Which gender is it easier for you to become friends with?

[thatshydork]

Personally I find it easier to relate to girls. However, I do get along fairly well with guys too.

Girls (she/her)

Boys (he/him)

Other (and by this I mean anyone who identifies with anything other then the she/her or he/him pronouns)

[Billlewis]

I definitely tend to empathize more with women than with guys. One woman who used me exclusively for oral service, and who still uses me whenever she comes to visit someone told me that she felt very comfortable telling me about her intimate sexual encounters with the various guys she was dating, and one quote, in particular still echoes in my mind to this day -- 'I love telling you about it, 'cause it feels like I'm talking to one of my girlfriends'

[Wallythewalrus2]

I’m so happy for you, honey. Keep it up!

[Billlewis]

@Wallythewalrus2 Yes, Sir, thank you very much.

[ManOnFire]

Despite how society tends to look at things, I think it's always going to be easier for the opposite gender to be friends with each other more than same gender. Females generally prefer male friends and say they're better, and even some guys prefer female friends over male. I have a few very close male friends, but it is still oddly easier for me to make friendships with women.

I think opposite sex friendships are extremely important because it's one of the ways you can learn more about each other and your perspective from opposite sides. And yes, opposite sex friends becoming attracted to each other and having sex is beautiful to me.

[Siri137]

Why is there an "Other" option? There are only two genders, male and female. That's it.

[thatshydork]

Actually there’s more than two because gender is constructed by society and some people identify more with neither pronouns or both rather then one or the other.

[Siri137]

Who cares what they "identify" as? What matters is what they actually ARE. And no, gender isn't "constructed by society", it's innate.

[thatshydork]

Actually, according to Yale Medicine and my sociology teacher who has a degree in sociology, gender is “referring to self-representation influenced by social, cultural, and personal experience.” I don’t know about you, but I’m going to trust Yale University of Medicine to make that call.

And to answer your question about ‘who cares?’ I do because I want everyone to feel seen and heard. There are so many kids out there who become severely depressed because they’re not accepted or respected for who they are. They world already actively works against anyone who’s not a white, straight, cisgender male so why make it worse? I know many non-binary people and transgender people who are deeply hurt by people who misgender them. It often hurts them even worse when it’s someone who they know knows they don’t go by those pronouns.

And I mean, clearly if the use of using pronouns other then she/her or he/him is upsetting you, you DO care at least a little. Even the Pope said “who am I to judge?” when it comes to people in the LGBTQ community.

[Siri137]

"... according to Yale Medicine and my sociology teacher who has a degree in sociology..."
The is the 'Argument from Authority' fallacy.
"Even the Pope said..." - Again, same thing.
What matters more than anything else is objective reality, the facts, what's actually true. Take, for instance, the claim that "gender is a spectrum". How can this possibly be true, when there are only two sexes (male and female), therefore two genders, and one is clearly distinct from the other? It takes two sexes for a species to reproduce, not three, or 27. A spectrum in this context wouldn't work, it would be counter-productive for the species. That's basic biology, something I knew when I was seven. I didn't need to go to Yale in order to figure out how that works.

[thatshydork]

Maybe, but genders and sexes are two different things. Also, Yale is a very credible and reliable source so if you’re not convinced by that that there are more than two genders, well there’s no point in me trying to do that either. Being stuck in a way of thinking that even Yale disagrees with isn’t something I can change.

[Siri137]

I'm not convinced by your mention of Yale because, like other U. S. universities, they've allowed their political views to infect their science.

[thatshydork]

Well considering Yale is a revered university that is ranked 11 in the international universities rankings, I’d highly doubt that they, as you put it, “allowed their political views to infect their science.” That claim alone tells me that you take part in confirmation bias and therefore are an unreliable source for this topic.

[Siri137]

No, that's not an example of "confirmation bias". I actually attended university, so I have at least some idea of what they're now like, and I have to say that at least half of the teachers at the university I attended shouldn't have been there, because they were not qualified to teach in their own specialised field. I was constantly correcting them in class, because they kept getting things wrong!

[thatshydork]

So just because you went to one university where the teachers got stuff wrong from time to time, all universities are not to be trusted? Even the one that Einstein himself taught at?

[Siri137]

No, that's not what I said. My point was that you can't just name a university (like Yale) and point to that as being some kind of "proof" that your opinion is correct simply because they agree with it.

[thatshydork]

Except that Yale is one of the top universities in the world.

[Siri137]

So what? Are you seriously suggesting here that because of this they can never, ever get anything wrong? A person could be the most intelligent man or woman who ever lived, and still get things wrong. No person or institution is infallible.

[thatshydork]

No, what I am saying is that they are one of the most trusted sources out there and for good reason.

[rosemilk]

doesn't matter to me, really. but i'd rather just not want to interact with either lol

[Rangers]

Of course, guys. I'm a guy myself, so of course, it would be easier to find common interests with another guy.

However, I haven't had a friend in 6 years. Although I am on cordial terms with the friend of my girlfriend, Eva. Our bond is based on our connection and love for my girlfriend, though. And not our hobbies and stuff

[RetroReviews]

I can get along with both girls and guys but if a girl is a snobby entitled, high maintenance drama queen then no thanks If a guy is a rude arrogance boastful prick then no thanks. For anyone that does not identify as male or female that is also a no thanks you're confused and I will not join you in your self-delusion

[Wallythewalrus2]

I definitely have more male friends but I have a few women in my life that I consider friends, not including my sisters in law. I get along very well with all of them, which is definitely a good thing!

[RebelinSteel]

I am friends with both guys and girls, I get on very well with my girl friends but also some of my guy friends. I tend to relate more over things we have interests in than if they are a guy or girl

[TommyMountainFigure]

I make friends fairly easily. Doesn't matter what sex they are because I'm not looking to be anything other than friends anyway!

[DrPepper12]

Women are SO much easier to be friends with and I'll go one further, I would much rather have a female supervisor than a male at work.

[ChiTown33]

I don't have a problem with either. Because it's not about thier gender. It's about who they are, and how alike we are.

[Iron_Man]

Man because you don’t become friends with women they know what it is it’s mostly dating so it’s double tough

[OddBeMe]

I only get a long with “Its”….

https://www.youtube.com/embed/pDntDA8kID4

[DJB72]

Actual women. With two X chromosomes. My best friend is a guy, but other than him almost all my close friends are women.

[Anonymous]

Definitely guys. They are just more chill and easy to be around.

[LiamJHayden]

It does not matter to me. Anyone who is chill.

[Arik_jade]

With girls because I used to have good conversation..

[dolemite58]

Guys are much easier to get along with in general, I believe in having female acquaintances but I don’t have female friends.

[IslaTheWitch]

most of my friends are guys :D

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Both… Men and Women.

[CriticalCatDad]

I get along better with men because we men know how privileged women are

[Bklynbadboy12]

Definitely girls for me

[mandyfire98]

Both honestly

[elizamichale1]

Men for me