Expect it to continue. People move on. The longer you go hanging out with "friends" and not finding substantial... the more you're going to see your circle of acquaintances be blown out sluts that cheated on every man they ever get with ever or schemers that probably want to just rip you or anyone off that they can.
It will become a "crabs in a bucket" situation where if you try to crawl out... they'll pull you back in.
I've seen this with dudes even... but it's more pronounced with chicks. They're growing up and moving on to a job or a man being more important than getting fucked up and chasing dicks in a club with you are. Sure you'll get some that fall back in line with you because they're relationship or job is all fucked up (probably because of their own actions), but they'll leave as soon as they did before once they get the chance unless they're just absolute trash for life.
The more you wait... the worse it's going to get. Pack animals have to pack up because they're weak when they're alone. Be the lone wolf... even bears are scared of the lone wolf.
Unfortunately it happens and life goes on , you just got to do what makes you happy and no longer depend on your friends’ to make you happy , friends’ come and go , but your true friends’ will always be there for you , that’s just how life is , in time you will meet new friends’ and you will always have memories of your old friends’ and your old friends’ will always be your friend if you run into each other again , Once you fall in love and meet someone you will understand that you really don’t have much time for your friends’ either , it’s just the way life goes , Hang in there you will be alright
The older you get, the more you will be faced with that problem. Mainly those youth in the age group 18-25 will be likely to have other priorities in life than to hang out with "old friends".
As you state, boyfriends/girlfriends, studies, hobbies and other occupations take a toll on those nights out when you used to be together. It becomes increasingly difficult to find a common time or date to be together.
Either you set up a schedule a few weeks ahead of the planned hanging out or then you have to be more flexible and accept the fact that those outings will become more and more seldom.
There is not much else you can do if you want to meet in person.
I found that joining communities helped me make new connections. That can be like a church or volunteering organization or book clubs, dance or art classes (like wine and sips), etc - things like that. People you like who you work with ask them to coffee. It might take awhile to warm up to people in these places first to see if there is something that works.
My long time friends are all so busy but I do stay one them from month to month to meet up once in a while. Something they'd like to do. In meantime I try to build new friendships by expanding my own life and individual pursuits.
The old gangs of friends of our youth almost invariably break up to one degree or another. That's life.
My best friend has lots of friends, and as such, we don't see each other often. He's still my best friend. I rather doubt that I'm his best friend, but we are friends such as neither of us experience with any others.
I feel blessed to have him as a friend.
I'm good with that.
If you need more friends in order to occupy your time with, seek them out. It's not terribly easy, but it's also not terribly hard to do.
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(45 Plus)
1 y
Honestly it might be time to make some new friends who are in the same situation as you. As time goes on things like this happen, especially when they get married. You could talk to your friends, see if they’d like to plan a certain day to all meet up. Sadly over time you may lose your friends as their life, their interest begin to change. Maybe it’s time to meet someone yourself? Do you have a job?
I see. Yes then it might just be time to make some new friends. I know that may be a challenge cause it is hard to make really good friends who are like family. Hopefully you can still get together w the ones who can make it
It's part of being at your age. I remember the same thing happening when I was in my early 20s. I was the person with a full time job and full time school.
You have to be more strategic with planning ahead with your friends. Also, make sure you're busy too. Don't wait on others
I know how you feel. A lot of my friends are busy with their kids these days, moved out of state, etc. I took a second job and started working nights again and I haven't seen any of my friends for 6 months. Don't be afraid ask your friends when they want to hang out, make some plans to do stuff with them and stuff.
I remember being your age. Always tried making new friends but they always had some possessive wife or girlfriend that wouldn't let them out of the house... whatever. I'm 35 now and it's even worse. Everyone is so addicted to their career or has kids to deal with.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it means you are growing up and entering adulthood. It will continue to get worse. Eventually you will start your own family and have too much so do you will not have time for friends either.
If it's legit, it's legit. If it is always some questionable excuse I distance myself. But I have a lot of friends and acquaintances so I do not worry much about having company whenever I want.
You learn as you get older make special night. My wife and i get together weekly with our friends. Cause if they are real friends they’ll make time for you’s.
Well do this , it'll definitely help you:🤗🤗🤗😊 Step 1: Please try to understand their situation Step 2: Don't try to overshadow their space Step 3: Evaluate your relationship with your friend Step 4: True friendship never dies, keep that in mind and don't act irrational Step 5: Get busy.. You have self respect as well, read between the lines! Step 6: Make new friends (who are single) Enjoy! Chill.. Hehe < 33😊
Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
