Yes. It's fun. It's certainly better than being unpopular.
I got on well in my grammar school that went from 1st through 8th grade. I was fairly looked up to and always had friends.
By high school, I had started learning how to surf. I was also a pretty good guitarist by then. I started playing in three man rock bands with drums, bass, and me on guitar and vocals. I became a good lead guitarist. So I was popular with the more rebellious crowd of surfers, hippies, rockers and partiers. My band played at parties and I became known by people from other schools, too. Girls liked me.
So that was fun.
I got along with coworkers and superiors at jobs.
I was handed a great job when I was 26 and got along well with my coworkers and people I met in the field. I made a few good friends.
A few years after I got married, my wife and I moved to northern California in 2000 and then to our own home in 2002. We didn't know any people in the area so we decided to try attending a nondenominational Unitarian Universalist congregation to meet people. There I met some of brightest, best informed people I had ever known and they came to like and respect me for some reason.
I started up what was called a Green Sanctuary Committee and we worked hard to become accredited by the Unitarian Universalist Association as a Green Sanctuary Congregation. I also started organizing music. And I wrote and delivered a few Earth Day sermons. My wife and I did lots of other stuff there, became very popular and made some great friends.
At the same time, one lady talked me into joining the local Environmental Nonprofit that she had started a couple years earlier. It was a good nonprofit. Not a bunch of activist idiots protesting against this or that.
I wound up being voted Chairman of the Board. We put on large events with guest speakers and films to educate people on how to compost, recycle, create gardens, eat healthy, care for the Earth, and stuff like that. We made friends with and promoted local organic farmers and ranchers, and we got farmers markets started. Lots of stuff.
For the first time in my life, I had to stand in front of large audiences and speak.
I started a rock band and got to know some great musicians, too.
Through these things, I became known and respected by lots of people in the two, side by side, small towns of about 17,000 combined population. It was a new experience for me to meet people I knew every time I went into town.
Before we moved here, I had lived in a suburban part of Los Angeles County. I basically knew people from school and then work. Even though there were thousands of people in the area, I rarely met anyone I knew when I was out and about.
I retired from the nonprofit in 2011. And my wife and I quite the UU congregation in about 2018 when new members, latte liberal Democrats from the Bay area, and a new minister started taking it in a "woke" direction.
By then I had developed a large Facebook "friend" list, a few dozen of whom are incredibly bright and informed people from around the world and include ethical, unbiased, incorruptible independent journalists, researchers, academics and authors who post amazing information. I don't hold a candle to them, but I do have knowledge and we exchange messages on occasion. I'm happy to be part of a group of thinkers as opposed to being an average, unaware corporate media consumer. . I never had a craving to be well known or super popular. But it is nice to have friends, to be liked, acknowledged and respected, and to not to be irrelevant and invisible in the sea of humanity.
I just want a wife and maybe a couple of friends to hang out with. Any more than that and it feels like a chore. I just don't have time for any more people.
Yeah exactly, i much prefer that. You get deeper friendships that way, and you get to spend most of your time on hobbies and interests while with friends.
Yeah that makes sense, honestly I think popular in a more wholesome way would be nice. Like being popular for being well mannered so people like you for it.
Being popular is never a goal. Being likable is a good thing.
People who show themselves friendly, and are open normally are the ones that everyone likes, and because people like them, they are seen as popular.
Whereas those who focus on popularity alone can be seen as someone not to be around. People see them and wonder who they are sleeping with. This is but one instance of what someone thinks when you are popular. People also wonder who you paid, among many other things
Being popular is not always that great of a thing. Having a good reputation is much better, and it will win you the right friends!!!
The three options don't answer it for me , I think its fine to be popular and likeable so long as you are doing so as yourself , it needs to be real and it needs to be you , now if you are doing this I don't think the final outcome is that important , that's how you get characters formed like on the movie " Mean girls " , need to be real , plus seeking popularity if not being " real " will always end badly , very badly , eventually.
Sure i like to think im a likeable person myself but just not at the cost of my own integrity you know? like i won't jump through hoops just to make everyone happy. and i don't wanna be popular just for popularity's sake either. like if i did something and a byproduct of me doing said thing is i achieve popularity then thats cool to me.
So ill give you a mixed answer on that. its ok to want both but for the right reasons or the right way.
I am fairly well known in my small community. People, who I don't know, greet me by name but it is not a matter of being liked. It is more that I have done work for the community and I am willing to help people where I can. Most of the time that is giving advice on apartment building stuff. My goal is a well run building; not to be popular.
All I care about is that I am happy with myself. Others pick up on that, and you can make true friends that will be with you through think and thin. If you are just popular, then as soon as you lose that popularity status they will leave you in droves. Hence the term 15 minutes of fame.
I don't care if people like me or not. I am who I am. As for being popular... I could care less. I want to walk in the shadows. To pass by those who seek what is of this world. I want to disappear in the minds and sight of others. To be left alone with my thoughts and heart. I seek nothing from anyone. I seek nothing for my birthday or for a holiday. I want nothing from anyone. I don't need anything.
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