I Have no desire to attend my High School Reunion , Anyone else feel this way?

[Finchie40]

My 25 year High School Reunion is coming up and I have no desire to go what so ever , let alone I haven’t been to any of them , My friends from High School that I still kept in touch with through the years are trying to get me to go and I tell them No , not interested , Am I wrong for being that way? , I just have no interest in it what so ever , I don’t care to see people that really haven’t been part of my life and honestly I probably don’t remember most of them. Anyone else feel this way?

[MarkRet]

I understand how you feel about it. I was like that for a long time. In high school, I was very withdrawn, had few friends, got bullied around some, and didn’t do anything, other than show up, take tests, and move on to the next grade. Those were miserable years. After graduation, I never wanted to see any of those people again.

A few years ago, my attitude had started to change. I had done a lot of growing up after high school, and had become a much more confident and positive person. On the classmates. com website, I had gotten in touch with a guy I graduated with. He had moved to Florida a few months after graduation (our high school was near Pittsburgh Pa), and we email.

Our 45th reunion was two years ago, and I would have gone, but I was recovering from back surgery at the time, and didn’t think I’d be comfortable taking the trip across the state. Maybe the 50th will work. There were 945 in my graduating class, and most of them I’d never even talked to. I’m ready to start over with them, and I’m not holding grudges on anyone who gave me shit in the past. I’m a different person now, and I’m sure everyone else has changed too. A reunion could heal some old wounds for me, and might even be fun.

[Anonymous]

My elementary school classmates organized a reunion when we all graduated from high school, and THAT was fun. I mean, the last time I saw those people, we were in pigtails, boys had cooties, and we wanted to grow up to be superheroes. Everyone looked so different for obvious reasons, and it was great hearing what everyone was doing and where they were all going for college.

Contrast that with my high school reunions where I went to an academically super competitive school where success was 'the only thing that mattered.' I loved my friend group, am still life long friends with that group, but outside of that, it was exhausting that everything was about being better than everyone else. I had no desire to go to those reunions and catch up with those people. I know most of them became doctors (we went to a medical HS), got married, and had the 2.5 kids and the white picket fence and I don't need them bragging to me about it for 3 hours. Plus one of the committee members became a raging racist when she left, and everyone knew about it, so the committee had a huge very public online fight with her, and it turned off a lot of people from coming, and then she quit, and only about 25 people out of 300 graduating members, actually showed up to the last one. Yikes!

[TsundereMatrix]

I was supposed to have my 10 year high school reunion this summer but we might push it to next year because of Covid. I didn’t really want to go either as I have moved away for work while my graduating class is all in the same proximity as each other. I had been sexually harassed by a classmate who passed away a few years ago and they want to have the reunion in his memory as they were all friends with him. I wasn’t friends with him at all and because of what happened between him and I, I’m kind of numb to that decision.

[abc3643]

My 40th Reunion is coming up.

I had missed my 10th partly because I didn't want to go because I was a poor graduate student in college who just lost funding.

I did go to my 20th shortly before I got married.

I never knew of a 25th or 30th.

I will not be attending my 40th because...
1. I live over 1000 miles from where I grew up.
2. I just don't want to see people as they are now - including me, I avoid mirrors - so I want to remember them as they were, and I don't want them to see me now.
3. I have a high school reunion every day on Facebook. For someone my age, Facebook enabled getting in touch with people you hadn't seen in decades.

[DizzyDesii]

I couldnt stand the females in HS. So i def ain't tryna see their asses. As for the dudes, im not tryna rekindle anything with them and they definitely still try to get at me when i see them at stores. So no im not going to the HS reunion to see a bunch of hoes i wanna avoid

[t-8900]

That's why I live out of state lmao

[DizzyDesii]

@t-8900 lmao im on my way out too

[t-8900]

I don't blame you. Who wants to stay in the same place their whole life anyways?

[DizzyDesii]

@t-8900 i honestly want to stay here forever. But i gotta move away at least 2 years to make better pay then i’d come back

[t-8900]

Ah well I grew up in Delaware so fuck that lol. Id move to Miami but it's going underwater so that's one city I'll never see. Damn global warming

[DizzyDesii]

@t-8900 miami is better for tourists. I dont see it as ideal to live in

[t-8900]

Ya I wanted to deal with tourists in hospitality among local business elites running ba swanky luxury hotel lol.

[Finchie40]

I am with ya , I don’t even live there anymore and I haven’t for a long time , for me to waste time and money to travel to something I have no desire to attend is just pure waste to me , I didn’t really hate anyone from school , annoyed by some but never hated lol just they don’t really mean anything to me so I have no desire to attend , not worth it to me , my high school was filled with a bunch of snooty kids that acted like their shit don’t stink , I don’t want to sit around hearing stories of constant bullshit and what they did with their lives , i would get completely drunk and just tell everyone just to shit the fuck up and be angry , so. I am not putting myself in that drama lol I told my friends that are attending that matter to me to ditch the reunion and come party with me instead and we will have are own reunion lol

[Starrisunset]

My 10 year reunion is coming up in a couple of months and I feel the same way as you. I was quiet in high school and only had a couple of friends. I barely even talked to anyone else. The friend that I've kept in touch with I see on a regular basis anyways. I can imagine even if I went I'd be hanging out with him all night anyhow. I don't really see the point of going to see people who I barely even associated with the entire time I was in school.

[Finchie40]

I feel the same way, I just see no point in it really and it’s just not my thing , I am not knocking anyone that chooses to go that’s their choice but as far as my choice I have no desire what so ever , the only people from high school that matter to me are my friends that stayed in touch with me through the years , I would gladly have a get together with them anytime but for the people that weren’t really a part of my life nope not interested, on top of that I don’t even live in that area anymore, I haven’t for a long time , so I am not going to travel and waste money to see people I don’t really give 2 shits about lol , if they really wanted to talk to me there is a thing called the internet that everyone uses pretty much nowadays so I am choosing not to go , waste of time is how I look at it

[Starrisunset]

I don't blame you. I don't blame anyone who chooses to go either. Some people are just really into it but I'd just feel out of place and honestly a bit awkward if I went.

[Anonymous]

I didn't like my high school years. I was the shy and quiet kid, not really popular. I came out of my shell in college and really shined. Those years were my Golden years. High school sucked for me. It wasn't that memorable, other than some events. But I was awkward and sheltered and had shitty self esteem. We had our 10 year reunion a few years ago and I didn't go. I could just imagine the conversations going "why didn't we talk in high school?" And it'd just be another successful popularity contest.

[btbc92]

It is not about the reunion. YOUR friends desire to hang out with YOU. You do not have to go there for other people. I never went that myself, didn't even know they had one. Do you think I am going to continue to hold onto to my past? No. Some people from there I kept in touch and many of them have changed as people. Be it good or bad. You don't have to go, but don't attack your friends either. Don't be selfish. Because if you like that and want to be alone, you are entitled to it, but then you may lose your friends. Again, you do not have to go for them. Hang out with your friends. Don't waste your time with others who may not want to get to know you all over again. I went to the wrong school. but in the end, I still made some great friends.

[Finchie40]

I am not bashing any of them that are going , I am just making it clear that I have no desire to go , and don’t care to see people that were my past , if they were friends then they wouldn’t be my past , plus I don’t live on that area anymore I haven’t for a long time so I am not wasting money and time to travel to see people I really don’t give 2 shits about , If they want to talk to me there is a thing called the internet that everyone pretty much uses nowadays , So my choice is I am not going , I just see no point in it

[dustybiker]

I felt the same. Never liked school it was so different from the UK school system my family had moved from, and so far behind. I had friends, but no desire to keep in touch. All my best friends were around home. Best thing I ever did was buy a personal computer back then. Learned far more on that then the repetitive American education. So yeah.. lol. Zero interest on a reunion either.

[MORPHEUS_12]

Ditto. Never went. Plus when our 25th came around I think every bit of 12 people showed up at a country club for light snacks. Our school didn't do anything to help notify people, they were of no help.

[Finchie40]

I have a feeling that’s what’s going to happen at this reunion , So I am not even wasting my time , even if it does have a nice turn out I am not going to be upset that I missed it , I don’t really care about seeing people from my past that haven’t stayed a part of my life , Just not my thing , and I am not bashing the people that do go that’s their choice , but again I have no desire , the only people that matter to me are my friends that stayed in touch , I will gladly hang out with them anytime but all those others not worth my time lol

[drakethibault1]

I was an average back in HS. I went to couple of them, found out that all of them, even popular kids, are trash. They all are obesed, have a job they hate and unhappy in their personal lives, few of them died already, and it is been only 7-8 years since my graduation. You can go there to look up, but you don't have to stay there all night long.

[SaoirseS]

My high school tried to have a 5 year reunion, but they didn’t get enough interest so it didn’t happen. I enjoyed my school years, and have kept up (or at least in touch) with quite a few of my high school graduating class. I’m not interested in a formal reunion, not now anyway.

[cloudspy]

Yes, I really feel this way too. Absolutely no desire whatsoever. I think a lot of people feel the same.

Some people from my school set one up a few years ago, invited over 100 people they found on Facebook from our year. Loads did accept the invitation.

She then posted pictures of the actual reunion night, from the whole year about about 20 people turned up, if that.

[Smashingdoozy]

Everyone I went to high school with is a stay at home mom by desire, that was their life goal. Literally everyone apart from 2 people who I'm still friends with. I don't wanna be around that depressing lot.

[matchrestore]

I'm 15 years out of high school, and so far I've skipped all three of the reunions my class has planned. I have no desire to go to a reunion. I've got a few friends I keep in touch with, but we can do that without being surrounded by the rest of the people we didn't really ever care about anyways.

[Novacane]

No, you have all right to not go, If you didn't have a good time in HS it makes sense that you don't want to go back. I wouldn't want to go to my HS reunion but I would be down for a middle school reunion. Since I had more fun there and would like to see how everyone there is doing since we did go out opposite ways when we left for HS.

[Shortman70]

I also feel that way. Didn't like them then and my feelings haven't changed. The only one I liked I married. She drags me along for some of the gatherings but she lets me avoid most of them. I'm not into the drama and the games BS they all still play.

[Subarugirl]

Fuck no, I’ll never go to one of my high school reunions

[yofuknutz]

If I was you the next high school re Union drive by with a fancy Subaru honk your horn and give them the middle finger

[Subarugirl]

@yofuknutz yeah I’ll just fly to Michigan to give my old school the finger lol

[yofuknutz]

You can always take a shit on the doorstep but there's cameras everywhere nowadays

[Subarugirl]

@yofuknutz lol yeah no thanks, I’m not gonna visit my old boarding school, no thanks

[yofuknutz]

Oh and that case no need to go there they're already full of shit anyway

[Finchie40]

LOL you sound like me , FUCK NO!!! I have no desire , I honestly thought about it for a few seconds and it keeps coming back to FUCK NO!! Lol the only people that matter were my friends that stayed in touch with me through the years , all the other ones , I don’t give 2 shits about , I don’t hate them but they mean nothing to me , There is a thing called the internet , if you want to reach out to me go right ahead but my ass isn’t traveling and wasting time and money to see people that I probably won’t even remember and to hear bullshit stories of their lives that will go in one ear out the other. The only thing I would say if I did attend is it’s nice to see you are still alive , who are you again lol

[yofuknutz]

^^^^ I go to two high schools the first one was run down by hoodrat 20 years later they still are Hoodrats the second High School I keep in touch with.

[exitseven]

I have been out of high school for almost 35 years. I never went to any of the reunions. They stopped sending me invitations years ago.
I didn't have any friends while I was there and do not have many good memories. I just don't see the point except maybe laugh at how fat some of the jocks and snotty girls got.

[misterCage4]

You don't have to. I didn't go to any reunions as almost all my classmates back then were dicks to me and I was clear about it to them that they're not worth my time. I didn't even go to prom. Waste of time to be with people like that. Also I haven't heard of school reunions happening at your age (43).

[FictionalCharacter]

I dropped out of high school in senior year, my second semester. So I ain’t worried 😅

[Zantagio1]

Yeah, I don't understand high school reunions, its not like you're gonna just be friends with these people you don't know anymore after leaving that place.

Even if you were best of friends back in the day you're pretty much complete strangers by the time of highschool reunions

[Relux47]

I don’t blame you at all for not wanting to go at all. I can count how many good memories I had in high school on one hand. After I graduated I did decide to visit because of this one kid that I was cool with and I happened to see one of my old teachers

[MTC29]

I went to my 10 year reunion, and none of the others. My HS class has its own Facebook page- which I've looked at once. I still keep in touch with my actual high school friends, most of whom were on my baseball team.