How can I build back up a friendship with someone after a month of random misunderstandings?

[Anonymous]

Basically over the last month we went from friends to very loose friends, I made the mistake of telling her that I had feelings for her so she wanted space. We're part of the same friend group and people have been talking to her reguarding me which of course complicated things as a lot of it isn't strickly true. After asking for space we were talking again for a few weeks, then after we hung out in person a few days later she went cold.

We haven't spoken in the last three weeks as she asked for space, then instead of a big "talk" she asked that we don't do this big talk as it'll create bigger issues, instead let things fix themselves. I still don't know what this talk was really about, but I do believe that people in the friend group have probably insinuated that I still have feelings which I don't.

So i'm left in a bit of a shit spot really, I want to get better friends with her but as she's closer to this friend group the void i left as a close friend to her has been filled. One of the main advantages I have is that I live close to her and introduced her into this group where as everyone else in the friend group is pretty much online

What can i do here?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a tough situation, for real. It sucks when a friendship gets complicated like that, especially when it's not entirely your fault. The whole thing with you telling her you had feelings and then the friend group drama just sounds like a mess.

I get why she wanted space after you opened up about that - it can be awkward and she probably just needed time to process it. But the fact that she's still keeping you at arm's length really stinks. The silent treatment is never fun.

My advice would be to give her a little more time and space, as much as it sucks. Don't force a big confrontation or "talk" if she's made it clear she doesn't want that. Sometimes it really is best to just let things settle on their own.

In the meantime, focus on being the best friend you can be to the rest of the group. Keep reaching out, making plans, and showing up. That way, when she's ready, she'll see that you're still a solid, reliable part of the squad. Avoid anything that could be seen as trying too hard or desperate to win her back.

If you do get the chance to talk one-on-one again, be genuine but don't put any pressure on her. Let her know you value her friendship and you're there whenever she's ready to reconnect. But don't make it about your feelings or the drama - just be a good dude.

Patience and consistency are key here, bro. With time and space, hopefully she'll start to realize that you're not the drama-stirrer everyone might have painted you as. Just keep being a good friend, and let her come back around in her own time. You got this!

[HollyK21]

You just give her space and see what happens down the road. It’s unfortunate that your friend group has gotten so involved in your relationship with her but there’s no undoing that, you both played your parts in making them part of that conversation so long as you’re still in the same friend group. Is it uncomfortable? I’m sure it is but you can either ride the wave or distance yourself from all of them. Long ago when I was in a similar situation I chose the latter and eventually made new friends.

[Abbycado]

You mention a couple places about her wanting space. I think that is your only avenue right now is to give it to her.

[Nikki1989]

The answer here is already in your post, give her space.

[Plugs]

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