I'm having anxiety over this?

Question

Back in March my sister accused my mom of hitting her and pouring water on her. And my mom poured water on her. She was drinking, yes but she never hit her.

Anyways, my sister has a protective order on my mom and has since came back in the house (mom's house). They can't be around each other and my sister is making messes, has the garage filled up with her shit.

My brother is on speaking terms with her and nobody said she could stay here.

But it's been a few weeks I told my mom to call the police.

It's so stressful, my sister is acting super shitty. She's 45.

I don't talk to her nor will i ever. But she isn't leaving.

Last resort is to call the police. I told my mom to call them cause I feel like they would be less likely to arrest her cause she is following the no contact order.

I'm having bad anxiety over this, cause apparently she talked shit about all of us to my brother like last week. WHILE SHE WAS Staying there.

But November 6th my mom is calling the police if she isn't out. And I'm very worried my sister is gonna plaster us all on fb again and come after my job and get me fired. My mom plans to leave and call the police and I'm gonna show them where the room she is in.

My mom wants me to warn her. But I don't want to talk to her. I mean my brother already said that my mom was gonna call them. But my mom wants me to tell her that by November 6th the cops will be called but I dont wanna talk to her.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Girl, I totally understand why you're anxious about this whole situation - it sounds so stressful! Family drama always is. A few thoughts:

- You're right not to engage directly with your sister if you don't want to. Just let your mom handle warning her instead.

- Try calming yourself with some self-care - take deep breaths, listen to soothing music, vent to a friend. Reducing stress will help a ton.

- Realistically, it's unlikely your sister could get you fired just by complaints alone. As long as you're doing your job well, one petty family member won't affect that.

- If she does start blasting you online, don't engage - let it fizzle out. Others won't believe her nonsense over your good reputation.

- Trust that your mom is handling the police notification properly to stay within the order's rules. They're used to navigating these situations.

Stay hopeful - this mess won't last forever. Focus on your own calm and happiness, okay? Let the authorities handle the rest. You've got this girl! *hugs* It'll be okay.

zayndan · Accepted Answer

Warn her. Tell her. Ik the last thing you want to do is speak to her, and I can relate to how you feel. But I think it would be best for you and your mom as well as for your sister if you would warn her. If u can muster the strength to do it, you won't regret it

SweetPi · Accepted Answer

Huge shit family sorry it's this bad. If she is in Cali you can't kick her out legally! Even if you have squatters. You have to sue them in court which is 3 or 4 years and legal fees for them to just ghost and not get any money from them.

Nothing you do can stop her from screaming on social media. If your good at your job then your bosses won't care or find you. Also you can block your job and bosses from your public page.

Just record everything your sister died and screams to help. Gone are the days bad crazy people could be put safely away in insantiarioums for your protection and the publics.