I grew up with this but I have always hated it, I don't know why but it makes me uncomfortable but maybe I am overreacting? Whenever I am out with my family and we are walking somewhere my dad will put his hand on my lower back and I mean way down there just above my butt. He does that to guide me to walk beside him so we are walking directly beside each other or if I happen to be walking a few feet away from the group. But I don't like his hand going that low, it's so close to touching my butt that it disgusts and disturbs me at the same time. Do your dad's do this to you and is this normal? Sometimes people look and think we are dating at least that's the impression I get by the way my dad holds onto me and pulls me around like that. I have gotten double takes and disturbed expressions from people who are paying attention and it's embarrassing.
I feel for you. If it's making you uncomfortable then you have to say something. I know he's your Dad and that's some major cognitive dissonance going on. The reality is that he is making you uncomfortable and you need to tell him to stop. A Dad wouldn't want his daughter to feel uncomfortable. You are clearly a beautiful girl who is also attractive. It sucks to have to see your dad in this way but at the end of the day he is a man. Let's not think that your dad is having sexual thoughts about you but the reality is the opposite. It's how he deals with it and it seems he isn't. Please update this thread. Ok. Be strong.
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It's normal in many cultures for dads to retain physical affection for their daughters.
That doesn't make it okay for you to tolerate something you're uncomfortable with.
Next time, tell your dad "hey, I appreciate that you love me and want to feel close to me, but I'm uncomfortable with your hand there; could you possibly move it a little bit higher?"
If he's a good dad, he'll change immediately and apologize for making you feel uncomfortable. If he's a mediocre dad, he'll be upset at first but he'll apologize a few hours or days later. If he's a bad dad, he'll be angry at you and this won't change, and that's your clue that your dad might have been having sexual thoughts about you, or maybe he's abusively controlling/possessive of you.
check his ass, tell him or next time he does it react in a way you know will give off the impression that it bothers you
Thats not normal at all. You need to speak up and let your dad that you are not comfortable.
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Not normal, what does your mother have to say about this?
Not normal for a girl older than about 10. Certainly not for an adult daughter.
It's not normal and you should tell him it bothers you.
I don’t like him doing that, that’s a boyfriend’s type of thing
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