Do you find it easier to be friends with men or women?

[HomoFuge]

I find it way easier to be friends with men. Whilst not all women are like this I find that women tend to more toxic towards each other and enjoy putting each other down. I have only one female friend who I consider a close friend.

[Anonymous]

I completely agree with you. I find it much easier to be friends with men and find myself much more relaxed and at ease around them. I like how we can just be goofy and have fun together. Unfortunately, my experience with a lot of women is the same as yours; they tend to be extremely jealous, competitive, toxic, and like to put each other down, gossip about each other behind each other's backs, etc. I do have a few female friends that aren't like this, but I've unfortunately had a lot of that behavior done to me as well. As a result, I'm always more nervous around girls my age (I'm 24). Older women (as in older than me; 30+), on the other hand, seem to be less like this and I can befriend them more easily. The odd thing is that I seem to really "click" with a lot of middle aged and older women as well. They're just so nice, and super easy to have a conversation with.

I have always tended to have a lot of male friends in my circle, though. I tend to click with them pretty well and they're a lot of fun. It seems like you can have a better conversation with them without any cattiness or jealousy.

[Seregunda1]

Women, by far. It's not a blame game on one side vs the other, men are absolutely amazing too and there is no one size fits all answer as some men have more culturally stereotypically female tendancies and vice versa. As such I will try to use women praising terms rather than male slamming.

But overall - women are supportive, kind, and empathetic. For the most part will cut people out rather than cause huge fight dramas (this is personal taste, nobody is worth that public shite in my opinion but some find that outward stuff 'passionate' or 'straightforward' rather than 'sick of this, I'm out'). Women play it safe physically, there's a reason that TV show Jackass was mostly (all?) men.

A lot comes down to personal preference, and whether you are willing to write someone off for their gender. Despite my claims above I have a lot of amazing male friends. You will never catch me saying one gender is more dramatic overall than the other, just different outlets. And if you say 'all my friends are X because of x' then I feel sorry for people as they are seriously missing out. People are great!

[HomoFuge]

Thanks for sharing.

[SuperManiac]

I think I'm close to 50/50, and my friend group is close to 50/50. With girls I usually find it easier to have deeper conversations like sharing our hopes and aspirations, but with guys I usually find it easier to have more fun of the kind I enjoy (usually a more stupid kind like arm wrestling, beer clashing, talking about sexy women, playing Poker, etc).

[HeyMikie]

I've always had a natural affinity for women. I've had many best friends who were guys but I just seem to relate better to women and many women seem to be very comfortable with me. Maybe it is because my parents divorced when I was nine and I was the only guy in a house full of women. I got quite an education out of it. LOL! :)

[EleanorRigby]

Women.
To be honest with you, I always thought women who make more male friends are actually the ones tho are toxic towards other women and see them as competiton. So they are friends with guys because guys are by nature nicer to women, and she choses to ignore the fact that most of them would either want to date her or at least have sex with her, so they shower her with attention.
It's impossible that whole gender is mean and toxic. If there's 3 billions people you don't get along with, I woulf suspect the problem is you, and not those people.

[HomoFuge]

I didn’t say all 3 million women are like this. I just said in general women tend to be more harsh on each other than men.

[Account]

Agreed.

[Iwillfindyou21]

Preach!

[lifelearner011]

@Iwillfindyou21 This' so true, particularly "I always thought women who make more male friends are actually the ones tho are toxic towards other women and see them as competiton. So they are friends with guys because guys are by nature nicer to women". I 've noticed women who embrace this social pattern are also very used to feel entitled to be the center of attention. When this is translated to other social groups is so intoxicating.

[Cherokeehp]

Men, but barely. For the time being I have no girl friends. I’ve never really had a giant friend group of girl friends, but I’ve had tons of guys friends all my life. I was raised mostly around my two male cousins, so it’s always been easier for me to hang around guys. Being around other girls often times makes me feel really insecure. It’s much easier for me to be around guys, but often times my guy friends catch feelings for me so I either have to cut them off or friend-zone them into oblivion. Now that I’m in a relationship it’s especially hard for me to make guy friends because most guys aren’t looking to hang out with a girl in a relationship already.

[arabgoddess]

I can be friends with both females and males equally but I feel more comfortable with men because they don't judge me like women and they don't get jealous. Plus, I've been bullied by girls all through high school and the boys use to defend me.. hence why I trust them!

[Iwillfindyou21]

Some time ago I thought I got along better with guys, but later I hanged out with a few girls-only groups and now I have a group of female friends, so I noticed that after all, I just get along with girls better. Guys are nice to play video games with, but in terms of more meaningful friendships, it is definitely with other girls.

Also, I don't get the "I have only guy friends because girls cause drama" type of girls. I think they are biased and both they and the few girls they have met should just grow up. You cannot generalize a whole gender just bc of your worse experiences

[SincerelyAnon]

Both. Gender doesn’t matter. The person doesn’t. Their personality does. Them as an individual does.
Once people throw out the assumption of how one gender is (throw out ignorant gender stereotype) you open yourself up to actually get to know the person as an individual.

[Bribree18]

Women. I don’t know if it’s because I’m straight, but I’ve always been more comfortable around women. It may also be because I’m a very basic girl and I find it easy to be like “hey girl! I love your shoes” and start a friendship like that. Guys, especially younger guys, love to seem lax so I don’t know how to engage in good conversation with them. Plus many guys NOT ALL are bigoted and that just ain’t it.

[Madeziner]

I am an easy going person, and a good listener. I can accomodate easily with any one. I have even very close male and female friends who are of complex personalities. I guess to some extent it always depends on our own state of mind too. Well its just an opinion

[IAmRedThunder]

Men. I can’t talk to women haha but I’m much more comfortable with men. I grew up with 6 brothers so I can relate to men more than women. I’ve always had a plethora of guy friends and not one girl friend.

[MYNAMEISN0B0DY]

I'm a big guy 6 foot 1 and very heavy 😳, with a full beard and I do manly things like hunting and fishing, but my brothers and guy friends all expect me to be this hardened dude. Especially after the life I've lived so far and then being a big burley guy. I dont know I guess what I'm getting at is that it's easier to be emotional or vulnerable with female friends. I don't know life is lonely and painful.

[Skiiitles]

I find it's easier to be friends with a guy but then he always wants sex so really I'm just an object no girlfriends over here 🥺 because they are toxic and they're all jealous bitchs with nothing better to do than try and bring you down to feel better about themselves. I suppose this is how that sexuality where people don't have sex came about.

[iminhell]

Women. In my experience most of the men I have tried to befriend immediately lose interest when they realize I don't plan to sleep with them. There have been a few close guy friends I have had, but befriending men has never been nearly as easy as it is for me to find real meaningful friendships with women. In general its difficult for me to make new friends either way though because I have social anxiety 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Rei13]

Honestly I prefer having female friends. It is just about picking the rights ones as girls can also be shitty. It used to be mostly guys but that was because guys had the same interests as me. Like even my career choice is male dominated. I liked video games, high fantasy books (not young adult), metal, etc and it took me until college to find girls who liked that too.

[ManOnFire]

I usually can be friends pretty well with both genders, although females tend to befriend me easier than guys do. I guess because females often prefer male friends. However, I will not be friends with women who have all or mostly female friends. Those types are usually a red flag.

[Roux13]

I find it way harder to make friends with other women, I feel like they are always judging.
I feel like men don't care, and are more open to conversations.

[kelvinmed]

I've always gotten along better with women. Im just more comfortable with them. I notice how my friendships with women tend to be the best ones and help me be a better person.

I've realized that when I'm talking and hanging with just my female friends and I'm just chill/quiet. They suddenly become comfortable and start being hilarious, deep, or talk about really interesting stuff.

[MissKittyz]

Women. Men will pretend to want to be my friend just to get in my pants, and when they know I am taken, they don't even try to be friends with me anymore. So I don't trust that shit anymore. I only have one true male friend. The rest are all girls.

[MusicMayhem]

Men. They're funny and can make fun of themselves without worrying about what others think. Biggest problem with women is they always think you're hitting on them and treat you look a douche by default.

[TexasBorn217]

Men; jealousy and competition arise too easily among women.

[June871]

Well said

[Aidelwaish]

I feel easier to be friends with women. But i like and feel comfy with men too.

In my opinion men are kinder.
Unfortunately they always end up having feelings for me. So in the end it becomes awkward.

[TsundereMatrix]

I generally get along with everyone but I find that guys are more likely to be friends with me than girls. Girls usually find some reason to hate me even if it’s stupid.

[HomoFuge]

Women can be petty.