Should I Go to My Highschool Reunion?

[myabe123]

I am somewhat successful in my career but really had no thought on going... Short story my life was ruined by this girl named Grace and I'm scared she will be there. It wasn't until my boyfriend kept pushing that I go... like why bring up the trauma? Do I really need to prove myself to a bunch of strangers? Like maybe the 20th reunion I'd feel more comfortable.

[Oliverlogan263]

I dunno, high school reunions always seem kinda lame to me. Like why do you really need to see all those people again? Most of them you probably won't even remember. And if that Grace girl is gonna be there, I definitely wouldn't want to deal with that drama. Who needs that stress? Seems like your boyfriend just wants you to go for his own reasons, not really thinking how it could mess with your head being around all those people again. Don't think you gotta prove yourself. You're doing good now, who cares what anyone from back then thinks? I'd say just enjoy your success without them. Maybe in a few more years if you feel like it, but no point forcing it now. Tell your man he can go without you if he wants, but you don't gotta put yourself through that.

[Pudsmucker]

How's the geek/nerd in my high school. I was constantly picked on and poked fun of well in high school. I didn't attend my 10th high school reunion, I am glad I didn't. I also was in Europe at the time by high School reunion was going on and my 10th year reunion. I did attend my 20th year reunion. Nobody knew who I was nobody remembered me, except for those that I did hang out with. As evening went on I found that nobody changed they did poke fun at people that they new. Most popular people were alcoholics. One couldn't stay upright on the bar stool. I thought it was hilarious to see the popular people doing hadn't changed.

[Simslover92]

I didn't go to mines. I might go to my 20th when I know I'll be doing way better but all in all I don't think you should go if you don't feel up to going.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. It doesn't sound like you're ready. Even if you've grown tremendously from high school it sounds like you're still affected by it mentally.

You don't have anything to prove. Just like you didn't have anything to prove back then. So why go see them? I keep in touch with my friends from high school still. So I have no reason to go back and see the rest. But I'm not you. You might be a much more social person than me. In that case maybe it would be good for you to go back. But if you do go back just remember you're NOT the same person that left that school. This person cannot take anything from you that you don't allow her to.

[abc3643]

I missed out on my tenth. Frankly, I was in graduate school and just got "laid-off" meaning they took away my funding. While I was happily in love, otherwise, my life was in bad shape.

I did go to my 20th and had a lot of fun. It was just before I got married and 9/11. I was very happy I went.

I did not get a chance to go to my 30th. And my 40th really never happened; besides I lived 1200 miles away.

[abc3643]

You wrote:
"I agree, I already know how everyone is living based off of social media..."

This is true!
With Facebook, I feel it's like a high school reunion and then some.
I predicted this several years ago: Because of Facebook and other social media, there will not be that post-high-school separation helping people propel themselves into adulthood. That disconnect from high school forces you to grow up as you have to move on in life whether it be college or a new job. In this way, you make new friends and have new experiences and learn new ideas from new people. With social media, for young people such as yourself, high school doesn't end as fast. Sure, school ends, but the bonds take much longer to drift away - if at all.

[ArrowheadSW]

Do you know anyone who is on the committee setting up the reunion? Maybe you can check to see if "Grace" has signed up to be there. I can see your point in avoiding her. And don't worry about having to prove yourself. I found that most people aren't really into that at reunions. Just my personal observation.

[Friendlybro79]

You don't need to go to prove anything to anyone. Go because you want to see people you miss. If you don't miss anyone why go

[myabe123]

100 agreed

[RavVid]

This sounding like Romi and Michele's Reunion. :)

If there are some folk you'd like to see go and focus on them not Grace. If there isn't anybody, don't go.

[Surely]

I have went to all of mine. Now I even organize them. People criticize me for not doing the reunion up to their expectations. When I tell them to do the next one. Then mine is just wonderful!
There still are the clicks, but for the most part they stay civil. You don’t need to talk or associate with anyone you don’t want to.
Totally up to you.

[Alex8736]

You should because the people who were the popular crowd and/or someone you might have had a crush on will have you saying to yourself "what the hell was I thinking " when you see them for the first time in 10 years 😇

[slatyb]

You don't have to go. Why are you scared of Grace? What could she do now? if there are people you would like to see again, then go. If not, then do something else.

[myabe123]

There are some people I would like to see... but grace was giving my snapchat out to men in highschool a few yearsago saying I was easy. just a hard time and too fresh

[slatyb]

Don't you find that rather sad now? She was jealous of your success. If you want to reconnect with friends, go and don't worry about Grace.

[myabe123]

I do... she's just about the shittiest writer I've ever seen in my life. But it's all too fresh I think one guy was messaging me about one year ago, had a beautiful girlfriend, asked my to come to his dump of a house and sleep with him... I kind of went off on him. I'm hyperventilating just thinking about it.

[Bricealan]

Well go. I went back for my 10 year reunion and killed all of the thugs that bullied me in High School... Just got out of State Penitentiary though... but well... LOLO

[ChicoFromThe305]

Unless they got that time capsule thing, I don't see a reason to go.

[AydenHazor]

If you're anxious about it and worried about reliving trauma, stay home. There is no need to put yourself through that

[jahaims]

I don't understand the point of high school reunions

[dolemite58]

no high school is meaningless, i only keep in touch with a handful of people i went to high school with

[exitseven]

If you do not have anyone that you really would like to see again, I do not see the point. I never went to any of mine.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why do you still allow this girl to have power over your life?

[Bklynbadboy12]

You should go and blow there minds your not that girl anymore now your a woman and there isn't mush you can't handle. Just out of curiosity how did she ruin your life

[myabe123]

She got in a fight with me over a lad that is now a crystal meth addict. Then in college told every dude that peaked in high school I would sleep with them.

[Bklynbadboy12]

She's a real bitch but look at you now so you got the last

[Alex-Snow]

It is ur choice... it could be fun to reconnect with those that you got along with. Ignore the bitch if she is there

[Hulk30]

it all depends on what ya wanna do and im really sorry about your experience peace and blessins

[FenixG45]

I would go if there were people I wanted to re-connect with.

[Iron_Man]

You should go you’ll regret it

[myabe123]

why?

[Iron_Man]

Because it’s special I went to my brothers both of us

[BLP11520]

Don’t go

[myabe123]

I agree, I already know how everyone is living based off of social media...

[BLP11520]

Reunions seem to always be disappointing

[justabuddy]

I never went to mine.

[Gent207-2]

Don't go

[Anonymous]

Lol go n learn to ignore negative people

[Joker_]

you should

[eagle1951]

sure