Why do people nowadays think that you dont matter in friendships unless you're the one that tries to keep in touch and maintain the friendships?

[Anonymous]

It makes me feel like I’m so desperate to be their friend, attached, clingy, worthless, unimportant. Am I too ‘different’? Why do people forget things and move on with their life so easily? I tried a lot to be a good friend to every people I met in my life

What should I do

[Altheavas]

Well I don’t know, I am called a bad friend caused I’m not clingy, I don’t call often, I don’t host parties often, I like reciprocation to be met at 50/50.


I am hard to connect, because I am not good at small talk. I don’t ask questions about every little details. I hear you, is not that I don’t care, but I don’t want to insist/accentuate on it. I may spend months without calling you. I am talkative at one point and just like that I get supper quiet.
I can’t keep friends because if you did me wrong, or act disrespectful a couple of time once or twice, I will forget that we ever connected once without telling you anything that I disappeared.
I am being told that I need to be more flexible and tolerant. How am I wrong, not reciprocating negativities, and not being clingy, and with anyone that can’t meet half way!

[Cutegirl06]

Find new friends. I've had friends like this before and I finally realized that these people are not real friends. They think that life and other people revolve around them. That's why I only have 3 friends. They are the only ones who care enough to be there when I need them and I am always there for them when they need a friend.

[Asker]

I would be glad to even have one friend. I had 2 best friends but we grew apart. They are happier with their new friends now. Seems doing fine without me

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