Are most nice people nice because they want something or because they enjoy being nice?

[12karen]

[dustybiker2]

Depends. There are people raised that way, there are religious people who are nice (watch them like a hawk because omg when they can be the worst sort of vicious, two holy Moses experiences..) then there are manipulators who are only doing it with intent for personal gain.

[dustybiker2]

Thank you for mho

[7Phoenix7]

Some people are genuinely nice. They enjoy helping people, and being kind is just apart of their personality.

Then you have people are manipulative, and only pretend to be nice to get what they want.

I can usually tell the difference...

[sage2021]

I've always been a nice perso my whole life.
Usually people say that I am so sweet, but I think I am both.
It's just my personality, nothing behind it, no reason, I just am nice.
And why not be nice? When you are a nice person, you are more light on your feet. Your body feels lighter.
When you are a hater, and a lot of people are now a days, believe it or not your body feels heavier inside than that of nice people.

It takes a lot more energy to carry around an angry, hateful body - all that bad energy.

I am glad I am not that way! I get to wake up each day and feel light and my spirit is free.

[RingOfFire]

I'm gonna go long on this one because you have to live a long time to get to this understanding.

But I believe that EVERYONE who is nice to someone else is doing it because they want something in return.

Could be that they want attention

Could be because they want OTHER people to tell them how nice they are

Could be that they want to be complimented on how nice they are

Could be because they want you to also be nice to them

And a lot more reasons.

But here is the important part...

Just because they want something in return doesn't mean they are "selfish," or "greedy," or indecent.

This is human nature. Relationships, whether with strangers, friends or family is all about "you scratch my back and I'll scratch yours." They are all about a negotiation about I'll give you this if you give me that. That's not selfish, it's normal and human.

[Still-alive]

I'm genuinely a nice person unless you cross me then im not. I don't want anything except maybe the same niceness back would be great.

BUT there is a way to tell if they do want something first of all if their actions and words aren't matching. so they act nice through their words but they treat others around them terribly.. yeah its fake and they probably just want something from you.

Also if they pressure you by asking about sexual things without you bringing it up, i'd be suspicious. And most especially if you tell them you're uncomfortable talking about that and they persist anyways. big red flag there.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's cause they are raised that wait, it's not really about enjoying but more cause that's how they were taught to treat people but I guess maybe a form of satisfaction is a part of it lol

[12karen]

I've learned that some people are nice bc they are selfish
Meaning: they're doing it as you said as a form of satisfaction, just for their image not bc they really feel like wanting to be nice.
Eg: if I show you I'm helping the other it's just bc I want to think I'm a good person, I want you to think positive of me not bc I really want to help.
I don't know if that makes sense or if you understand what I mean

[ChicoFromThe305]

Kinda, I know many truly are obsessed with their image and make them do wild things but I believe its somewhat normal to care about your image to a certain point, of course I don't mean obsessing over it but to care in general, behaving one way for an image is something I believe happens a lot and I think behaving a certain way just for that reason can be deceiving if they are doing it just for that reason.

[12karen]

Exactly, we can care about ourselves, it's normal but we also need to care about the other and doing good for good

[ChicoFromThe305]

I agree and it's unfortunate a lot of people don't

[Account]

I dont know how to explain it, but if I see them, I immediately know the difference. As for the number, I am as clueless as you. But if I see someone acting nice I can usually tell if it is genuine or fake.

[Changiis07]

I treat others how I want to be treated so I am nice because I enjoy it and it's not hard for me to

[12karen]

Completely agree with you

[OfMiceandMen]

What's the old saying you catch more bees with honey than vinegar. I also think it's easier to be mannerly to people, until they do something that makes you rethink being nice.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I don't speak for most people and I don't like to presume, but me personally? I enjoy making nice people happy.

[NathanDavis]

I'm just nice...

well, mostly nice..

but sometimes I want things too... and I'm still nice

[Fatoumamoud]

Why begin a mean person when you can be nice?

[Billlewis]

Why should a woman be nice when she'll be more appealing to most guys if she's mean?

[Fatoumamoud]

@Billlewis if she appeal to most men if she mean then those men need some kind of therapy. Mean people aren't attractive, they are bullies.

[LiamS95]

If they're a satisfied person and brought up to be kind then they're characteristically a nice & kind person.

[grega239]

I always thougth being nice is required to live normally with other people.

I then figured out that being nice will have people tale advantage of that.

[Malwi93]

I dunno. Why would I be insulting somebody for no damn reason? I imagine life takes a toll on everyone

[andy530]

That all depends on your world view. in my opinion it’s because they like being nice or feel it’s the right thing to do.

[handsomelad70]

Most nice people are legitimately nice, but some are, well, angling for something.

[nawtee_me]

I think most people are nice because that is who they are, and they want something…. lol

[Bubbble]

It's because I enjoy being nice. To see people smiles can make me happy

[pass_the_celery98]

I just want some pizza 🍕 🤷🏻‍♂️

[12karen]

Get your pizza and add the garlic 😆

[pass_the_celery98]

You need garlic sauce with pizza that’s a must

[sawno]

I am genuinely being nice if I am nice.

[MisterWack]

Enjoy being nice-> Me.

[Anonymous]

Nice because they want something.

[12karen]

Like using the other then?

[Opinion Owner]

Using them or because they expect some form of reciprocation in the future.

[Jennz6]

Some of us are just nice

[Yannae]

The first group isn't nice.

[SugarSugarplum]

I'm nice because I want to live in a nice world.

[eagle1951]

enjoy being nice