I (m) met my friend (f) about 2 years ago. We spend a lot of time together online in videogames (just us) and text a lot. And I have to admit I think i started to get feelings for her.
However, she shows no emotion or direct interest at all. When in person, she barely talks to me or looks at me and seems closed off while with others she's more open and chatty. There were a few occasions where she asked me over but I end up talking with her mother all evening while my friend is barely speaking. When I message afterwards that I had a good time, i just get a random out of context sticker reply. I mean, while I am there, even het mother has to tell her to be social because she has a guest. It kinda feels shitty because it makes me feel not appreciated as a friend at the least. I called her out once and told her how it makes me feel but all she said was thay she did not like that I was making wrong assumptions. She will never flat out say what or how she feels
To add on top, she is moving in with her boyfriend soon. I barely know anything about the guy, met him once but he seems chill. But i feel very uncomfortable to spend so much time with her once they live together. It's not just my personal feeling for her but I think there should be a boundary. I am fine with being friends but I can't help but starting to feel like being used as a chat bot
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I think u need to sit down and have direct talk to her. She probably finds u closed too
That would be odd because i am not that closed. I have regularly told her I had fun or valued something. I literally told her I enjoy her presence.
I had nothing in return but weird memes or stickers.
If I open up more I am pretty sure i ruin the friendship by basically screaming out i might have feelings for her. Which is not fair to expect of me since she has a boyfriend and i have no intention to get in between.
How old are u both why do u like her if she barely talks to u
She is 24, i am 28 (Not sure why it says 30-35 at the top)
I like her because she does talk to me on discord and whatsapp and i like that person. But as soon as we meet in person, she closes off to the point where I wonder if we are even friends.
To put in context, on average we are on voice chat for 20 hours a week. Excluding texting. She initiates at least 60% of this
Sit down and talk
move on