How does your own childhood impact your desire to have kids?

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Two main questions: do you want kids and how happy was your childhood? I'm curious to know if there's anybody who had a bad childhood experience and still want to have children?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I had a wonderful childhood.
I never had any interest in kids.
There are the financial obligations - furnishings, clothes, food, toys, sports, medical, school, ... And then there are the time commitments, worries and inevitable heartaches. It's a full time job.
I don't even think they are that cute.

I didn't want to dedicate my life to kids. I wanted to enjoy life myself. And I wasn't sure if I would be a good role model. I didn't want to screw up my kids.

Plus, now that I see how the country and the world have been evolving, I would want to be a kid in this day and age. So I figure that I've spared a kid or kids some misery.

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16 and they all dreamed of marriage and families. But I was in my early 30s before I started thinking of getting married and settling down with a partner for the rest of my life.

I didn't get married until I was 42. My wife is 2.5 years younger. We have been married now for almost 27 years, had a LOT of fun, and built a wonderful life together. We're both happy that we don't have kids at this point, although my wife would have made a great mommy.

V_Injector · Accepted Answer

I picked I had a bad childhood and don't want kids, but I still had them. I did better for them than my own did for me... and I have a 12-year-old autistic one that will probably be with us for life (I've already accepted it as fate).

My childhood was pretty fucking bad. Foster kid for most of it... starved while with Mom, watched her drink, smoke tons of weed, and fuck guys while collecting child support on us. Pretty abusive too. I won't go into that.

I didn't want to bring kids into this world... but I have big dick energy. It was beyond my will and the women just want it.

How does your own childhood impact your desire to have kids?

I had to get over some major emotional control issues early on. Now I'm a different beast. I don't know how to explain it. I think I know my life is done and I just do what I have to for them to get further ahead than I ever did. My life sucked... big deal... nobody gives a shit... I can't wait to just die. But until then...

I got these lesbians living next door and damn, I wanna fuck.

Account · Accepted Answer

To me it does not.
I had the best parents I could ask for and a happy childhood.
I do not want to have children of my own though.
I have never wanted to so I am almost certain that it won't change.
I would rather adopt a kid rather than give birth to one.
There are so many kids who grow up without parents and the system fails them, therefore I would prefer to adopt and raise a kid whose parents abandoned them.

Jessica405 · Accepted Answer

I had a brilliant childhood. It could not have been better.

I do not want children. Neither does my partner.

First, I have a very good career which I hope to return to after my eyesight issue is finally resolved.
Second, if my issue is not resolved and gets worse, I could end up almost blind.
Third, as I have said before, I do not want to give birth to someone who has to face death in the future.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

I had a rough childhood with my parents divorcing when I was just shy of 7. They also fought and screamed at each other for as far back as I can remember, so I learned to anticipate when they were about to fight as a little boy and pick up my sister and carry her into our room to play with her and comfort her with their screaming in the background, as it tended to scare her and make her cry otherwise.

Yet I've always wanted children of my own and to get married since as far back as I could remember. I think it's partly because I loved a lot of shows like cartoons and films as a boy where the man would fight to protect his woman and children. I thought that's the most noble thing a man could do.

I also wanted to make sure I didn't repeat my parent's failures. I learned, through them, what to avoid. Also maybe looking out for my little sister a lot placed some parental instincts in me; I learned to make up for the neglect my parents had towards my little sister as best as I could. Taking care of her and protecting her from harm became my main source of joy and my sense of meaning in life as a boy.

After she started to grow up and no longer needed me to take care of her, I think I missed having a child to look after that way along with the associated responsibilities.

razelove · Answer

I had a great childhood out in the country. It made me want to get out, I explored the world, wound up back in the same area after I got married, had 4 kids, and honestly I still want more.

Oddly enough my wife seems to think having kids is tough or something, though it's always been easy for me to make them...

boggboss · Answer

Didn't have a terrble childhood even a bad one actually but my dad was abusive and it ended up being a single parent household at first I was on the fence about having kids most likely not wanting them then I got with my partner who does and qe spoke about my worries to which I got to the point of actually being excited now to have kids with her

82lynx · Answer

The rubbish I went through really messed me up and most of my adult years were spent healing from it as much as possible. Now I just want to let my scared and badly damaged inner child out to play as much as possible. Besides, I’m asexual and find the mechanics of reproduction revolting.

Anonymous · Answer

I definitely did not have an overall happy childhood. But if I ever have kids I will do better then my parents did on many things. I will also make sure my wife is very aware of how being a bad mother can really screw up a soon more then it can screw up a daughter.

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

I had a happy and wonderful childhood. But I don't want kids💀👍✨I avoid these kind of responsibilities 😶.

MemeSupreme · Answer

my childhood was awful like a legit 0/10 yelp review i dont wanna do that to my own kid so im not having any unless im better someday like ready for it

EmmaMary · Answer

I along with my two older sisters had the most amazing and happy childhood and upbringing possible. Now we all have children of our own, which I think safely answers your question.

Peridot25 · Answer

I had a good childhood. I just don’t want the responsibility. I don’t want to be a mom for the rest of my life, or raise a child.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I had a happy enough chilhood. But it wasn't "perfect family" My two kids were and are welcome - but they were not a main target of my life arrangements.

Berethor · Answer

My childhood was pretty bad, I believe that if I have kids they can do better with my advices.

SolitarySolace · Answer

My childhood doesn't affect my desire whether or not to have children. Women affect my desire to want children or not and majority of women are selfish and greedy.

sheikalana · Answer

I barely remember my childhood but I just know one of my purposes in life is to be a mother. I love kids.

laly520 · Answer

I grew up being the only girl in family no sis or mom so having daughters would be so lovely

mj760 · Answer

Ur childhood is very important, specially the very first 7 years of your life. That's when your being programed and tells you who are you going to be for the rest of your life.

DiegoO · Answer

Crappy childhood. No, I rather don't have kids. My adulthood is not that good neither

Twalli · Answer

I had the best childhood possible and I got a vascetomy so I wouldn't be able to have kids.

ab2shifty · Answer

My childhood was interesting 🤣 but more on the bad side Im still done to have kids tho

LazerBean · Answer

I had a wonderful childhood, and I want children.

WhitneySnow · Answer

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