Dads with wandering eyes?

[Anonymous]

How come so many young dads with families and young kids have wandering eyes? They’re all young and good looking so I do stare back sometimes but I’ve been noticing this continuous trend since I was like 19 where so many dads are like this and I am scared that my own husband will be like this in the future.,

[Summeroflove]

It totally depends on the guy if he’s looking at everyone he may be some type of first responder and he looks at everybody.

Any man who is obviously married leave alone even if they make a move on you. Being a home wrecker is never a situation you want to get yourself into. Even if the opportunity is there I promise you. Make better choices.

There are those men who are unfaithful and there are those who fantasize that is until the fantasy ain’t enough anymore and/or a opportunity does open up.

Do not entertain it just mind your own business and don’t even think about doing something with somebody whose married.

[Asker]

Well yes obviously, I have too much problems in my life already without adding more trouble that will positively ruin everyone’s lives including mine.,. Was just really concerned after noticing how common this is

[Summeroflove]

Well if you’re attractive this may be the case. Observe if he’s just looking at you or if he’s looking at other people as well.

The best thing to do is ignore it unless he does something

[Asker]

Well I’m sure it’s not just me, probably multiple young women..

[Summeroflove]

In that case maybe he’s lusting and doesn’t realize anyone noticed. It could also be he is looking at everyone

[Summeroflove]

Some people are situationally aware and look at everyone. But I mean you can probably tell when someone’s checking you out

[Asker]

Oh it’s not just one person, it’s been a couple of dads at my old church and now I’ve moved because of school and I’m noticing it with the dads here too. I think more dads tend to do this than moms from my observation ,. And that’s why I was worried because I will also be a mom (hopefully) in the future and it will suck if my husband is also looking at young women while we are literally sitting together in church.,. But tbh someone just told me to accept reality before driving myself crazy lmfao

[Summeroflove]

That’s where trust comes in if you can genuinely trust your husband and he can genuinely trust you.

I think if you’re married then you need to have this talk with your husband. Be kind but just express how you feel to him. Communication is key and holding things in can create worse problems later on

[Summeroflove]

Also just looking at someone doesn’t mean anything. I look at lots of people to be aware of whose around me.

If shit hits the fan. Whose someone whose a threat. Whose going to need help. Whose going to be a asset. Is this person a danger it just goes through my head.

But every person is different

[Asker]

Ya True., thanks for all your thoughtful comments and advice. Enjoyed reading your perspective!

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome remember communicating is key.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Quick looks are quick looks, it's not a sexual intercourse, it's not a betrayal, it doesn't even imply anything sexual per se. It is fundamentally harmless. Please stop accusing your own mind or other minds for crimes that don't exist at all, that would be a relief ! 😆

[Breanna_nonbinary]

All men have wandering eyes. It’s a side effect of testosterone. Women think that sexuality for men is the same as women’s. Men are biologically programmed to seek out signs of sexuality. It’s not something they can help. However there is a difference between looking and acting upon. When my wife realized that my behavior was only natural then it made her feel better because she knew it was not a reflection on her or on me.

[LazerBean]

Because faithfulness and dignity are becoming more and more rare.

[Anonymous]

If a guy sees a beautiful woman, he isn't going to turn into an asexual priest just because he is in a relationship/has kids. Neither would most women. This behavior isn't specific to men, or specifically dads.

It doesn't mean he's going to cheat, it means means nothing beyond "hey, I have a sexuality"

There are a lot of people we are compatible with. We pick one of those people and choose to be with them every day. Accept reality before you drive your self crazy.

[Asker]

I’ve been observing moms too but I don’t think I have ever seen them looking at young men for long periods of time like I’ve seen dads do… but anyways, your advice in just accepting reality before driving myself crazy is pretty solid. So thanks 👍

[Opinion Owner]

Glad I could help.

[thearchjoker]

this is normal male behavior, they will forget about those women a few minutes after their out of sight if not within seconds.

[stratford]

Young Dads are most likely not getting enough of what they need back home and are overly horny.

[Twalli]

Wandering eyes are fine. Wandering hearts and dicks are not.