Does beating a kid can cause mental illness to them?

[Anonymous]

My adoptive mother used to beat me and very abusive physically and mentally. She even once called me gay because my period is late thats maybe Im not a real woman. Always calls me stupid and always badmouth me in front of other people calling me a bad kid and not a good person. I even once called a "daughter of satan" but sometimes I think she just does that because she loves me and she helps me with school through college so sometimes Im conflicted of her abuse. Her husband is always siding with her too calling me a stubborn and bad kid. So I felt unloved. As I grew up I became very introvert and I dont socialize with people Im shy because I always dont want them to think bad of me. Then I always like older men because Im searching for a father figure like a parent who always loved his child. So I always like older men. And even if Im thankful of my adoptive mother there's a part of me that hates her for treating me bad as a kid. Im also awkard and very quiet and people think I have mental illness and calls me crazy. Whats funny is my adoptive mother is the one who told everyone I have mental illness so people think Im crazy and they kinda laught at me and dont take me seriously because they think I am one.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it does. Sorry. It's also hard to change the affect it has on a person, because the way we learned to cope with it when young is very difficult to change when older (its not impossible, but it is very improbable).

Mental illness by definition is any sets of behaviour with regards to the way one thinks which causes harm to the person thinking that way or to others they think that way about. So really we are all mentally ill to some degree (as none of us are entriely perfect) so don't take it too badly.

The trick is, to take the things which make us different (and cause us issues and trauma) and to try to re-forge those things into improving ourselves.

Growing up, I used to say to myself "I will never be like my father" as he had several ways with my mother that I disliked (blaming her for stuff, instead of understanding her... relying too much on her kindness rather than looking for fault in himself). I vowed growing up (to myself) I'd not become like that, and mostly I am not at all like that... except in the ways its subtle, and what I realised is why Dad was like he was! I also realised I could be exactly like it, but in ways I couldn't see or understand.

Leading me to my final point. When we can see the ways we are affected and made to be worse people, we can often overcome those and rise above them, but the difficulty is that in some levels we still work like the people that we see their faults and those faults remain within us. Sometimes even define us to others in ways we don't see.

Use the lessons to be as little like the flaws you've experienced growing up, and just understand that your going to have some ways in which your going to fall short of what you might like to be. As long as we are trying to be our best selves always, when we fail it doesn't matter and people who love us will help us through.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Yes. Kids can be traumatized by abusive and violent parents.

[Asker]

Like they would have schizoprenia?

[NewgodOmega]

Depends on how much beating
No kids should grow up without getting beaten up that would make them weak pathetic life forms

[handsomelad70]

Yes, the the abusive a**hole parents who cause it should be held legally responsible for their child's mental woes. (And the kid should try to kill them when the lad or lass is older.)

[laly520]

yes

beating a kid is very harmful

[jahaims]

Duh.