Guys, would you want the woman you want to date have male friends or not?

[marish01]

I don't have male friends. I've always seen male female friendship dynamics as cringy, laughable and lame.

Thus, I refuse to have a male friend and can't get attracted to a man who has female friends.

Yes she should have male friends

No, she should only have female friends

No, she should have me only as a friend

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't have any problem with it, in principle. I have just found most male-female friendships I've seen in life to be super cringe as well.

It's not even like I'm worried about the closeness, or whatever, it's just friendships impact relationships. Your friends will make or break your relationship. And it's really obvious that that friendship is going to impact the relationship, so you have to be extremely careful to make sure that your personal friends are also friends of the relationship.

I wouldn't want my girlfriend to be friends with someone who wasn't a friend of my relationship with her. And that is true regardless of whether the friend is a man or woman.

[Tarifa]

Having male friends doesn't mean this woman is going to cheat. As per definition (Oxford): "a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations."

The same goes for men having female friends. Few of us would actually venture into having an affair with a friend, let alone a mutual friend or acquaintance. That's a recipe for disaster.

[AnonAndrew]

I would prefer that she has a number of male friends.

That way she's used to the way guys are, so when I behave in a way that's normal for a man, she won't think there's something wrong, because she'll already be familiar with the ways that guys work which are different from how women work. :)

[Miristheiss]

I never would have committed to any woman who kept exes or close male friends around. One who expected to go out alone with them for walks or coffee or the movies. If she was texting or DM'ing men.

I wouldn't have committed to her

[meepmeeperton]

Nope, me and my girlfriend decided to not have friends of the opposite gender. She had some male friends for a bit which was hypocritical because she didn't want me to have female friends, so I manned up and made her get rid of them.

[AnonAndrew]

@meepmeeperton
Why did you guys make that decision?

[meepmeeperton]

@AnonAndrew Mostly to eliminate the possibility for uncomfortable situations that cause insecurities

[loveslongnails]

My SO can be friends with whomever she chooses. I trust her to make wise choices as to who she associates with or calls friends, and she's never come close to picking a bad person, male or female, to be a true friend.

[marish01]

Sure you trust her. If you can trust her to get fucked by whomever she chooses why would you not trust her to be friends with whomever she chooses?

[loveslongnails]

Your attempts to ridicule my lifestyle choices are pathetically amusing, but your assessment isn't quite accurate and I'll not waste my energy on the topic with you. Meanwhile, another year has passed and you're still not dating, not anyone, are you? Hmm... why is that?

[marish01]

You couldn't even deny it.
No, I'm not dating. I won't be dating in 2025 either.

[loveslongnails]

Couldn't even deny WHAT? I trust my SO to do, or be friends with, whomever she chooses. That's irrelevant to your lack of understanding about our lifestyle, which is why I don't waste time on it with you.

[marish01]

If you can trust her to get fucked by whomever she chooses why would you not trust her to be friends with whomever she chooses?

[loveslongnails]

I already said I did. LOL You sure love to repeat " If you can trust her to get fucked by whomever she chooses... blah, blah, blah. You delight in thinking people in open relationships merely go out to wherever they go and just randomly pick up and fuck people they don't know, on the spot, or bring them home and do it. LOL

[marish01]

Nope but the fact that it is open already is gross. Anyways it doesn't change the fact that your SO gets fucked by others.

[AnonAndrew]

@marish01
Why do you get so aggressive over this topic every time it comes up?

You're entitled to feel anyway way you want about it, but it does make me curious.

[loveslongnails]

@AnonAndrew It's because she believes herself to be morally superior to others because of her beliefs, especially when it comes to sex. If it wasn't about sex, it would center around something else, because that's what "morally superior" people do, without fail.

[marish01]

What do you mean something else?
Murder, robbery?
Give examples of that something else you in your mind when typed it.

[AnonAndrew]

@marish01
I think you forgot to answer my question...

[loveslongnails]

Wtf are you talking about "murder, robbery", when it comes to moral superiority? Marish, you've display a smorgasbord of things you emit moral superiority about, from interpersonal friendships to religion. It wouldn't matter what subject, you'd argue that you aren't.

[Staximus]

So people are supposed to just cut off contact with all the opposite sex in their group of friends once they are in a relationship? That's stupid and unrealistic. As long as they aren't spending alone time with them, there's no problem.

[marish01]

I dislike when adult men have female friends. It's not masculine.

[Staximus]

You're crazy and not living in the real world. There's women in my group of friends that I've known for over 20 or 30 years. I don't go hang out with them one on one, but they are still my friends and I occasionally see them at neighborhood barbeques on holidays, birthday parties, etc. I'm not going to just stop being their friend because some crazy woman wants me to, I don't care if she's hotter than a bucket of red rivets.

[DryGermanGuy]

Keep up with your silly demands and requests and you will be single till you‘re 50. 🙄

[marish01]

Wanting a masculine man is not a silly demand

[DryGermanGuy]

Especially masculine men are attracting women and will have female friends! I am astonished that you don’t get this?

[marish01]

Masculine men don't need female friends. They want a girlfriend or wife

[DryGermanGuy]

Obviously you are wrong. As I have advised you before - get out of the house and start meeting real people.

[marish01]

I will only date a man who corresponds to what I want.
Unless I'm sure he has ny main requirements I won't go out on a date

[DryGermanGuy]

How many years have you tried this approach? And how many more years you want to try it till you are open to the idea to change something?

[marish01]

I didn't try to date. And I'm not now

[DryGermanGuy]

Of course not. Why would anyone.

[marish01]

Many guys asked me out on a date

[DryGermanGuy]

Then find the one (s) you have most in common with, go on dates and see where it goes. That’s how it goes.

[NathanDavis]

most of my ex-girlfriends had friends, women and also men...

it was never an issue for me... nor for them

[Berethor]

I'm not really sure but I don't want to be overjealous so I think she can have male friends.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not care one way or the other. My lifelong best friend is female. She might as well be the sister I never had. Zero romantic interest for either of us.

[Juxtapose]

I always want to ask people like you, what do you expect a bisexual woman to do? Not have any friends so her date isn't insecure?

[marish01]

I am not interested in bisexual women

[Juxtapose]

i never said you were.

[Juxtapose]

What do you expect her to do if she date somebody like you?

[marish01]

Somebody like me doesn't date a bisexual person.

[Juxtapose]

Why?

[marish01]

I am straight and I want my partner to be straight.
Sexual compatiability.
Abd not just sexual

[Grond21]

She should not have male friends who are interested in her. Same for me in reverse

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Male group associates in public is fine but I believe once in a relationship having friends of the opposite sex isn't appropriate.

[SpaceGalaxy]

No, if i cared about her, it would bother me since even though i would trust her, i do not trust the men around her

[Anonymous]

She can have both male and female friends if she likes, friends are just friends.

[Cheerfull009]

No problem, I have female friends as I am male

[Anonymous]

I'm okay with it, as long as she is not making a cuck out of me.

[strateguy632]

Better if she has.

[Astarlessnightsky]

She should have the friends she wants.