Is she justified to hate her family?

[bulleye]

Last day I finally visited my ex. She was hesitant but finally spoke to me. I saw the once brave girl, now crying. It goes like this.

She always wanted to move away from her house. Her dad is a Karen who once told 'Is that your mom a whore for you to buy that' when she asked her mother to get her a comfortable bra at 13 years and her mother expressed embarrassment asking for the same at store.

Then he twice said 'it is great if someone rapes you and insert iron rodes in your holes so that now you learn discipline'. she was then just 18 and was in university. He even once said she always dress 'sexy'.

her mother never raises voice infact silence her when she raises objection when someone crosses lines. She has in the past tried to commit suicide as early teen due to body shaming but her mother still lets her relatives do it to her. My girl now speaks rude than being dismissive.

Last, I was the only one who admired her but got pissed from her emotional distancing. And I called her 'mentally ill' and all. it has even hurt her deep that she interacts less with me now. She basically told me all these as she shared comfort but she did emphasize she didn't love me or trust me at all.

Her decision to cut off family is final but now I decided to be supportive. But she isn't letting her guards down.

[BluegrassBill]

Well, darlin', I ain't no psychologist, just a simple Southern man, but when I hear your story, my heart feels a right heavy and I may have a shot of whiskey, but it ain't your fault I would have had one anyway. Anyway, your ex, she's been through a storm, with a father so cruel and cold, her brave spirit's been shattered, like a pottery bowl.

Is she justified? Oh, Lord above, she sure is in pain,
Her heart's a battlefield, where love once reigned.
Then daddy's words cut deep, like barbed wire through the heart.
Her past is silent but deadly, like a stinky fart.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yes, she’s justified to hate her family, and she’s justified to withhold her trust from you

[Flower7]

She’s justified to not want either her family or you to be a part of her life.

[bulleye]

I want to correct my mistakes and be with her forever.

[Flower7]

It’s most likely too late for that. You have already shown ignorance toward her and her situation.

[Anonymous]

I stopped reading at the childish Karen comment. Grow up before posting again.