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I worked through an agency for a woman and she told me that she would love to have me back to work this Wednesday permanently every week. She said she would call the agency to let them know. The next morning, i called the agency to ask to have them set me as a permanent worker on the case but the agency said they have yet to hear a confirmation from her. Worst thing is I even dropped another shift with someone else on Wednesdays.
Another example, someone scheduled to meetup with me at a particular time/location but never showed up.
Should I just finally start going through life, not trusting what people say? Because this really isn't the first time people have been this massively unreliable
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Don't rely on people you don't know unless you have a contract in writing. Never give up work you have for work promised. Until you have an offer in writing it's not real.
She told me to call the agency the next day and she also said she was going to tell the agency to put me as permanent.
Maybe she was overruled by her mamager
Are you a reliable person? Because that’s really all that matters. Why commit to going through life making everyone pay for what someone else did?
I dropped another shift working for someone else just so I could work for that lady
I can't let this happen again. And the only way to do this is to really take what anyone or everyone has to say with a huge grain of salt
And that simply was not a good choice on your part. If I were you I wouldn’t have dropped my shift until I got solid confirmation about the other gig. Doesn’t matter what she says, I’d want it in writing or however you go about it with the agency. On top of that it sounds like this happened within one day, because you said you called the agency the next morning. What if she just had not gotten around to it yet? You acted quite fast and it sounds like that wasn’t the best idea, this did not have to happen.
The agency has called her 3 times. Now its 4pm. No answer. She doesn't even work a job
Just because she doesn’t work a job doesn’t mean she doesn’t have a life, and timing is everything, she could be caught up with other things and still this is all happening within a day. If she was dishonest and isn’t answering because she doesn’t actually want to work with you, then yeah that’s wrong of her but it doesn’t take away from the fact that you acted too fast. I would’ve waited for confirmation before giving away my shifts or anything of that nature. I’m sure that’s not what you want to hear and it’s frustrating but we are adults, accountability is so important that way we can make better choices going forward. You are not wrong to feel how you’re feeling, but it didn’t have to happen like this. It just didn’t.
She told me to call the agency the next day and she also said she was going to tell the agency to put me as permanent.
I am a person of my word so I did what she told me
This is why I can't trust what anyone or everyone has to say anymore
Again, until it is solidified, on paper or whatever then don’t just go by peoples word. I don’t care if she pinky promised with her hand on the Bible, get it in writing first before you rearrange your schedule or assume you have the job. Yes you had the right to assume based off what she said but I still would’ve waited as a “just in case”. You wouldn’t have been any less of a “person of your word” if you waited to see if that deal went through with the agency.
I agree that you shouldn’t automatically trust what everyone says, that is just naive, but you also don’t have to make new people pay for what someone did in your past. Not everyone is untrustworthy and you know that because I’m sure you would testify that you are trustworthy. Just be smarter about your decisions and what you choose to do.
And what makes you think just because it is solidified in writing that makes it official?
Its naive of you to believe that writing can solidify anything
You blatantly called me naive for trusting others but then ridiculed me for not trusting other people readily
Sweetie, you make no sense
When you work with untrustworthy people, nothing can ever be solidified, even in writing.
Listen, there is no good reason for you to get offended and snappy with me. I’m not your sweetie, I’m nobody to you so save the attitude for someone who’s actually trying to give you a problem. All these responses right now show a real lack of maturity with you because you’re frustrated and don’t like what I have to say. I have nothing to do with your situation, I’m just telling you to take accountability for you choices. I never said she’s right for leaving you hanging if that is in fact what’s going on, I condemned that as you can see. But you did make the choice to drop your shift and assume you had this job without confirmation from your agency and that’s not my fault. You also choose to stay with that agency despite knowing they are untrustworthy and unreliable, another choice you can’t be mad at anyone but yourself for.
I don’t know what job you do or what makes what official so I don't know what you’re even trying to say with that. How else would your agency officially confirm you are working for someone?
Because you seem to get a high off of victim blaming. I can see it. You make no logical sense
I have a decent head on my shoulders. I know if I had done something wrong or not. I haven't. Its her that was the wrong one. Not me. She was the wrong one for being untrustworthy
When you work with someone who has no respect for others or for their promises, they can always change their minds, no matter what. Even if it was in writing
Even if she solidified it in writing, there is nothing preventing her from blocking me or not opening her door for me when I arrive for work.
This is what you get when you encounter untrustworthy people
How am I victim blaming by telling you that it wasn’t smart to drop a shift and assume you have a job before your company confirms it? Did I not condemn this woman more than once for being disingenuous if she doesn’t in fact want to work for you? You are choosing to only acknowledge the parts I said you should take accountability for without any consideration of the other things I said. Stop acting like I came here waving my finger and saying you were wrong — that never took place. When I worked with people who had no respect for others or their promises guess what I did? I found a new job, like any other adult would try to do when they’re unhappy with their jobs. I don't know why hard truths and honesty translate to victim blaming and demonizing in your world but that’s not what’s going on here.
“Even if she solidified it in writing, there is nothing preventing her from blocking me or not opening her door for me when I arrive for work.
This is what you get when you encounter untrustworthy people”
It sounds like in your line of work this could happen with any client, could it not? You can’t control what she does in the future but at least you had confirmed with your agency prior that you had the job. You wouldn’t have dropped your shift, this wouldn’t have happened and that’s quite literally all I’m saying. I don't know how or why you see this as an attack.
Take a look at how you began your answer to this question
"Are you a reliable person?"
What does my reliability have to do with absolutely anything?
It was her that was unreliable, not me
So quit trying to victim blame.
We don’t know each other, so I understand how certain things can come off a certain way, but all you had to do what ask me to clarify rather than assume. So here it is:
“Are you a reliable person?” I interpreted that as an accusation when it was a simple question, ‘because it’s really all that matters’. Have you not heard people say that all you can rely on is yourself? Have you never had to fix or do something on your own because someone else didn’t follow through? I know I sure have, and many others as well. All we can rely on truly is our self, and that is why I asked.
**you interpreted that as an accusation
I doubt I’d get an apology from you but all I can really say is to not assume all advice is combative in nature just because you don’t agree with it. You are not good with hard truths, just like you don’t seem to be good at taking accountability and would rather victimize yourself.
you want an apology?
for what? trying to victim blame me?
I don't have to take accountability for untrustworthy people.
why the fuck would i need to take accountability for someone else's untrustworthiness?
thats why you're just a victim blamer.
Have a good night. Good luck with your situation.
I said take accountability for dropping your shift and assuming to have a job that was not confirmed with your agency. Don’t like it that’s not my fault, get a new job.
by the way is the other guy victim blaming too? You’re already gearing up to go back and forth with him as well I see.
I don't have to take any accountability for simply being a reliable person and doing what I was told to do. I always do what I have agreed to. This is what I take pride in.
The other guy is not a victim blamer. But you certainly are. I can tell a lot by your tone of voice and what you have written.
Especially the way you began your answer to this question literally questioning my reliability.
Lol I explained what my answer meant, if you choose to misinterpret it on purpose then that’s on you. However it IS weird as shit that he basically said the same thing as me yet he’s not the victim blamer lol you’re just a big whiney maid. Still no answer on why you won’t get another fucking job but hey, some people love misery! They love being able to complain about something in their boring lives. I am grateful I can’t relate.
How is it reliable to drop a shift that’s just fcking stupid on your part. I can tell by your tone you love to have problems in your life.
[How is it reliable to drop a shift that’s just fcking stupid on your part. ]
I'm reliable because I do what I promised to do. I take pride in honoring my promises. I don't agree to one thing then do something completely different.
No, I dont have to take any accountability for someone else's character flaws. No I don't, bitch.
[I can tell by your tone you love to have problems in your life.]
victim blamers like you are the reason why I have problems in my life.
Lmao so he is victim blaming too then because we both told you it wasn’t smart to cancel one job before confirming you have another. Yes, you clearly like to have problems in your life when you sit here and fight against a resolution.
You promised to drop a shift for her the next day? Didn’t read that in your post but alright lol.
Take accountability for your choices. No one forced you to do what you did, not her or anyone else.
I’m a bitch lol so are you and your mother😘
No, only you are the bitch. He isn't.
because I can tell from your tone of voice that you get a high out of blaming the victim.
[You promised to drop a shift for her the next day? Didn’t read that in your post but alright lol.]
totally sounds like victim blaming.
I'm assuming you are happier now right? now that you have made the victim feel bad?
there is nothing wrong with me TAKING PRIDE in honoring my promises, bitch.
The only BITCH here is you, stupid twat he said the exact same thing as me but you’re so biased lmao goodbye pathetic maid, enjoy your misery.
So glad you got stood up with your job!
You throw the victim card around so much, must suck to live that identity. Cry harder “victim”, you’re a mess.