Was it worth telling the truth if now it's my reputation that's ruined?

[Anonymous]

My mom's advice for the longest was always ''The truth sets you free no matter what''. I feel it didn't. I've told a lie when I was in 8th grade (I wanted popularity, was tired of being just average) and someone else's reputation got ruined as a result.

Now we're in 12th grade and some people kept talking about the same thing. I guess I couldn't take it anymore, got reminded of mom's advice and admitted to the lie. While yes, everything has been cleared up by now and several apologized to that person.. I'm ruined now. They won't stop talking about it.

Is it going to stop already? It's been 3 months since telling the truth and I'm still given grief. A couple classmates won't even speak to me. Was it worth telling the truth? They're treating me the same or worse than how the person got treated. I've never been ostracized like this before.

[Cutegirl06]

It will end when you graduate high school and move on with your life. Forget these people they aren't your friends anyway. My advice is keep to yourself for the rest of the year until you graduate.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It was still the right thing and the right thing is always harder, worst case next year when you are a graduate, none of it won't matter anymore

[Asker]

Hopefully. I'm already hating this school year. I want it to end already. I can't stand receiving all this hate.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Maybe as time goes by people will forget about it, something else will happen and people will forget all about it

[Asker]

hopefully

[HighValue]

Your original lie and bad behavior is the reason. Telling the truth from the beginning would have been best.

[abc3643]

You fail to understand your mother's advice. Telling the truth NOW hurt you... but it hurt you because you FAILED TO TELL THE TRUTH THEN.

[Asker]

yeah.. I took advantage of my new popularity at the time. I can't wait for the school year to end already. I can't stand the backlash.

[abc3643]

You know, try to take solace in this... Kids in school your age will move on to some other thing to be pissy about rather quickly.

This excerpt is from Season 8 of "Everybody Loves Raymond", Episode 3 titled "Home From School". Unfortunately, this excerpt starts too late, so I have to give context. One of Raymond's twin sons, Michael, won't go to school. The reason, which he has hidden from his parents, is that he accidentally called the teacher "Mommy" and then all the other kids in class picked on him because of it. Raymond stayed home with the boy and found out the truth and then explained what happened when he was a boy - his unfortunate event (he peed in his pants while playing outfield in Little League), being picked on, and then how it ended. So, watch and keep this sort of thing in mind...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AUkjCJNRQE8

[StevenMcGarrett]

Well unfortunately, you are getting a taste of what the other girl was feeling when you told that lie about her. Highschool will be over soon and you can start you reputation over again.

[jahaims]

Their are consequences to your actions. Don't be a bad person and you don't have to worry about. You are still in school. It won't last forever.

[Anonymous]

What did u do to that person?

[Asker]

Made them believe that she literally sells herself for money, has a disease and has a history of stealing. I lied about everything.

[Opinion Owner]

Huh? Why tf would u do all that?

[Asker]

To be popular and have lots of friends, even if it meant someone else getting bullied. Before lying, I was just an average girl with few friends. I wanted more friends, more attention, popularity.

[Opinion Owner]

But how does lying in such a way about someone increase your popularity

[Asker]

That's because someone else becomes a target and I took advantage of that moment.

[Opinion Owner]

And why her?

[Asker]

Jealousy

[Opinion Owner]

Jealousy of?

[Asker]

her better grades, her good genes, her being tall and was well liked in the beginning; everything I don't have.

[Opinion Owner]

Good genes? 🤣

[Asker]

Yes. If I become a mother one day, I would love to give birth to a tall, white child with green eyes (or blue) and red hair. I like red hair in people. It's a cute color. Sadly those are recessive genes but they look great on a tall person.
In comparing to me, I've always felt ugly. I'm just another mestiza (only my great-great grandfather was like the description and then no one else got his genes), with dark eyes and hair and short at 5'2. Ugh. The girl reminded me of great-great grandpa in female version.

[Asker]

So ironically as I was taking it all out on her (emotionally) and letting us bullied her, it was really me that hated myself.

[Opinion Owner]

How do people treat u now

[Asker]

Better. I just never liked myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Why did they start hating on u

[Asker]

Because I lied. They only started hating me now.

[Opinion Owner]

lol they believed in rumours that makes them bad people tooo

[Asker]

yeah I took advantage of how easy it was to lie to them and turn them against her. I was surprised it worked.

[Opinion Owner]

They were equally jealous of her. They just used u as a instrument too

[Asker]

yeah I guess so. I hate this school year. I wish I was out of HS already.

[Opinion Owner]

How is the other girl now

[Asker]

She's doing better now. Though she seems happy about what I'm now going through.