Do people with depression drive away people who cares for them?

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Friends, family, love ones?

confusedandromantic · Accepted Answer

They can at times, yes. Reasons may include but are not limited to not wanting to pull people down with them, wanting to get through it alone, feeling like a burden if others try and help and like they’re not worthy of help (doesn’t excuse if they’re a jerk about it though but just might explain WHY they’re acting out IF they are)

LostandFound__x · Accepted Answer

Yes. I’ve done it before when I was going through depression. Show them you care for them. I wish someone had done that for me in the past.

rosemilk · Answer

yes and sometimes they don't come back because the depressive persons behavior is just too much for them to have to handle/try to fix/help depression is an awful cycle

sheenagwapa · Answer

my ex before acted like a zombie. he just acted zombie one day qnd decided not to visit me which lead on pur breakup. and he is so mad at me but i don't know what it is.

and since he is actinh strange i get paranpid too. i wpuld get paranpid he doesn't answer his phone i am imagining he killed himself, i epuld call his father to twll him what's happening to his son but i feel he doesn't believe me

i am simply on high alwrt and i am on stamdby my change clothes are readt because i will reallu raid/attack his home if he is still not texting or answering my call

he was so mad at me again he said he was not able to andwer because he went to church for mass

he is so mad at me and say horrible stuff against me to the point i have to say the things i did for him so that he would respwcr me because he is disrespecting me heavily

he would calm down when i do that. he woyld tell me i do not love him and i'm like WTF

my ex is my first boyfriend my only boyfriend and so i am not realky a pro when it comes to relationship. i am not the very girlt girl and so even holding hands i do not like iy at first. in short it was not easy for me but you know when yku love a person you do everything for the person to stat.

anyway i gave him a small book about depression and in there a checklist on how to tell you have depression he won't admit he has depression. i monitored his spotify and his choice of songs are dark

i know he has depression but everytime i brought it up he geys so mad at me. in my culture having mental issues is a taboo topiv it is a shameful thing to have but i on the other hand i do not care. i just don't.

i apologize a billion times to him. i keep monitoring him. it stop when he had a new girlfriend and it hit me that i cannot take all the matters in my own hand because mu priority is his healtj. the thing is it didn't matter to me if he has a new girlfriend. it hurts but i want him to be alive. that is really my concern. that he is alive and well

the new girlfriend is bitchy towards mw and this time my faith grew tremendously because i just had miraculous experience and so i realize i can just let go and pray for his well-being and that he is happy. i always wish him to be happy

NathanDavis · Answer

when I was a kid and early teens... I would not drive people away from me, no

but I would drive myself away from people, yes... everyone, family and friends

and it wasn't just physically but mentally and emotionally as well... while among family and friends I could sometimes just wall up even when I didn't mean to do so, I just could not bring myself to connect and bond at the moment... and isolating, distancing myself felt bad but it did not stop me from doing so, I would still do it... because "depression made me do it"

now, I worked a lot on this stuff so it is a thing from the past, but even in my late teens... I could still have some episodes and try "drive away" so, by this time and point of my life I could reach and warn people about it, let them know... or it would be them my friends and family, girlfriends to recognize it... and they would reach

if they had to go all the way to my place and get inside my room to drag me out of there... they would do exactly that, or to send a search party up to the mountains when I'd escape for vacations... lol

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I would say yes, sadly. This can also happen with anxiety disorders too. The person doesn't mean to do this, but they aren't themselves in those states, so their mood & emotions will shift (negatively that is). It's very hard to get out of the state once you're in it. So, then it's a half & half of leaving them alone and space is good but being there for them is also good type of thing. As you can tell by now it's very stressful for both people involved. I know when I had my episodes I'd think "It's a great idea to maybe talk to people." and it's like "No, no it isn't. Just stay away and let yourself go through it. Nobody can handle this but you. And we don't need any relationships ruined due to your moodiness, again." But then sometimes I be dumb and do it anyway. Then I feel more worse rather than better, even though the intent of interacting was to help me feel better.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

people with depression are afraid of being judged and rejected because they are unwell, so they create distance between themselves and other people. They also don't believe that anyone will believe them or understand how they feel.

The best help is to find them a specialist and convince them to try to talk with a specialist... The longer they have to deal with the depression without the help, the harder it would be to convince them that they need it... and that someone actually can help them...

MemeSupreme · Answer

depression, trauma, and loads of things can do that, but honestly... coming from someone who does close off people

don't be friends with us if you take it personally and it's toxic. if it's not then let us know you'll be there when we're doing better and just give us space bc we'll come back

DJB72 · Answer

Depression is a very complicated illness. It actually needs isolation to thrive so the sufferer will either withdraw from the company of others by becoming reclusive or will try to drive the people who care about them away. Either way they end up alone and focusing on their own shortcomings.

How do you deal with it? It depends if you're the friend or the sufferer.

If you're the friend, don't take "no" for an answer. At least, not every time. If they don't want to go out, go sit with them and hold their hands. You don't have to speak, just listen to them.

strateguy632 · Answer

not caused by depression just sometimes people are jerks even when they need help.

recently 2 ladies confided nobody helped them. so i said exchange numbers if you need help call me!

a week later i asked "what is new?" each wrote back how dare you write me!

they want, prefer to complain "nobody helps them" so they can pretend and play victim mindset even if people offer to help.

BadApple69 · Answer

Yes they do but if it’s someone you really care about be persistent and don’t allow them to push you away. You may get your feelings hurt but stay tough and be there for them even if they don’t want you to.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Yes "Self Sabotage" can come from a core belief that says "I'm not good enough, I dont deserve a relationship, etc" so we give up, regrettably without even really trying. It's very painful and can last forever unless changes are made in their core beliefs.

Yannae · Answer

I can't speak for everyone but I certainly did. I went ti an academy because I loved art at the time. But the depression was so bad that I forgot why I went there. I just wanted an escape. And teacher saw I was lonely (not that I cared) and asked others no include me, god bless her. But I pushed them all away, I would have none of it.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

yes. it can be something depressed people do. a lot of the time it can be a giveaway they're contemplating a more suicidal approach

Drew-1990 · Answer

Well as a guy who has been depressed and probably still is some days yes we push people away. Men are worth because we push without showing it. It's more we stay away and avoid them when possible.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

They push others away because they fear they would get hurt again.  it’s a demon inside that keeps them from accepting others … very hard to break through… Some require expertises.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Depends on if they’re working on an “exit plan” or not most of the time, but they do expect and subconsciously believe you will eventually reject them if not secretly hate them

SunnyRS · Answer

Yes sometimes they do.  It can be because of fear of getting too attached and then being left by them.  Or fearing that they would be a burden.

OtterMan68 · Answer

yes, if they refuse to seek help and do anything and just want a pity party

WhitneySnow · Answer

They can but it doesn’t always have happen if their loved ones really care about them and they’re willing to seek help

Peridot25 · Answer

Absolutely! Depression is an ugly thing. It literally messes up your head. It can make you act certain ways that you don’t normally act.

Dinklex3 · Answer

That depends on the person. Not everyone with depression reacts or acts the same.

Xia1994 · Answer

Yes it’s one of the symptoms of depression 💔

Kelly6 · Answer

@pinay_ako mostly yes they do until their friend find a way to join her in her depression mood

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yeah. They do. Depending on how bad the depression is.. get them help. They won’t want help. But they will need it before the despair consumes them

Rangers · Answer

They tend to, because everything seems so hopeless, and it can be draining to others

YevBor · Answer

Yes. I'm in this stage now, pushing away only one person, who help and support me. Because I didn't want her to absorb my bad mood.

msc545 · Answer

They often do drive others away, since they are usually very angry as well as depressed.

jahaims · Answer

Depends on the person

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Not always. Thats a choice they make

butterly248 · Answer

Yes. I cut off all my friends and family

serious · Answer

Yes of course that is possible

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

A majority of the time they do unintentionally

ManOnFire · Answer

They absolutely do.

laly520 · Answer

not all the time but some of em do

Slim57 · Answer

A lot of the time it seems we do

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes the do and the always hurt the ones they love

Prodsebi · Answer

Yes and they might not get them back

S_Rose · Answer

This is a depressing question.

Fuentes · Answer

Yup lol

AmandaYVR · Answer

Yep.

jimmy2 · Answer

Most of the time yes

Skyros · Answer

Sometimes

Fbhuseyin25 · Answer

Yesss😔😔

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