Am I right for not changing my son name?

[Anonymous]

His dad is a sr and had a son that passed away that was a jr. Naming my son after my husband had been discussed. My husband disappearing dad want me to change it. My son name is staying where it’s at. Him and his dad gonna have the same name

[abc3643]

Can you explain this better? It is very confusing.

Right away, you are saying "His dad". Who's father? Your son's? If so, then is that father also your husband? And, is your husband "disappearing"? or is that HIS father (you're father-in-law)?

You have written this way too ambiguously for us to understand what is going on.
Please rewrite. Use fake names if it makes it easier.

[Asker]

Actually you got it all right. My husband is his dad and the disappearing father is my husband father. It’s my husband father who want me to change my son name

[abc3643]

So, let me get this straight.

This is what is really getting me:
"had a son that passed away that was a jr"

So, let's say your husband is Bob.
Bob is "Bob Sr." because he previously had a son (with another woman?) named "Bob Jr." who passed away.
You want to name your son "Bob" also. (That would make him "Bob III" in the formal sense.)
And your father-in-law, let's call him Dave (or is he a Bob too), doesn't like this...

Am I correct?

[abc3643]

Seriously, without giving away full names, right now, what are the full names (without last names) of these people:

1. Your father-in-law.
2. Your husband.
3. The dead boy (and identify who the dead boy's father is).
4. Your son.

So, for instance, using the names above:

1. Your father-in-law: David Michael Smith
2. Your husband: Robert John Smith, Sr.
3. The dead boy (assuming your husband's first son): Robert John Smith, Jr.
4. Your son: Robert John Smith, III.

One way to get out of this pickle is to give your son a different middle name than your husband. In this way, your son is not a Junior or a III, but his own person.

Here's an example:
41st President George Herbert Walker Bush
43rd President George Walker Bush
He is NOT a "Junior".

[abc3643]

I forgot to mention Bush 43 is the son of Bush 41.

[Asker]

My husband isn’t named after his father or share the same last name.

For example-Peter zak brown jr (husband dead son name)
Husband name-Peter Zak Brown sr
My son name -Peter zak Brown jr

[abc3643]

Well, you really can't name your son "Jr." because he's not a junior; the dead boy is the junior. However, without a problem, your son would be Peter Zak Brown III. Now, I need to elaborate further and ask a question...

The boy who died. How old was he when he died?

Why is this important?
First, if the dead boy was anything beyond an infant, then he likely would have had significant legal presence with his name which includes Jr.
If so, then having Jr. in your son's name is going to make him have problems later in life - possibly significant problems - because he shares name identity with the dead boy.
So, for instance, suppose your son registers to vote as Peter Zak Brown Jr. But the Secretary of State in his state has checkers notice that Peter Zak Brown Jr. is dead whose father was Peter Zak Brown Sr. - the same exact father as your son. This will be an immediate red flag and they will assume that your son is an imposter assuming the identity of the dead boy so as to vote illegally. Your son will then have to provide evidence or explain the story or whatever and MAYBE get this resolved so he can vote...
... and he's going to have to do this over and over and over...
... and it won't get easier the way computers, databases, and now artificial intelligence (or idiocy as the case may be) become further entwined in our lives.

My bottom line point is this:
If your son shares the same exact name as the dead boy, he is in a potential world of shit.
So, protect your son and give him a distinct name from the dead boy. You can do that with the "III" so he'd be Peter Zak Brown III.

[Asker]

They will be different ages completely and nope my son is a senior. The other child is dead and been dead

[abc3643]

You mean your son is a junior.

The fact that the other child is dead is irrelevant. HE'S the junior, not your son despite any naming.

Your father-in-law is correct and your actions are hurtful to him because it dismisses his dead grandchild.

I am ready to answer your question:
Q: "Am I right for not changing my son name?"
A: "No. Your son is not the junior. The dead boy is. Your actions are dismissive of others feelings about the dead boy. Pray that, when it is time for you to grieve, others respect your feelings and treat you better than you who disrespected their feelings. May God have mercy on your soul. You'll need it."

[Asker]

He spoke with the deceased child mother on yesterday. She wants to name the dead child after her husband. She glad the child dead. My husband and I both picked our child name together.

[Bklynbadboy12]

No your right don't change it

[Asker]

Thank you

[Bklynbadboy12]

Why does he want you to change it

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

You welcome and because he just in people business I guess. He already thinks he is a ruler

[Bklynbadboy12]

You have every right to name your child whatever you want. I'm so proud of you for sticking to you guns and not letting anyone sway your decision