On a 1-10 scale how devastating is finding out you're infertile?

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Some people (both men and women) suffer from that. Give it a rating. On a 1-10 how devastated would you say is finding out you'll never be able to father or carry and give birth to your own child.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

0. When I was told that I was infertile/couldn’t have kids, I was over the moon! I felt very lucky, pregnancy wasn’t something that I had to fear! But as many women find out the hard way after being told they’re infertile, doctors don’t really know what they’re talking about. I’ve met so many women who ended up having a bunch of kids after being told they couldn’t have any. And I myself am currently pregnant after 9 years of infertility. Guess my luck ran out.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I already have 4 kids. I was diagnosed with infertility in the past but obviously they were wrong about it

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

I never really had the dad gene in me, but it did cost me a few relationships because my partners did want to have kids.
So I stayed single quite a bit and I was fine.
I did date some women that had kids but had their tunes tied so that was fine.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I guess it would suck big time, but I would not feel devastated at all...

there would be few options available, and also... being a true parent, is not always just a biological thing... you can still very much be a parent and a father without

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

1 I don't want kids. I'd be thrilled.

wolfcat87 · Answer

I thought I was infertile before I had kids, and kids were what I wanted most in life. So, it would have been 10 out of 10 personally.

Now, if I were infertile it would be fine because I have kids. Maybe a little sad, but not bad.

I've known people who kind of wanted kids but just never had any. They said it was a little sad but not a big deal.

It's great for people who don't want kids.

But, my dad was told he was infertile due to diabetes before he got my mom pregnant with me. He spent the next 10 years trying to get his wife pregnant with no luck. So, she left him. So, it's not always a guarantee that someone won't have kids. Flukes happen.

Anonymous · Answer

It hasn't happened to me so it's hard to say. I was never a person who "had" to have kids. My view was always, "if it happens, it happens." I'd have been fine if my wife didn't want to have kids. But she did, and I'm glad I have them now.

What surprised me more is how fertile we ended up being in the sense that both times when we went off b. c., she was pregnant within a month. I guess previously I'd thought that while pregnancy certainly CAN happen if you're not being safe, it's still relatively unlikely. Holy shit is THAT not true! lol!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have never had children because the two partners who occupied most of my adult life had previously had hysterectomies. At age 68, it would be insane and horribly unfair to the child to get my partner pregnant, but I don't worry about that because she is 60 years old.

I have no idea how I would have felt if I had been told that when I was younger.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I had an e-mail the other week to say I'm infertile. I was happy. Then again I had had a vasectomy a couple of months ago, I've had 2 kids, that's enough.
I was a late bloomer. Having gotten to 35 without having had a relationship i had all but given up hope of having kids. If i had been told at that point that I couldn't I'm not entirely sure how I would have felt.

slatyb · Answer

That depends on how much one desires to have children. For some people, it's probably a relief.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, if it happened now after having four kids it wouldn't be that big of a deal. I actually wasn't planning on becoming a father when my ex got pregnant with our first, so I'm not sure how bothered I wouldhave been at that time either.

Andres77 · Answer

Woohoo! Look at the money I’ll save on condoms!

Joshydavid25 · Answer

7-8.. I would very sad.. But I don't think I would be devastated.. But man that would suck cause I do want children of my own one day..

Sonorous · Answer

0 I'd be so happy. So long as my testosterone wouldn't also be messed with ofc.

loveslongnails · Answer

I only WISH that would have been the case! It's like getting a free vasectomy. I never wanted to have kids anyway, so I wouldn't have partnered with a woman who did.

syncheart · Answer

It wouldn't bother me, I can't seem to land a girl, even if my life depended on it! No sense in even thinking about having kids.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Why isn't there an "i'd prefer that" option? I don't want any kids.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I haven't experienced it but that sounds kinda shitty

LiamJHayden · Answer

Since I will likely never marry it does not bother me. If I decide I want an heir with my name I can always adopt.

Mangospacho · Answer

I’m pretty traumatized. I wanted 10 children but now I can only have 4.

KonkeyDong · Answer

It would be a pity, but it's not something I look in longing for.

OddBeMe · Answer

Me, mild if not uninterested since I’m not having any.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably a 1. Maybe even a.5

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

ID BE ESTATIC

Hobdobo · Answer

i think i would end myself

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