How do I cope with losing my mother?

[Cherrylicious]

My mom passed away 6 months ago from battling pancreatic cancer at just 52 and I had a much closer relationship with her more than my other siblings. So needles to say her passing took a huge toll on me which is making me contemplate self-deleting just to be with my mother in the afterlife so that the pain of losing and missing her would go away because I'd be with her. I don't have any goals or ambition in life and feel so hopeless now that she's gone I'm tired of crying and hurting and I just want the pain to go away.

I don't feel like I have no reason to live and to accomplish anything because my mother was the only person who was my friend and held my hand through everything and now that she's gone, I don't wanna live anymore and I just wanna be with her. How do I cope with this the best way I can?

[exitseven]

My father died very suddenly. I never thought of him as old and one day he was just gone. I was going through a major upheaval in my life. I was in my 30s and trying to train for a new career. I had just become unemployed and I still had a wife and 3 kids to support. He died when I was just getting ready to take midterm exams. I did not know how I was going to pull myself together enough to pass these tests. I was struggling with the program to begin with and I was really afraid of flunking out. I thought about how my father would be telling me not to be such a pussy and pass the damn tests. I did it partially to make him proud.
I am sure your mother loved you and would not want you to harm yourself and she would want you to be happy and have a good life. Try to work on that because you know that is what she would want.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[SamIam96]

I'm so sorry you lost your mother. If you figure out how to cope please share.

It sounds like you were wonderfully close. Try to remember the good times you shared. She would be heart broken to know that you are so sad. She would want to know that your life is good. That you raise your own children with the same love she gave you.

Tell people stories about your experiences with your mom. Keeping her memory alive is a good way to honor her and to help you heal.

Full disclosure, I was raised by a single mother. She dies years ago. I still think of her every day and I miss her terribly. I'm having trouble typing this message through the tears.

[someone132]

I'm really sorry for your loss. I experienced this almost two years ago, and I'm not going to lie, it's hard.

The first thing I'm going to say is be patient with yourself. You don't have to have goals, ambitions. When you can, allow yourself to miss her, remember and write down all the good memories you had with her. What do you miss about her the most? What do you wish you could do with her? What would you tell her?

What you're experiencing are all symptoms of grief. Right now, it will consume every second of your day, it'll be unbearable, but that will lessen as time goes on. Try to surround yourself with people who support you, friends, family.

[Kha0tiic_xo]

Honestly you just have to take it one day at a time if that's a life-changing devastating thing that happened to you, And honestly it's not going to be easy but it'll get easier, be around family and close friends keep your mind busy, And if you can maybe take some grief counseling I didn't believe that that would work for myself when I lost my son but the grief counseling actually really really helped me and without that I don't know where I would be!

I'm really sorry for your loss 🌷

[Cherrylicious]

I will definitely consider that and thank you for your condolences.

[Guardian45]

First, my Condolences on your loss. I have lost my father in 2014, BFFs in 2016 & 2021. (Tomorrow is her 1st anniversary of her passing). Everyone WILL LOSE someone, sooner or later. What is important is to remember them, honor them, and keep living for them. If you think about it, that is what they would wish for you.

My BFF believed in Guardian Angels, who were her deceased friends, who watched over her and protected her, she said. Maybe she is that for me. Maybe your mother is that for you.

[Emiliamazing]

I’m so sorry to hear this. It might be best to seek out family members and friends who might be able to help share your pain. Just remember, your life is just beginning and you may have the opportunity to be that special someone for another individual whether it be a friend, a family member, or your children.

[Twalli]

The sadness you feel at your mother's passing is because you had a lot of good memories with her. The sadness isn't because of those memories, rather it's because you can't make anymore. When you think of her focus on the good memories you have, rather that the inability to make anymore.

[bowenw]

She would want you to continue with your life, follow your dreams, and be happy. Spend time with friends and family as much as possible for as long as it takes for you to start feeling normal. Consider joining a support group.

[jimmy2]

I know just how you feel. God bless you. It hard to make it through each day. But please go each day get less and less. New people come into life. Just hang on honey. Go to sharegrief online put in your zip code then life better. You will never get back to normal. Normal gone. A new normal will come to you. Shine on you will bless many out there

[Iron_Man]

What a disaster I am so sorry to hear this there’s not anything you can do except maybe talk to a psychologist and take medication but does it really help not really