My parents are making me pay rent. I am 22 years old and i am looking for a part time job ( I'm in the process of getting a job at publix) they told me i have 30 days ASAP. because I am doing school online and I am in debt. I also take care of my moms mom and my dad's mom like i give them there meds and make sure they eat. Also since I had my first job and before that I have always had chores to clean the house like wash dishes and more while they work come home and dont help and if i dont do that then i get yelled at. I don't talk back to them about everything because it doesn't go well. I feel like if I did I'd either get yelled at, hit or kicked out. Maybe all 3. I am also a Christian so i also go by honor thy mother and thy father. I also clean the kitchen, do laundry ( like my clothes and sometimes everyone elses). I am still learning how to drive. This isn't the first time they have told me I need to start paying rent. This isn't the first time they talked about telling me to leave home. They also told me that I need to save my money a few weeks ago to work on moving out so I'm confused. I just talked my boyfriend about this and he asked me do I just want to come live with him. He is teaching me how to drive also.
Well you could say to your parents "since I'm basically being a nanny for grandma. How about you start paying me for my services as a nanny. And then in turn I'll turn around and pay you rent".🤣 I'm just kidding don't do that. I think it's great that you're a Christian. It's great you show your parents respect. But respect is also a two way street. Then can't pick and choose when you're still a child and when you're an adult. This is a sensitive issue for everyone. Because you parents will ALWAYS care about you and unfortunately always have that parenting instinct. The problem is at some point they have to relinquish that control. I wish I had a definite answer for you. But the answer to this has to be tailored to you. If you go live with your boyfriend (and I'm not suggesting you should). Your parents I'm just guessing will be against that. And only you know whether that's right for you. Personally I think you need to have a sit down with your parents and say look I'm 22. I'm not saying I've got it all figured out. But you need to approach me like an adult. Tell me what your expectations are and I'll do my best accommodate them. At the same point as an adult I need my respect and autonomy.
Most people leave home to end this parental control. But not everyone is the same. I lived at home all through college and my parents didn't have a problem with it. They just had 2 rules. Either 1. Being going to school full time. Or 2. Have a full time job. Most parents just want to KNOW that you can stand on your own two feet. As they won't always be around to protect you.
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Get out of there as soon as possible, either to your boyfriend or maybe to one of your grandparents. Your parents sound toxic and ungrateful. Using your own children as a meal-ticket is such an American thing. :-(
I think it's a realistic expectation to have someone pay rent regardless of how many chores they have.
If you feel like living with your boyfriend will be easier on you then do that instead.
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Hell no but what can you do? You're an adult so they can throw you out. Can you rent privately or move in with your boyfriend? Maybe buy a tent? Tent cities are real popular in Joe Biden's America.
if you earn something, you pay something, maybe not much but a little contribution. take it as a life lesson and learn what you can from it.
You are doing the best you can but it seems like your parents are forcing too much on you
Emphasis on “parent’s house” and “I’m 22”. No they aren’t.
No you should pay
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