What is “the deal breaker” for you in a friendship?

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EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

I don't know if I can name any super specific ones but just in general: backstabbing and aggression, the two main ones.

The latter is more or less easier to deal with since it lets you know upfront that they don't like you anymore. By "aggression" I mean like swearing at you, calling you insults all the time (and not in a joking/banter manner), poking fun at your deepest insecurities, using everything you've said against you, perhaps some physical aggression (like pushing, shoving, etc) as well, etc...

All of those let you clearly know they don't wanna be your friend. Though obviously it would've just been easier if they said "hey our friendship isn't working out anymore" instead of being so rude and nasty.

The former however... it's much harder to deal with since you don't really see it coming. You can't really predict it. You only know it's happened when it already happened. It's a lot more manipulative and sneaky.

The only thing you can really do is just stop being friends with the person once you realize they backstabbed you.

Or a way to possibly predict it but not sure would be to observe if other people's behavior around you changed once you started hanging out with this person. Cuz if that's the case the person probably has been talking shit behind your back.

But yeah. Backstabbing and aggression are the big two for me.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

If they lie to me or talk shit behind my back. Also if they're not supportive and put me down in front of others to put themselves on a pedestal. Also friends that would try and get with my partner. Luckily I haven't had any friends like that so far because I think my filter is good.

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

The urge to say stupidity is strong... The amount of people I stopped talking to over the years because they were just plain stupid... Yeesh

Other than that just being a disrespectful bitch. If you're rude or straight up mean to literally anyone I'm questioning everything about you. I walked out on a date because the person I was having dinner with didn't say thank you when the wait staff brought out order over. I let the first time pass but after that it was like 🥴🥴 tf

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Trying to constantly one up me rather than support eachothers accomplishments… Hanging with the opps… Trying to get at my man… Always wanting to come over… Taking days to text/call back… Being a heavy drinker, constant partier, or participating in any form of drug use… Constantly asking me for money… Using me as the “I was spending the night at her house” excuse when you’re actually out misbehaving or cheating on your partner

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

Deep betrayal of trust or being cruel to others. This includes acting disloyal such as being a fake friend, stealing from or scamming me, trying to flirt with my fiance, being a drug addict, harming others or caught performing acts of animal cruelty.

Cutegirl06 · Answer

Not being loyal and not being truthful.

molonski2 · Answer

Dishonesty , liar , mentally unstable , had to cut a few off bcoz of this..

The most recent , a drug fcked 52 year old male , he had problems with Roids , Cocaine , and alphol , but eventually just lost all sense of reality , the straw that broke the Camels back , he lied about the death of his own mother ( I know the mother , she has cancer ) , then I found out this was not true , that was a deal breaker for me.

You'd think a 52 yo man may be a little more sensible? I was so dam angry , had to cut him off.

Account · Answer

It is very simple. People who do not have good intentions. I can be friends with people who differ from me in certain things, but I could never be friends with someone who in general is ill-intended towards those around them. It is the first thing I spot. That and haughtiness.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Monogamy is a deal-breaker for me.

We have evolved for polyandry, where one woman has multiple husbands. So I won't accept anything but a polyandrous relationship. If a woman doesn't want to take on multiple men, then it's not gonna work long-term, though I do enjoy more casual relationships even with girls who are monogamous.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

When their flake ratio becomes so high you always wonder if your plans or hangouts are gonna actually happen.

Sure sometimes life happens, or you legitimately feel antisocial and don't want to see anyone, but it shouldn't be the norm, and at least pretend to be apologetic about it.

Sour-rose · Answer

Lazy... as fuck.

Hell, recently today, I had to pay for the payment of my co-workers being lazy at their post and I had to deal with mofos trying to throw me curve balls at the job. (long story short, i'm a security and people like a lazy security guard. i ain't a lazy mofo)

quickquesocheese · Answer

I was friends with someone in school who used me and my family so much. I remember knowing and not caring cause she was a friend and i didn't really feel like it was as big of a problem that it actually was. Well, when i broke up with someone and she couldnt even bother to cross the street to see me and comfort me i broke down crying calling her telling her how i felt and that i didn't want to see her anymore.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Any kind of flakey, disrespectful, aggressively opinionated types... I'm sure that you know the kind I mean. Most people have met several of these types in life.

Usually a loud, opinionated person who is really aggressive. And they're usually a fucking idiot. Real performative.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Disrespect, basically placing me lower than you treat others.

Other than that if I'm friends with someone we're always going to have a connection if I like them. Everyone does stupid things sometimes, or even all the time.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Lying in most cases. If somebody wants to lie about getting raped or being sick with a child hood disease, that is a lie I will overlook. So I don't reject all friends who lie, but I will reject many who lie.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Backstabbing. I'd actually prefer an honest friend, than a pretender.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

It would be stuff like not caring or respecting me or the friendship. Being hurtful on purpose. Stuff like that.

Anonymous · Answer

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V_Injector · Answer

Other men... I am not a cuck.  Women are fine though... yes I want to watch, but do the scissors and shit without me if you want.

strateguy632 · Answer

Friendship is broken when they stop pretending to act like a friend.  I dump easily for friendships ending and also block.

Simslover92 · Answer

When they become so focused on their relationship and neglect your friendship for their partner.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Betrayal of trust. Same as in a relationship.

Agape93 · Answer

Controlling behavior. The moment you do it, you're done

Blkgrnlntrn · Answer

I rarely end friendships with people. It’s normally the other way around. But if I were to do it, it’d be because they kept violating boundaries or reminding me of pain.

thearchjoker · Answer

If you hate me we are no friends and i don't intend to pretend to be your freind

Still-alive · Answer

Saying they will be there then cancelling at the last minute every time. thats abusive af

jackieistired · Answer

There’s so many now, before I had patience, now I don’t

Kelly6 · Answer

@itsmeirem When they don't trust you or have no loyalty as it used to be

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Borrowing money, doing drugs, jealousy, using people

OtterMan68 · Answer

never returning calls always finding fault and always defensive

TurboAnon · Answer

Infidelity. Cheating is comparable to murder in my opinion.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Misogyny.

EmmaMary · Answer

@itsmeirem  Disloyalty.

MemeSupreme · Answer

being a debbie mc downer all the time

nolabels · Answer

Continual one-sidedness.

SunnyGirly · Answer

when they don't value my time

LiamJHayden · Answer

Stealing from me.

art84 · Answer

Spreading rumors about me.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

None. I don't want friends anyways.

Whitedog1 · Answer

Another woman in the picture.

thatshydork · Answer

Disloyalty

paledreams · Answer

Free loader lol 😁😆

Maybeyoutoo · Answer

Lies and slander

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

Lying

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