I Have no desire to attend my High School Reunion , Anyone else feel this way?

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My 25 year High School Reunion is coming up and I have no desire to go what so ever , let alone I haven’t been to any of them , My friends from High School that I still kept in touch with through the years are trying to get me to go and I tell them No , not interested , Am I wrong for being that way? , I just have no interest in it what so ever , I don’t care to see people that really haven’t been part of my life and honestly I probably don’t remember most of them. Anyone else feel this way?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My elementary school classmates organized a reunion when we all graduated from high school, and THAT was fun. I mean, the last time I saw those people, we were in pigtails, boys had cooties, and we wanted to grow up to be superheroes. Everyone looked so different for obvious reasons, and it was great hearing what everyone was doing and where they were all going for college.

Contrast that with my high school reunions where I went to an academically super competitive school where success was 'the only thing that mattered.' I loved my friend group, am still life long friends with that group, but outside of that, it was exhausting that everything was about being better than everyone else. I had no desire to go to those reunions and catch up with those people. I know most of them became doctors (we went to a medical HS), got married, and had the 2.5 kids and the white picket fence and I don't need them bragging to me about it for 3 hours. Plus one of the committee members became a raging racist when she left, and everyone knew about it, so the committee had a huge very public online fight with her, and it turned off a lot of people from coming, and then she quit, and only about 25 people out of 300 graduating members, actually showed up to the last one. Yikes!

TsundereMatrix · Accepted Answer

I was supposed to have my 10 year high school reunion this summer but we might push it to next year because of Covid. I didn’t really want to go either as I have moved away for work while my graduating class is all in the same proximity as each other. I had been sexually harassed by a classmate who passed away a few years ago and they want to have the reunion in his memory as they were all friends with him. I wasn’t friends with him at all and because of what happened between him and I, I’m kind of numb to that decision.

MarkRet · Accepted Answer

I understand how you feel about it. I was like that for a long time. In high school, I was very withdrawn, had few friends, got bullied around some, and didn’t do anything, other than show up, take tests, and move on to the next grade. Those were miserable years. After graduation, I never wanted to see any of those people again.

A few years ago, my attitude had started to change. I had done a lot of growing up after high school, and had become a much more confident and positive person. On the classmates. com website, I had gotten in touch with a guy I graduated with. He had moved to Florida a few months after graduation (our high school was near Pittsburgh Pa), and we email.

Our 45th reunion was two years ago, and I would have gone, but I was recovering from back surgery at the time, and didn’t think I’d be comfortable taking the trip across the state. Maybe the 50th will work. There were 945 in my graduating class, and most of them I’d never even talked to. I’m ready to start over with them, and I’m not holding grudges on anyone who gave me shit in the past. I’m a different person now, and I’m sure everyone else has changed too. A reunion could heal some old wounds for me, and might even be fun.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

My 40th Reunion is coming up.

I had missed my 10th partly because I didn't want to go because I was a poor graduate student in college who just lost funding.

I did go to my 20th shortly before I got married.

I never knew of a 25th or 30th.

I will not be attending my 40th because...
1. I live over 1000 miles from where I grew up.
2. I just don't want to see people as they are now - including me, I avoid mirrors - so I want to remember them as they were, and I don't want them to see me now.
3. I have a high school reunion every day on Facebook. For someone my age, Facebook enabled getting in touch with people you hadn't seen in decades.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I couldnt stand the females in HS. So i def ain't tryna see their asses. As for the dudes, im not tryna rekindle anything with them and they definitely still try to get at me when i see them at stores. So no im not going to the HS reunion to see a bunch of hoes i wanna avoid

Starrisunset · Answer

My 10 year reunion is coming up in a couple of months and I feel the same way as you. I was quiet in high school and only had a couple of friends. I barely even talked to anyone else. The friend that I've kept in touch with I see on a regular basis anyways. I can imagine even if I went I'd be hanging out with him all night anyhow. I don't really see the point of going to see people who I barely even associated with the entire time I was in school.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't like my high school years. I was the shy and quiet kid, not really popular. I came out of my shell in college and really shined. Those years were my Golden years. High school sucked for me. It wasn't that memorable, other than some events. But I was awkward and sheltered and had shitty self esteem. We had our 10 year reunion a few years ago and I didn't go. I could just imagine the conversations going "why didn't we talk in high school?" And it'd just be another successful popularity contest.

btbc92 · Answer

It is not about the reunion. YOUR friends desire to hang out with YOU. You do not have to go there for other people. I never went that myself, didn't even know they had one. Do you think I am going to continue to hold onto to my past? No. Some people from there I kept in touch and many of them have changed as people. Be it good or bad. You don't have to go, but don't attack your friends either. Don't be selfish. Because if you like that and want to be alone, you are entitled to it, but then you may lose your friends. Again, you do not have to go for them. Hang out with your friends. Don't waste your time with others who may not want to get to know you all over again. I went to the wrong school. but in the end, I still made some great friends.

dustybiker · Answer

I felt the same. Never liked school it was so different from the UK school system my family had moved from, and so far behind. I had friends, but no desire to keep in touch. All my best friends were around home. Best thing I ever did was buy a personal computer back then. Learned far more on that then the repetitive American education. So yeah.. lol. Zero interest on a reunion either.

MORPHEUS_12 · Answer

Ditto. Never went. Plus when our 25th came around I think every bit of 12 people showed up at a country club for light snacks. Our school didn't do anything to help notify people, they were of no help.

drakethibault1 · Answer

I was an average back in HS. I went to couple of them, found out that all of them, even popular kids, are trash. They all are obesed, have a job they hate and unhappy in their personal lives, few of them died already, and it is been only 7-8 years since my graduation. You can go there to look up, but you don't have to stay there all night long.

SaoirseS · Answer

My high school tried to have a 5 year reunion, but they didn’t get enough interest so it didn’t happen. I enjoyed my school years, and have kept up (or at least in touch) with quite a few of my high school graduating class. I’m not interested in a formal reunion, not now anyway.

cloudspy · Answer

Yes, I really feel this way too. Absolutely no desire whatsoever. I think a lot of people feel the same.

Some people from my school set one up a few years ago, invited over 100 people they found on Facebook from our year. Loads did accept the invitation.

She then posted pictures of the actual reunion night, from the whole year about about 20 people turned up, if that.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Everyone I went to high school with is a stay at home mom by desire, that was their life goal. Literally everyone apart from 2 people who I'm still friends with. I don't wanna be around that depressing lot.

matchrestore · Answer

I'm 15 years out of high school, and so far I've skipped all three of the reunions my class has planned. I have no desire to go to a reunion. I've got a few friends I keep in touch with, but we can do that without being surrounded by the rest of the people we didn't really ever care about anyways.

Novacane · Answer

No, you have all right to not go, If you didn't have a good time in HS it makes sense that you don't want to go back. I wouldn't want to go to my HS reunion but I would be down for a middle school reunion. Since I had more fun there and would like to see how everyone there is doing since we did go out opposite ways when we left for HS.

Shortman70 · Answer

I also feel that way. Didn't like them then and my feelings haven't changed. The only one I liked I married. She drags me along for some of the gatherings but she lets me avoid most of them. I'm not into the drama and the games BS they all still play.

Subarugirl · Answer

Fuck no, I’ll never go to one of my high school reunions

exitseven · Answer

I have been out of high school for almost 35 years. I never went to any of the reunions. They stopped sending me invitations years ago.
I didn't have any friends while I was there and do not have many good memories. I just don't see the point except maybe laugh at how fat some of the jocks and snotty girls got.

misterCage4 · Answer

You don't have to. I didn't go to any reunions as almost all my classmates back then were dicks to me and I was clear about it to them that they're not worth my time. I didn't even go to prom. Waste of time to be with people like that. Also I haven't heard of school reunions happening at your age (43).

FictionalCharacter · Answer

I dropped out of high school in senior year, my second semester. So I ain’t worried 😅

Zantagio1 · Answer

Yeah, I don't understand high school reunions, its not like you're gonna just be friends with these people you don't know anymore after leaving that place.

Even if you were best of friends back in the day you're pretty much complete strangers by the time of highschool reunions

Relux47 · Answer

I don’t blame you at all for not wanting to go at all. I can count how many good memories I had in high school on one hand. After I graduated I did decide to visit because of this one kid that I was cool with and I happened to see one of my old teachers

MTC29 · Answer

I went to my 10 year reunion, and none of the others. My HS class has its own Facebook page- which I've looked at once. I still keep in touch with my actual high school friends, most of whom were on my baseball team.

SassySinner · Answer

No you’re not wrong for not wanting to go, those usually aren’t all that fun anyways and I agree they just aren’t for you reading that you haven’t attended any of the others.

ColoradoKid · Answer

My high school was filled with fake people to the most part. There was a handful that were real people. We never had daddies money. If we went somewhere we either walked or rode a bike. I could care less about what they are doing.

chriscdi · Answer

I wouldn't wanna go either, shit sounds like it's gonna be a terrible and boring time

Fuentes · Answer

It's your choice i went to like 4 diff highschools cause i was introuble a lot lol so at least you got one where people wanna see you

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. It's strange anyway if we haven't been friends as a whole class, just some groups were there. Maybe better these people meet up once in a while, who were in these groups. For the rest, it's meaningless.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Mine was five years ago.  I hated my school and all the girls there so I wouldn’t go either if there was a reunion

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I haven't been to one, yet!! About the ONLY reason I'd WANT to go is to see a girl I was madly in love with back then but, chances are extremely good that she wouldn't even show up!!

bolverk · Answer

That would be Secondary School In the UK, those kind of reunions is not a thing over here. I have no friends from my school days, we scatter so much its not worth trying to reassemble for one night.

emilym12345 · Answer

Sad story Janis Joplin went to her highschool reunion wanting to be adored by her peers after she was famous! She ended up overdosing a day or two after, joining the 27 club. RIP

siseñor · Answer

i don't want old people to see the person i've become honestly

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. I chat to some friends from school, the rest can burn.

Anonymous · Answer

hell no I hated school  if I would have known the earth is flat with a dome from the start I would have dropped out  this is the real world

rcljr · Answer

My 30th reunion just happened in May, and I didn’t go to it just like I didn’t go to any of the others.

t-8900 · Answer

That's like asking va prisoner if hec wants to go back to jail. Hell no!

noohair · Answer

If any of those people were your friends, you would already be in touch. The only reason to go is to see an old flame. But if you are married or involved, pass.

douride2 · Answer

I have no desire to ever go back to any type of high school reunion.

Wester1967 · Answer

Never going. If they want to visit me, they can come over.

loveslongnails · Answer

I went to a couple and that was enough. The people I didn't like in HS I still didn't like at the reunion. LOL

Andres77 · Answer

I'm waiting for my 40th just to see who's still alive. And for the free food.

OddBeMe · Answer

The HS friends I care about I’m still in contact with. Everyone else, fck off.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No need to go. You probably won't recognize those people at all neither they you. Total strangers desiring to know other people's business.

Archerer · Answer

Wtf, is that a thing? I never cared… I didn’t go for our 10, didn’t know there were others…

Assi2k · Answer

Just go for the food

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Nope nothing wrong. I'm glad I cut off contact with my highschool mates

EnglishEuropean · Answer

If I ever see anyone from school again it ill be too soon. I have seen a few though.

Pterodon · Answer

I never have. I never went to prom either. I hated school

anon1903 · Answer

I loved school. I'd still not head back.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

I wouldn’t either I’m antisocial

Anonymous · Answer

I've been to college reunions but never a high school one.

Papabubbles · Answer

Im 48 and never attended one, fu kers didn't like me than...

Asianguy123 · Answer

High school or middle school union I don't mind but elementary school reunion I don't want.

Anonymous · Answer

i didn't go to my reunions so far, and I actually regret it

Sketti2021 · Answer

I hated school so heck no I wasn't going lmao

Hangry06 · Answer

I wouldn't do it either

TacosRAwesome · Answer

No not wrong.

Wise4myage · Answer

That's fine, lots of people don't go to reunions.

ChiPaPa · Answer

Same. I'm not going to bother. No point.

m33lad · Answer

Canadians don’t attend nothing. LoL

Agape93 · Answer

You're not alone

Slim57 · Answer

Same here my 10 year is coming up

I Have no desire to attend my High School Reunion , Anyone else feel this way?

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