You say that you have a part time job. Why only part time? Are you in school? If you are not in school, and only work part time, it seems as though you're, in a sense, carefree, driving a new car, eating and sleeping at your parents house. You say that you pay for your own clothes, makeup, etc., as though you think this is something more than what you should do. At the age of 21, why why would you expect your parents to still be supporting you? They raised you, hoping that by the age of 21, at the latest, I suspect, you would be self-sufficient. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's time to take flight, make your own way, and give them their house back. Make them proud. Assure them that they raised you well. They may be afraid that if they don't encourage you to make your own way, that you might just decide to stay around forever.
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You're contributing to your own upkeep but what about the household upkeep? Heat, light, cable, groceries, phone, repairs, all cost money and it's not unreasonable to ask you to contribute if you are able to. Are you planning on living rent free when you move out? I know, the answer is no; so why should you live rent free at home.
I did this with both my kids when they started working. 30% of their net income came to the household fund and was used for the benefit of all of us living in the house.
wow that's really good I wish I was like that! I never had like a real job, one month during the summer. I think you are not being unreasonable at all. You already pay for everything and you are the only child, not to mention it doesn't seem like your parents need money. And what does 100$ do, its not like its alot. Its kind of weird she wants you to pay that as a rent. May be she was pissed off or mad about something?
You sound very responsible. I'm not sure why older people want you to pay "room & board"
They feel that they are feeding you & doing your laundry that they should be compensated.
Explain about how that is going to go for school. Ask if you give it to her & then when you go back to school can you have your money back to pay for books etc.
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You are in tricky situation. I would say if you have a job making minimal wage or in college to not pay rent but you sound like your doing well for yourself.
My parent tried to make me pay rent well I was in college and basically refused to. My parents never charged my other brothers and sisters so I didn't think it was fair for them to charge me for rent. I don't see why parents try to hustle money out of there own kids unless your parents are basically barely making it, and need the extra bit to survive.
I would say use your guy, do you feel guilt not giving them money? Do you think they actually need it? If you can answer yes to both of those questions I would say then PAY. If you answer no to both of those questions, then I say FORGET ABOUT IT.I have the same issue, and I think parents are just being jerks in this matter. Having a home is necessary for security (especially the familiar original home you had since childhood). If parents want their children to pay rent, they actually turn themselves into a landlord that can eventually kick you out (it makes it hard for me to love my parents for this). And that's the point - you may run out of money and suddenly appear in streets and have nowhere to go. Your parents won't obviously help you, because they removed the last piece of security you had in this world. And being secured is something every human needs to live. Housing is even one of the most essential human needs, according to Maslow, and putting a price tag on it just makes it inaccessable to all people who need it (that means ALL people).
TL;DR - Parents are jerks and refuse to give you the security you always need.Well, I don't think they should. they are your parents after all. I'm 20 years old and I still live with my parents too. But I don't pay them anything and they will even laugh at the idea of paying your parents. It is incumbent upon parents to support their children whatever their age for as long as they are capable and their children will repay them when they get old by taking care of them and not sending them to a nursing home. filial piety is all the payment they need from you. being a good attentive and loving daughter is everything to them. that is, of course, my family 's perspective and mine too. I can't imagine being obliged to pay rent. it's laughable.
I started paying rent when I was 18.
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