Is it a good idea to remain close friends with your ex's best friend?

[Anonymous]

[avery58]

I don't think so, unless you want to risk hearing bs updates about your ex. Also, they may talk about you to them. I found that many people who play besties with both people that were in a relationship are some of the biggest gossipers. This person may be an exception, but if you stay in contact make sure to tell them that you don't want to hear about your ex nor want them to share anything about you with them.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe. Depends why you and your ex broke up.

[AviatorTom]

That depends on why you are friends with them. If you were friends before you met your ex, then sure, remain friends. If you are friends because your ex introduced you, then it might be better to break off the friendship.

[ohsheeT]

If you want him to be a ex to. There's too many other people out there too get some kind of drama created with that guy you should just move on and let it go and start all over

[AI Opinion]

Navigating relationships can be messy, right? The tea is, staying friends with an ex's best friend might stir some drama, but if the connection is strong and genuine, why not? 😉 Just be cautious of those potential red flags and ensure it doesn't complicate things for anyone involved. Remember, open communication and boundaries are key here. Keep it clear and chill, and you might just find a solid friendship out of it! 💫

[ihateTaylorSwift]

all because I called his friend cute or whatever
he never let me meet him lol
Talk about insecure

[Asker]

lol guys *rolls eyes*

[bobby_bush_eater]

As long as you can separate the two relationships cleanly and the friend understands then I don't see a problem.

No reason to cut ties with a good friend just because the circumstances of who you met them from

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you trying to remain friends with your ex, hoping that a time will come when you can reconcile?

[Asker]

no, any chance with reconciliation is gone... and its better that way... im friends with his bsf because during the time me and my ex were still together, i got introduced to him and we soon became close, like brother and sisterly close or "i feel safe with you" close (his words not mine) and we kinda became inseparable

[OlderAndWiser]

Having a relationship with his best friend means you will continue to hear about your ex and your ex will continue to hear about you. Are you okay with that?

Also, future potential romantic partners may be suspicious that your friendship with your ex's friend if just you trying to keep a bridge to your ex so that you can try to reconcile one day.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Kinda sounds like you might be thinking about banging your ex's best friend, no offense.

[Asker]

@suchsightstoshowyou no offense, i can see why you would say that

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I mean, ARE you thinking about that? No judgments.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou ngl i dont see myself doing it, to him im like his sister and he treats me like he is my older brother... so technically i dont see us doing in the future

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

No offense, but I've heard so many stories that start with the girl saying, "We're like brother and sister," and then a few weeks or a few months later, "brother's" penis somehow winds up inside "sister's" vagina.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou like , for real... kinda bizarre when they do those kind of labels and yet still do it

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I'm just saying that maybe your ex's best friend doesn't actually see you as a sister, and maybe he actually wants to f**k you.

He might even be hoping to f**k you.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou well ill be damned

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I mean, maybe I'm wrong.

On the other hand, you don't seem exactly shocked or disappointed by what I just said.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou Hey! im just finding it hard to believe that he would wan that kind of thing with me

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Why is it so hard to believe that?

Do you two match up, attractiveness-wise?

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou personality-wise, since him and i are more introverted so we have our own vibe but we also tend to vibe well with other people (like close friends or people we meet through our friends), looks-wise... im not quite sure about that

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I'm getting a sense that you're attracted to this guy, and not quite willing to admit that you are.

Maybe I'm wrong, but that's the impression I have.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou THAT"S the impression im giving?

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

It is, yes.

Impressions aren't always accurate, but that's what you're radiating.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou... which part gave that away hehe, was it the part where i said that we had our own vibe or smthg... i feel like i was an open book just a couple of seconds ago

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

So... you had a boyfriend, and then you and your boyfriend broke up, but you're still friends with one of your ex's friends, and lately you've been wondering what it would be like to do naked things with your ex's friend?

Is that the basic situation?

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou emphasis on BEST friend. Also, not quite, i mean sometimes i tend to wonder since him and i are very close, what was the probability that he would develop feelings or if its even possible. (i dont trust myself enough to evaluate the situations myself heheh)

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

But if he were to initiate something sexual with you, you wouldn't necessarily tell him to stop.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou nah i would, i hope... becuase i dont want to be in the way of his friendship with his friend, i dont wanna be that girl

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

The fact that you said "I hope" kind of implies that you'd be tempted to let him have you?

Have you thought about this?

Can you message me? It's getting hard to scroll through all these responses.

[Asker]

@SuchSightsToShowYou im still 1xp so i can't... but my user is unknwn_mf so can you?

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

i'm pretty sure i just did

[AnonAndrew]

I think it's fine to do that. It's be a mess if you have to detach not just from your ex, but from all their friends as well.

[LiamJHayden]

I would do it, but it can cause problems if the ex lacks maturity.

[DrPepper12]

Likely not but if you and ex are amicable then yes.

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Not really, no.

[Rashmixoxo]

Sounds like complications are incoming

[Sonora81]

It would be awkward.

[In_Trance]

Whatever works for you

[Asker]

what about if this was you in this situation?

[In_Trance]

No. I'd move on

[Anonymous]

You KNOW it means eventually you'll fuck!

[Asker]

surely it doesn't always results to that right?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably more often than not.

[Asker]

damn

[Opinion Owner]

You'd be down?

[Asker]

i can't say for sure, its all very confusing...

[Asker]

not that i would hehe

[Opinion Owner]

LMFAO! That SOOOOO means yes!

This is a fun convo! Let me know if you'd like to add/message me!

[Asker]

HAHAHA sure that sound cool

[Opinion Owner]

Go for it!

[Asker]

damn it said i can't message until i reach 2 XP

[Asker]

i followed you tho, that alright?

[Liz1990]

Yes especially if their good for each other.

[Account]

Nope.

[Avicenna]

Probably not