For people who wanted children. do you feel "devastated" knowing that you will never ever be able to have any?

[Anonymous]

[Tim2nice]

No. There’s plenty of other men out there to help out

[Nikki1989]

No, there is far more to life than having children.

[Asker]

To me I feel like you only have one life. You can live it up and do everything while you can. sure. but when you reach a certain age and if you do want children. you don't want to miss that opportunity.

[butterly248]

There is always adoption, surrogacy etc.

[Asker]

I know other people may consider those options. but for me it's not the same. Adoption has always make me feel like i would be looking at that child knowing it's not mine. and that i would be raising someone else's kid. I couldn't do it. And surrogacy is illegal here.

[butterly248]

Is it you who is infertile?

[butterly248]

Sorry for being rude. I just want to help

[Asker]

Oh no not being rude at all. It's interesting to hear the opinions of others. it helps to think what might they do :)

[Asker]

it's not a infertile thing. more the worry of will i ever find someone. were we both love each other enough to even consider starting a family. I have no idea why but i guess i have been "afraid" you could say. that im going to miss that window. as every year time is getting shorter and shorter

[butterly248]

There is someone out there for everyone. They turn up in the most unexpected places

[Asker]

Although there have been people that are very unlucky and don't find anyone at all. But still I will hold onto the though someone is out there and have something to believe in :) Thank you for your answers

[Asker]

Giving you the MHO for the most helpful advice