How can we pull thought when our mom has stage four cancer?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday morning we just found out my mom has stage four beast cancer. The news devastated my brother, dad and I. Also the family. Stage four is bad and can’t get any better, so at least we know what to expect. She’s currently doing okay. I gave her a call and talked to her. Sending thoughts and prayers to my mom. She is a fighter and a strong woman. I know we gotta think positive, be strong and all that but it’s tough news to accept. We’re going to fly to see her ASAP.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re allowed to cry, take the time you need to do so. Keep hold of hope and support your mom where you can. My dad getting diagnosed with lymphoma was terrifying, but the doctor was able to reassure him that the treatment would work, which helped a lot. I know this isn’t necessarily the case for you. Spend time with your mom, and take video of her before treatment, take lots of pictures to help keep her memory, she may still get through this and you can grieve as you need to. If anything is left unsaid between you and your mom, now is probably the time to say it. And the things you think she might know implicitly are things she may not actually know. When I told my mom, on recommendation of someone else, that there was never a point in my life where I questioned whether or not she loved me, she said it meant the world to know that because she had always feared there were moments where I didn’t feel loved. I always thought she knew, and I’m glad I told her. Make time for your mom with your family, one thing my family does in grief is create, when we lost my stepdad I would visit my mom every week to paint tiny pictures with her on a 4x4 canvas. It was fun, and made for a good outlet, if not also a pleasant distraction so we could remember the good things about living and continuing to live without our loved ones around. I hope things go better than you expect with this situation, breathe deep, love hard and loud, and take plenty of pictures.

[Asker]

Thank you I so much. I appreciate your lovely comment. The other two were pretty harsh with me and I refused to answer them. Their comments don’t help at all. I know we gotta stay positive but can’t help how I feel. I’ve been told a couple times in the past that I gotta think positive and crying and having negative thoughts will make it worse and suck it up. I mean they had a point that negative thinking all the time isn’t good at all I mean that’s true but bottling up feelings doesn’t make things better that makes it worse too! I’m very glad the treatment helped for your dad. We will spend as much time as we can with our mother. I talked to her and she’s doing okay. Prayers continued. 💖💖🙏🏾🙏🏾

[Anonymous]

@Annonymous is right. You’re not making things better by thinking negative and only taking about it. YOU have the choice to choose how to think and if you keep thinking negative thought, you’re going to make thing worse! It won’t do you, your brother or your family any good! You gotta stay positive and spend much time with her as you can? What the hell are you doing sitting around asking strangers? Get that damn plane ticket and go see your mother! I know it sounds harsh but you asked so we gave you honest answers. If you were a child, I would feel sorry for you but since you’re an adult, I’m not going to sugarcoat it. Stop making things worse for yourself and go see your mother!

[Anonymous]

You have think and act positive. That's how you do it. You do get to choose. One is harder. If you don't do it you are just making everything worse.

[Asker]

I know. We’re doing our best to think positive and we are. I did talk to her and had a positive conversation. You’re right, negative thoughts isn’t going to make it better but it’s hard to deal with the news.

[AmazonChick171]

I couldn’t said it better myself. She’s not going to make things better by thinking negative. Notice that I didn’t say “I’m sorry to hear that”? Why should we? She’s an adult so we’re got going to sugarcoat to and she’s wasting her time asking strangers while she can go see her!

[HeartRob25]

@AmazonChick171

You're available on Amazon? 😂

[AmazonChick171]

@HeartRob25 hahaha that’s funny

[HeartRob25]

You're such a darling 😘
Wish you're available on Amazon 😂

[AmazonChick171]

@HeartRob25 yeah. But anyways this bitch is just sitting on her ass while she could be on that plane visiting her mom