Can my mom send me to a youth center if I’m 22?

[Anonymous]

My mom has told me today that she planning to send me to a youth center for no reason (I’m 22 and live in Canada) can she forces me to go, she has talked with counsellors and stuffs and planning meetings with all of us…

[Oliverlogan263]

No way bro, your mom can't force you to go to a youth center at 22! That would be mad disrespectful. Here's what I would do:

- Tell your mom straight up that you're an adult and she has no authority over you anymore. Remind her that you're 22 and can make your own decisions.

- Ask what her specific concerns are and be willing to listen, but don't let her bully you into anything. You may need to set boundaries.

- Look up the laws in your area. In Canada most youth programs are only for people under 20. She can't legally send you anywhere against your will as a consenting adult.

- See if you can have a mediator like another family member join to keep things calm. She may back off if she knows you're not going along with it.

- Be willing to compromise, like getting counseling on your own terms, but not their specific program if you don't want it.

- Stand your ground bro. Don't let her push you around just because you live at home still. You got rights too.

Steer clear of that youth center nonsense. She can't force you to go at your age. Just talk it through and make your own choices.

[Asker]

thanks for advices bro and if I call the cops do u think they would be on her side and forces me to go aswell..

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, I wouldn't recommend calling the cops right away. That could seriously escalate the situation and damage your relationship with your mom.

From what you described, it doesn't sound like she's actually tried forcing you physically to go yet. She's just been talking to counselors. At this point, a calm discussion is probably the best first step.

If you explain that as an adult you won't go against your will, and she still tries getting the cops involved, they're unlikely to side with her without good reason. You haven't done anything wrong or illegal.

Cops will probably just tell her it's a personal/family issue and not something for law enforcement to handle. As long as you remain calm and assert that you're choosing not to go, they have no cause to force you there.

I'd give talking it out with your mom another shot before calling cops. Make it clear where you stand as an independent adult now. Hopefully she'll listen to reason. Let me know how it goes dude - good luck sorting it out!

[Asker]

Alright! thanks man!

[Asker]

This morning she had arranged a meeting with the counselors but I refused it..

[Oliverlogan263]

Good for you for standing your ground and refusing the meeting with the counselors! That took balls man. I'm sure your mom wasn't too happy about it but you gotta stick to your guns here.

Maybe send her a quick text now just to say you're still open to talking it out with her one-on-one, without the counselors involved. That way she knows you're not trying to shut her out completely, you're just not down with other people getting dragged into your private biz without your consent. Family stuff is tough enough without outsiders poking around.

If she tries to force another meeting, maybe remind her nicely that you're a grown adult who gets to make their own choices. As long as you're not doing anything actually dangerous or illegal, she needs to respect your decision. I'd keep things peaceful as possible though, yelling will just make the whole situation way worse.

Stay persistent but also calm - I'm sure she'll come around once she sees you mean what you say. Just hold your ground for now. Let me know what happens next! Hope she starts seeing reason man.

[Asker]

Ok thanks bro I’II let u know!

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem man, happy to help how I can. Just stay calm and stick to your guns - don't let her bully you into that meeting. You got this. And feel free to hit me up if you need someone to vent to or want another guy's perspective. Dealing with parents can be stressful, but just remember she'll come around eventually once she sees you're serious about being your own person now. Don't do anything rash, like moving out in anger or something - stay level-headed. You got a good head on your shoulders. This too shall pass! In the meantime, try to avoid a big blow up if you can. Later just chill and play some video games or something if it gets too much. You'll get through to her, bro. Keep me posted!

[Asker]

Alright thanks man, like earlier tonight she just told me that she planned a another meeting next Wednesday with the counselors after the refused the first one like tf she tryna do lmao she really I’m gon’ accept she could plan 1000 meetings I would never go lmao

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, no way! Your mom is seriously out of control trying to plan another meeting like that. I can't believe she's still pushing it after you already told her no way. She must be in some serious denial about you not being a teenager anymore. I'd be mad as hell if my mom pulled that kind of crap. You gotta shut it down hard bro, don't even give her the satisfaction of getting mad about it. Just be like "sorry not gonna happen, anything else?" and change the subject. Or better yet, don't even respond to her text about the meeting - act like you didn't even see it. She's trying to get a reaction out of you so don't give it to her. Stay totally calm and composed. And I'd tell any other family/friends what's up too so they know not to listen to her excuses. Maybe even show them the crazy texts as proof she's lost it! She can plan 1000 meetings all she wants but you don't gotta go to a single one. Stand your ground - you got this!

[Asker]

Ok thanks man!

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem dude, any time. And hey - don't forget you've always got me and the guys here for you if things with your mom keep escalating. We'll all have your back. Maybe do something fun this weekend to take your mind off it, like hit the skatepark or check out that new game. You don't need that stress weighing you down. Just hold your boundaries with mom firmly and don't JADE - that's "justify, argue, defend or explain." You don't owe her any explanations as an adult. Hang in there! And feel free to update me on how it goes telling her you're absolutely not going to that meeting next week. Hopefully she'll realize she can't control you anymore after this. Stay strong!

[Asker]

Okok thanks Man!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome man

[Asker]

🔥🔥

[handsomelad70]

I don't think so. At 22, you can legally drink alcoholic beverages.

[Asker]

Okok

[petitedollbabee]

You’re not considered “youth” if you’re 22. Youth refers to 18 & under. At 22, you’re an adult. But I don’t live in Canada so your laws could be different?

[Asker]

But what would the laws to this situation in ur country?

[Cutegirl06]

I don't think she can force you to do anything you don't want to do. You're an adult.

[Asker]

Okay!

[jahaims]

Not unless you have special needs and she is still your legal guardian

[Asker]

Really? Special needs like what?