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Defensive over family meeting?

I’m pregnant and my fiancé cousins wants to have some sit down to get to know me. I’ve moved from my home state to where they’re all from and have been here for almost 2 years.

I’m currently pregnant and almost due. The way it was brought to me was as if I’m some person that never wants to be around nor get to know them. The times they’d stop by the house I’d was either busy job searching or just coming home from work and would just be exhausted.

Just some months ago their grandmother passed and I showed up for the memorial in support of my fiancé and for the fact that I was slightly closer to their grandma than I was with my own. I feel as though effort could’ve been made there.

Now it’s like they have all these questions and not to get defensive I feel like I don’t owe them that much. I’m all for getting to know them but I am NOT up for an interrogation because I’ve already been through that with his other family members. I just want the energy to be positive and light. I don’t want to sit at a table to get questioned about my life.

If I was this horrible person his other family members would’ve have been said something! They already have a group chat lol.

How I feel is I don’t want anyone around me nor my baby. And then he brings up to them that my mother will be coming into town and they’re wondering how long she’ll be here for and when they can meet her and personally that’s over stepping boundaries for me. I don’t mind them meeting her but I feel like you can ask me not my fiancé because what about my comfortability?

It’s not like I never greeted them nor said hello or how are you but what else do you really need? Again I’ve been through the interviewing process with his other family so I’m over these talks and meetings and I don’t feel like I owe it to them especially!

Defensive over family meeting?
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