Funny enough I just started on here now I'm wondering if I should take a break or not?

[Anonymous]

It feels weird putting this on here but I don't know what to do. Unfortunately there was an accident my mother passed away. Out of everything like yes this sucks and it hurts a lot. I'm more worried about my sister twins but thankfully she's over here with my girlfriend and I. Personally I feel sick and I can hardly breathe. We unfortunately lost our father a couple years back and she is taking this very hard as I am I but I need to be there for her obviously. This has been a good distraction from that today.

I know it's extremely hard on her because she relied on our mom like crazy which isn't a bad thing. the issue with that is she lived with her she didn't have her own place like I do. She's staying here now I offered it and she took it. Both her and my girlfriend felt a bit better and stopped crying a while ago. I probably isn't healthy but I've been keeping it in because if I start crying they'll start crying. This is like one of the hardest things I've had to do which leads me to the main question is I don't know if I should even take a break from this cuz it's the thing that's been taking my mind off it today. I'm still shaky as hell but this has helped a lot I don't know what to do

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2 mo

After everything today I'm so exhausted I've been learned to never take a nap ever again lol kill me

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, man. Losing your mom is devastating, especially so soon after your dad too. It's good that you're trying to be strong for your sister, but don't forget to take care of yourself as well.

Grief has no timeline - allow yourself to fully feel what you're feeling, even if it means crying. Holding it in won't help in the long run. But I understand why you're using this place as a distraction right now; sometimes keeping busy is the only way to cope in the moment.

My advice would be to take breaks as needed over the next few days. Check in with your sister regularly, and encourage her to talk about memories of your mom when she's ready. Spend time with your girlfriend too - lean on each other. It's okay if you don't feel like diving deep into conversations here either.

Take things hour by hour and be gentle with yourself. Don't try to rush through the grieving process. Over time the pain will lessen, but it's a journey. For now, focus on getting through each day the best you can. Feel free to message me directly if you ever need someone to listen, even if it's just to vent. You've got this.

[Asker]

I appreciate it I definitely will encourage my sister to do that I imagine it will help her too

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure man, talking about memories of your mom is probably the best thing you guys can do right now. It'll help remember the good times and keep her spirit alive in your hearts. Make sure your sister knows it's okay for her to cry if she needs to too - don't wanna bottle it up. Maybe you could look through old photos together or watch home videos, I bet there's lots of funny stories you could share. And don't be afraid to let yourself grieve too when you're with her - seeing you be vulnerable might help her feel comfortable opening up. You're both going through the worst thing ever, so it's important you lean on each other. Just take it bit by bit, and do what feels right in the moment. We're all rooting for you guys.

[talka20]

my condolences 💔 i hope n pray that you all heal soon n be better soon

[bobalife]

Aws, I’m really sorry for your loss and sending my condolences… 🥺 it’s a really tough time, it sounds like it is best to be there for each other and it’s okay to cry and be sad.. those are your emotions and how you’re really feeling by the sudden event… of course it’s more than okay to take care of your well-being and the recent loss by not being on here or just doing what’s best for you. Sometimes, distraction is another coping skill too. But I hope you’re getting all the support you need and able to support them as well.

[Asker]

Thank you I appreciate that it's been difficult not crying just like I'm so close to breaking down but yeah I think you're right about just getting off here for now thank you again I appreciate the advice

[bobalife]

Anytime! Don’t bottle it all in, it will only hurt more or makes it harder on yourself. It’s important to find ways to release those difficult emotions. Hopefully you’ll feel courageous after this and let your sister/girlfriend/friends be there for you when you’re ready :)

[Dnice1]

I'm sorry about your loss. I will certainly keep you and your family in prayers. It's ok to cry sometimes you just need to let it out. Give yourself time to take a break and heal. Then you really take the time to lift your family up during this hard time. Check on your family and spend time together. Stay strong my friend, things will get better.