Why would a person burn a bridge when you’re trying to make amends and see if things are okay?

[Anonymous]

This person, who I thought was my friend, had been continually violating boundaries and saying things that are untrue about me. I was starting to feel like I may have hurt their feelings accidentally so I called them to see if we were cool and wanted to apologize if I needed to.

They said that their comments mean nothing and they don’t want to be friends with me because they feel like they have to walk on eggshells now. That was not the answer I was expecting and it seemed pretty defensive.

3 days later, they called me back and doubled down on their stance. They said that I was a disservice to myself for thinking like this and a disservice to them for telling them. Then they said that “they don’t know about me” and “only God can repair our friendship”.

Something is really off to me. Sure, I could’ve spoken up at the first boundary violation/inappropriate comment, however I wanted to show them grace because people have bad days. However, I feel like they’re afraid to tell the truth or they’re just jealous of me or something.

[Alli112]

Person just doesn't want to continue your friendship. It sucks, but keep in mind that that choice is as likely to be a function of their own state of being as anything you may or may not have done. Chalk it up to a failed attempt, mourn the friendship if that's what you need, and then move on to people who appreciate you more. Friendship break-ups SUCK, but what can you do?

[DishLady]

They're burning a bridge because the genuinely don't give a S*** about you or making amends or anything. They're all about themselves and what they want. Whether it's a so-called friend, an ex or whatever, the LAST person they seem to be caring about is you... so why give them the time of day?

[In_Trance]

Because they don't feel the same way that you do