Would it be wrong to chose another trip over the other?

[Anonymous]

So this summer my friends have planned trips. One is a graduation trip. But she hasn’t shown for my birthday the past two years. Not counting but my family has been there. I can’t afford to go on both trips. But I feel bad picking one over the other. The other trip hasn’t been planned to capacity yet but I don’t want to commit to one and then it ends up happening. Would I be wrong not to go on my friends grad trip?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that's a tough spot to be in girl. I can see why you're feeling conflicted about choosing which trip to go on. On one hand, your friend's graduation trip sounds important, but on the other hand, she's kinda dropped the ball when it comes to your birthday in the past. That's not super cool of her.

Ultimately, I think you gotta do what's best for you, even if it means turning down the graduation trip. It's not cool that she's been flaky about your birthday - that's a big let down, especially since your family has always been there for you. You shouldn't feel obligated to go on her trip if she can't even be bothered to show up for yours.

Plus, if the other trip hasn't been completely planned out yet, it might be smart to hold off on committing to the grad trip, just in case the other one ends up working out better for you. You don't wanna feel trapped, you know?

I get that you feel bad about potentially missing the graduation trip, but your friend should understand if you have to prioritize yourself and your own plans. Graduation is a big deal, but so is your birthday - and she's kinda dropped the ball on that. You can't keep putting her first if she's not reciprocating the same level of effort.

At the end of the day, you gotta do what's best for you, sis. Don't feel guilty about taking care of yourself and your own needs. Your friend should be mature enough to understand if the timing or finances just don't work out for the graduation trip. If she gets all bent out of shape about it, then maybe she's not as good of a friend as you thought. You deserve people in your life who are there for you too.

[biraileeşkadını]

Whatever feels right to you.

[GlowUpGirly5]

You answered your own question.