Family behaviour?

[Anonymous]

What is your opinion if you wife to be sister was pressurising your partner and trying to control her and accuse her of things.

We are due to get married but over the last few months my partner has changed at the weekend my partner broke down and I took her phone to stop her deleting her family. When I took the phone I saw a message that concerned me where her sister was saying that she did not care about her daughter and was only interested in getting married.

This could not be further from the truth as my partner gives everything she has to her daughter, mother and this said sister.

I wasn't going to say anything but I could not hold back as this has nearly Brocken us.

I have and her sister has tried to spin what I said by cherry picking parts of messages to post to the family. This has created and big problem between my partners sister and me.

I have defended my partner and myself.

What would you do and how would you handle this?

[Guy13]

Wrong move. You never go up against Family. Your partner lived with those people 30 some years. A 💍 doesn’t make a relationship as Time makes relationships

[Asker]

I understand that but the things being said were horrid. My partner refuses to say anything instead just keeps bottling things up. She has had enough and cope with it anymore.

[Guy13]

That’s what you are got to hear the things she wants to say. “Saving her” although it is natural thing to do can backfire. Ask her but don’t push via your emotion or opinion is what I would do. Silent rock listen and soothe and let her handle her family. What’s most important is that you both know, in your heart, that your spouse is not the person the sister is saying.

This is really about discrediting you. Less said from you the better 🙂