think I was being that femme.

I have known a few girls who have claimed a male streak in their decision making and shopping but they bloody well aren't on closer examination. I went to a market with one such yesterday who claims to be a mission shopper like a guy. All she wanted was muesli and I was getting pizza trays. I brought a book along of course.

Went to the kitchen shop got the trays. If it was 5 minutes it was only because a couple of people were ahead of me at the check out. Saw my friend and told her I had what I wanted. She had found bags of muesli was staring at them at them. Nah no mission shopping to day; it was look for bright red berries day. She had to look at everything else in the shop that she didn't want. Not just a quick glance but a good long hard stare at everything

I went to the courtyard to read rather than waste my time cause I know enough about women to know I could get through several chapters - maybe even finish the book by the time she had looked all the stuff she wasn't going to buy and didn't need.

Sorry Dizzy, I don't believe your friend girls at all. Chromosomes rule!

AlexEfron · Accepted Answer

Not exactly, but I've been told at times that there are certain things that make me girlish. One of them being that I love children. I love to play with babies and absolutely adore them. Many people have said that most guys aren't like this. It's usually girls who love children, men avoid them.

Also I'm not well built, so not as intimidating in appearance as well as weak in terms of strength. 😂 most girls of my age are stronger than I am (this is something people have said to me and it's somewhat true... I'm not really strong).

I starting going to the gym at a very late age and my only exercise prior to this was swimming, so I don't really have bruised hands with calluses. 😂 people do comment while shaking my hand that I have soft palms like girls do. One of my coworkers repeatedly mentioned that emphasizing on - "such soft palms, just like a girl"

Girls have often commented on my nails. That they're pretty and ideal for a girl. A lot of my female friends said that they wanted to paint my nails and that my nails were prettier than theirs 🤣

I don't mind any of these... but end of the day, I'm a guy 😂 I want to be identified by masculine features and not feminine ones.

Anpu23 · Answer

My mother never actually said "I wish you were born a girl," but she certainly implied it on more than one occasion.

Truth is, I'm pretty gender neutral, I have a lot of guy tendencies and hobbies. I have a decent amount of mechanical skill, can weld, and blacksmith. Am a lifetime martial artist. Have a decent shop for wood and steel, etc.

But I also have a sense of style, and decorum. Know which fork to use, and can discuss plays, music and literature. Deport myself well, and am quite soft spoken and an Irish tenor. Have no problems wearing ruffles or silks. I'm a published poet, and read 18th and 19th century literature for pleasure.

I'm also an artist, some certainly consider that effeminate, so there's that as well.

Anyway to answer your question, yes some people have implied or said that I should have been a girl. Including family members.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yep. My father wanted a boy and so did my grandfather.

My grandfather withdrew the inheritance because I (being the last born) wasn't a boy. My mother resented having lost the inheritance, but not as much as my father did.

I spent my entire childhood being told, "If you were a boy, you could stay out past dusk," "If you were a boy, we'd have inheritance," "If you were a boy..."

Constatine · Answer

Yeah.

For many many years i as ony man part of a girl group ( around 16 girls ) Same thoughts, same view on the world and i love hanging out with them. I liked them and they liked me... never ever sexual feelings on both ends. Back they they loved to play with makeup and one they they did me so see how i would look like a girl 🤣😂🤣. I must say without the facial hair i have now and the harsh face contour I was darn pretty 😁🤭. We all had so much fun.. they said if i was a girl i would be sexy.

5 are still in my group of friends.. they said they never could guess i ended up.. " manly "

😃

ohsheeT · Answer

I kind of wish they would have said that to me..

Because just because I can do it I would have went oh my God thank you so much for saying that I don't know how long I've been wanting to tell you and I would go up and give them a big hug and say that's just going to make this so much easier

And I mean I would keep it going and going and going making them believe something is not true

Until they got to the point to where they was just come out and say it what is it what are you trying to say

I would say depending on what parent it was

I would say I always wish you were my step parent so I could tell you to f*** off

Or I would say I always wish that you were Dad instead of mom or vice versa

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

This has nothing to do with growing up with guy friends, you have the gabit to be straight up front and say how it is, bo sugar coating, no bs and thats where this nonsense (you should've been a giy) shit comes in. If a guy says and does the things you do! People would sat (this guy have an attitude) But reality is no one is used to people being up front, a stand up guys, no bs, no ass kissing, no games, we just get to the point. You are not a typical girl? Who is then? And god damn it! These questions can't be answered like this, this is another (in person) kind of question.

DD! Are you alright?

HelpfulWoman · Answer

I've had both. Hell, my mother went as far of "i was told you were to be a boy in a ultrasound, i wanted to leave you at the hospital and wouldn't name you for 2 weeks when you were born"

mstbooblover · Answer

No, that never happened to me, but be sure I'd love to meet the girl you describe yourself to be ;0)

smilelots · Answer

hell no but my mon did say she should have eaten us when we were to much for her here and there just like some animals do to there young lol

Pink2000 · Answer

No. My dad prayed for a girl and he got a girl.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Nope I can't recall them ever saying that not even once.

nawtee_me · Answer

Nope but I would be offended if I were told that. Even if it were true….

Anonymous · Answer

I'm fuckboy so after sex when i start ignore her she use to say wish you're girl you feel the pain 🤣🤣🤣

iron_ninjs · Answer

No, as far as I remember.

Sparkie460 · Answer

No I have never had anyone say that to me.

Jerre · Answer

No, nobody ever said that to me

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Never 😆

Agape93 · Answer

Option A, yeah.

jahaims · Answer

Nope

TallAnon · Answer

Nope

Has any of your fam/friends ever said anything like Option A or B to you?

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