For those of you who lost a parent when will you get back to normal?

[Anonymous]

Ever since losing my mom it’s been shit. Eight months and I’m still not okay. People expect me to be back to normal and criticize me for grieving sometimes.

[Staximus]

Tell those people to fuck off. If they never lost a parent then they know jack about shit. It's not something you just get over quickly, especially if you were close or they died younger than they should have. After 4 years of fighting my mom died from cancer when I was 20, I was never the same after that. There's just a big empty space in your heart and soul after losing somebody that was such a big part of your life, your mother who brought you into this world. You just have to live through it and come to terms with it on your own time, not when insensitive idiots who can't relate expect you to. Sometimes you may feel like you're not able to move forward. Like you just ran out of gas on the goddamned highway of life and now you're stuck on the side of the road. All you can do is keep trying to make a good and happy life for yourself, be good to yourself. That's what your mom and anybody who loves you would want you to do.

[spartan55]

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. Second, I lost both of my parents when I was younger than you and it is truly life altering. (Both have been gone 30 years.) One First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost both of my parents when I was younger than you and it is truly life altering. (Both have been gone 30 years.)
I think of my Mom and Dad every single day of my life, and miss them terribly. One of the things I learned during the grieving process is that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Everyone processes it different. You are still inside of a year since you lost your Mom, it is still a very fresh wound. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it more.

[lexie_xo]

sorry for your loss hope your doing ok... i also lost my mum , best thing you can do is focus on your wellbeing. Start new hobbies or you can also get therapy for coping skills hope things will be better for you

much love 🫶

[AviatorTom]

Both of my parents are dead. After each died, I grieved for a few months. But I knew that they would want me to move on, and that's what I did. Think what your mom would tell you if she were still around. I doubt it would be staying in the shit.

[MicahRaine]

Sorry about that. . . that's just really hard.

For me, I didn't lose a parent but I lost someone who was closer to me than my parents. It took me about half a decade to stop crying every night, and another decade after that to actually deal with it and heal.

Take your time healing. If someone criticizes you for grieving, cut them off.

[ChiTown33]

As much as it pains me to say it, never. You are permanently changed. My father died 22, almost 23 years ago. And in many ways it feels like just yesterday. But you learn over time to deal with it better. The important thing to remember is you mother still loves you. Death and time cannot alter that.

[Surely]

Most people cannot sympathize with other people’s trauma in life. Until they experience the same thing.
As long as you can safely perform your daily tasks. Take your time to grieve the way that you feel is proper. Unfortunately, you will periods of time that you will remember your lost love. That will strike you at any moment. Good luck and well wishes.

[BobbieBoy666]

I lost my mom seven years ago and I'm still not over the lost and last year I lost my little sister and my dad. You really never get over losing a family member. 😔

[LiamJHayden]

I don't know if you do. I lost my mom when I was 16 and my dad when I was 19. It will be a decade this month since I lost my dad and I am nowhere near close to "normal" in that regard. I compartmentalize to cope.

[DrPepper12]

I'm the odd one out. I was thrilled when my father died and was actually sorry that it wasn't by my hand.

[Twalli]

If you lost her several years ago, it could get weird at times. If it's recent, like in the last 18 months or so, it makes more sense that you're still having trouble with it.

[jahaims]

You will never feel the same again. Don't expect "normal"

[CubaPirate]

It's been 4 years since I lost my father and I still think about him every day but things are getting easier

[spartan55]

Been forty years since I lost my Dad, same.

[noohair]

Eventually you need to let go to be healthy and not live in the past. You might need help with that.

[elaphe]

There is no time frame for bereavement. I am sorry to hear of your loss. Hang in there.

[NamerOfStars]

... I'll let you know.

[Anonymous]

About 5-10 years.