Why can’t my friend ask me if I’m able to talk instead of her saying “I will call in 30mins” as if I’m always available?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Write her a text and say something like. I consider you my friend, however the text messages telling me you are doing laundry or shopping. i don't feel these are text that need a reply. Please also understand that I can not respond to all of your messages, especially right away as it puts me at risk of losing my job if I am caught on my phone during work hours.

When it comes to her saying she will call in 30 minutes. Next time she does this. Say I'm really sorry but I won't be available to answer the call as I have to do this or that. Can I call you in a few days when I have some free time.

[jennifer_bloom]

Some people are too busy with heir own issues to understand that others have the same intensity and degree of struggle that they themselves have, and some lack the emotional skills to appreciate that others have the same issues as them.

[Asker]

Yeah I know at least she could ask if I’m free for that time so it doesn’t seem as cheeky

[boggboss]

Because its somthing she always does and u are always clearly avaliable otherwise u would have already said somthing u let it become normal

[Asker]

No I always tell her I’m busy but I feel anxious when I she’s sent a text every morning. I haven’t messaged her since Sunday

[boggboss]

So instead of addressing the issue u are ignoring her at this point why not just end the friendship

[Asker]

I know but she tends to message just too many times I work at Mail company and I can’t be on my phone for 8 hours a day

[boggboss]

Why are u telling me this when u should be telling her

[Asker]

I did but she still does it

[boggboss]

Then u need to learn to ser and stick to firm boundaries

[Anonymous]

Just don't ever be available 30 minutes later, let her call and call.

[Asker]

I’ve always had trouble telling people no because I feel like I sound rude. I miss the days when there was no social media