Sister doesn’t pay her rent at all and she’s facing eviction & now she’s asking me for money. what do I do?

[Anonymous]

She has a habit of not paying bills whatsoever. She won’t pay any bills just wants to buy clothes. Her ideology is that if a company wants money from her they have to chase her for it. She signs up for loans and doesn’t pay back anybody. I only have a little amount in my savings and my family is pressuring me to help her but she’s almost 30 and she’s not learning any lesson. She spends like $1500 per month on weed alone and orders everything out to eat. Whenever she comes to visit me and my mom at the house she insults us and screams. She’s clearly mentally unstable, and I don’t want her moving back in here. But I don’t want to keep bailing her out for STEALING from people constantly

[Avicenna]

You should say no. There is no chance of you getting paid back and her awful entitled behavior alone is reason to turn her down.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Don't give her any money and don't take her in.

[rosemilk]

say no. and no again. that's not your responsibility. and if you bail her out, she'll always expect it of you. going by your age, it seems like you're younger than her. kinda sad that a nearly 30 year old woman doesn't have any financial stability or know how to manage money correctly. $1500 on WEED alone. that's someones rent. like wtf? i don't feel sorry for her at all.

[rosemilk]

also, shame on your family for expecting YOU, the younger one, to help her...

[RingOfFire]

She needs to learn the consequences of her behavior by tough love. There comes a point when I would not help her anymore. The only thing I might do is offer to get her medical or psychological intervention. If she's not willing to do that I would let the chips fall where they may. You cannot let her take down your life with hers.

[AviatorTom]

There's an old saying that goes something like this...

You make the bed you sleep in.

Your sister has created her own problems. She needs to solve them herself. Do not further enable her to avoid that by helping her out.

[slatyb]

You are an adult and should set boundaries. She sounds deeply troubled. You cannot support her habits, and deserve to enjoy the fruit of your labor. Perhaps your mother can support her. It's fine for you to say no.

[MrOracle]

You must absolutely say no. She is going to suffer some significant consequences, but she brought them on herself, and clearly the only way she will learn is by facing serious consequences. Do not let your family enable her either.

[JacobJordan]

You leave her to face the consequences of her actions. When you do this to the wrong people you end up in the hospital or a grave. She needs to learn you don't pull this while she is dealing with good people.

[Fireguy17]

no, not with an attitude like that.
She created the mess, so now it is hers to straighten out.
If people keep bailing her out that only reenforces that behavior pattern.
It's tough love, but you will be doing her a favor in the long run.

[MacDaddyRico]

She needs some kind of intervention.
The whole family should get together and act before she finds herself in prison.
Don't bail her out because you're just enabling her to continue... and for how long?
Call and speak with someone from your local mental health services, as it could be legally complicated situation you all are facing.

[onedarkcloud]

Do not help her do not co sign anything she will leave it to you to pay it off. As bad as it sounds tell mom to use her money to help her daughter and that you will not help her [mom] when she runs out of money because you need all your money to pay your bills and no one else.

[Unit1]

What a dumpster fire. Let her fully taste the sweet thing called her actions come with consequences and responsibilities.

[sheikalana]

See she's bad at managing her money and that's not your fault. She has money she just doesn't know how to spend it wisely. Is not your responsibility to pay her bills. No is No.

[Radiate143]

No. Give her nothing. Your family is enabling her. You will be the bad guy but it sounds like there is some dysfunction in your family if what you say is 100% accurate.

[Drewtate]

She going to have to learn the hard way eventually, sooner the better. Give her nothing. Tell her you broke

[strateguy632]

dont give her anything.

any relative in family pressuring you to give, you block him. they are not family

[DrPepper12]

Rock bottom is the only way some people learn. Set boundaries and stand firm.

[Kelley1]

Tell her, "I don't have the money but I might spare $20 if that would help."

[LazerBean]

Don't give her money, since that would clearly accomplish nothing.

[Staximus]

Didn't give her shit. Zero dollars. She needs to learn to be responsible and not expect to be bailed out. You didn't fuck up, she did. It's not your job to clean up her mess, it's hers.

[exitseven]

Don't give her the money. She won't pay the rent with it. She will spend it on dope.

[Alex-Snow]

She needs to learn the hard way. Let her hit rock bottom she needs a wakeup call

[Iron_Man]

Get her help for her drug addiction on weed plus help her out financially

[Iron_Man]

And from stealing

[jahaims]

Let her suffer the consequences of her actions. Why is it even a question

[gorydetails]

You tell her you can't give her any and leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

So stop bailing her out. Google "enabler" and you may find a photo of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Refuse and tell everyone company about her, they blacklist her soon enough

[scott04sa22]

Price, let her pay the price

[KrakenAttackin]

Let her end up in jail for a few months.

[Jmmmfi4]

DEFINITELY SAY NO

[MasterKS]

She deserve a kick in her ass!