Do you believe that kids need to be spanked when they misbehave badly?

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Some do, some don't. Are kids better behaved if they don't get spanked for doing wrong, or worse later on?

Shiprex · Accepted Answer

Physical punishment has been used throughout humanity since humanity was born. At that time nature gave physical punishment to humanity when it was bad or stupid by killing them. Evolution though was a chemical in the humanity persons that caused the ones who weren't bad or stupid to survive and reproduce and that evolution chemical was passed on to their children to be not bad and smart. Many generations of this not bad and smart made the humanity we saw today where our not bad has become very concentrated (and some not at all) in some and they think that the thought of a humanity person harming another humanity person physically was bad..
This causes a confusion in the humanity person because they remember that being stupid was likely to get nature to stop them being humanity persons by killing them. The short sharp controlled harming by older humanity persons had been tried and tested over many generations and it worked. Nowadays the overly concentrated chemical has been allowed to warp the need for controlled physical containment and lesson teaching of young humanity people and the idea of using words and explanations to them has created confused maladjusted humanity people who think they can do as they please and when others who have still got appropriate levels of the evolutionary chemical use it with them they become confused and upset.
It's never done me no harm

AMS700CX4u2 · Accepted Answer

There is a wide spectrum of Corporal Punishment. My father spanked me but talked to me later to make sure I understood why and that he did not hate me. Believe me that we more brain wrenching than the belt. I have a friend whose Corporal Punishment must have been much more harsh. She takes a more lenient view and is against it altogether. It depends on whether you punish in anger or you settle down and wait til you have cooled down. Anger can turn to rage and rage has no throttle. Remember that your hand can inflict heavy damage on an young body.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Personally, I am a non believer of corporal punishment. It can also result in psychological issues later in life. A person that has been punished physically may develop to be a very bitter person that may beat up his/her partner later in life or to be physically abusive towards others.

I have been raised without corporal punishment but instead, my parents invested a lot of time explaining the consequences of an action I did and why it was wrong. A good example of what happened to me was this one.

When I was a kid, I stole one of those erasers that you put at the tip of a pencil from the corner store. My heart was beating like crazy because I knew I did something that was inappropriate.

By some mysterious coincidence, my father got wind of it and made me write an apology letter to the owner of the store. He came with me and while he waited in front of the store, I was obliged to go into the store and deliver the apology letter to the owner while waiting for his reaction.

I could have died of shame and once the shop owner read my apology letter, he had a tear in his eye but gave me a sermon about my dishonest behavior. Nevertheless, he told me I could keep the eraser...

That was my most shameful behavior and something I am not proud of.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

any physical violence is wrong by default

the only exception is when you are defending your life...

children need love, unconditional love
they need parents to see the world from their point of view
and then they need their parents to explain to them what went wrong
and how to make it good again

so kids need to be understood, to be heard and accepted with their imperfections

kids cry in the moments we don't understand
they throw tantrums for reasons unknown
they act strangely

but all those situations are only to show parents
that something is wrong
that kids feel bad and they don't know why, because they are kids
that they don't like someone they are forced to interact to
that this t-shirt is not comfortable
that they feel left alone

so... effort to understand and secure the needs of a child is the solution... not physical violence...

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Frankly if it was up to me to sign a law that states it's illegal at homes globally (accompanied by a fine to those caught doing it) and all they needed was my signature, I would gladly do it. That answers your question as how I feel about it. My father used the belt when I was very little. I still hate that till this day, never thanked him for that and NEVER will. There are other ways.

I'm currently slightly over 5 months pregnant and want to raise our baby boy with boundaries, education (actually dedicate on teaching him, not placing fear in him) empathy, guidance and off course love. There is no need to use objects to get a child to obey and respect you. If you need to do that then you've already lost. You don't get anywhere if you try using bible quotes on me. Both my husband and I are atheists.

White_Widow · Answer

No, no kid should ever have to be spanked. I am however a believer of repercussions. So if a kid show behaviour that is undesired or unacceptable that should be a repercussion for his or her action. But there are many creative ways to handle that.

Like no screen time, no play dates, no games etc

Giving a tantum in a toy store because they can't have something they want, pick the kid up and leave, tell that kid to behave in the way that is acceptable or otherwise he can't come along anymore and he or she will certainly not get what he or she wants by acting this way.

Difference with nowadays is... That a lot of parents rather give them to toy to make them shut up and stop the tantum instead of putting in the energy of actually raising their kid. And make up excuses for it as they go along. (Like

DJB72 · Answer

I've smacked my son three times. Once when he reached for a lit gas ring. Once when he was running into a road. Once when he was running around a swimming pool (he can't swim).

Guess what three things haven't killed him or left him horribly disfigured?

Likes2drive · Answer

I didn’t get hit too often, but it was not really that bad of a kid either I don’t have any psychological issues from it , it’s probably the only thing that works actually but they’re not allowed to do it these days

ShellyB · Answer

I think it is a personal or family by family choice and it is something that may work for one child and not another so it should be done thoughtfully but in my case, yes I could be spanked, I was only actually spanked one time, I was terrified of being spanked so I behaved (at least I knew the limits I could go up to) and for me I think it worked. I am not sure it worked for my brother though.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some probably do. All my mom or dad had to do was give me "the look" and I was so ashamed that I became an angel for the next several weeks.

HungTexan · Answer

I think some spanking when kids are really young is ok, if not abusive. I got a few spanking when I was a kid, and it got my attention. I definitely wasn’t abused, and I’m fine today. Same with my kids.

SuperJJ · Answer

No, kids should never be spanked. There are many other things that can be used to keep them in line. The best seems to be, telling them what's right or wrong and to give them an example and behave properly, yourself.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

Some kids... and what I mean by that is some kids respond to that in a good way and they learn their lesson from it while other kids it doesn't work and you have to find other ways of punishing them

dovendyret · Answer

Spanking in my language simply translates to hit and no I do not believe in hitting children or anyone for that sake.

If I need to hit a child, to get them to listen to what I say and show me respect, I'm failing miserably.

Kelly6 · Answer

@daniela1982 yes they should and I did a still do if they don’t listen first time. but don’t do as hard as it becomes his memory.

NathanDavis · Answer

we didn't need spanking...  a cousin of ours even got slapped... the disrespectful out of him, it worked... was awful to see but, oh well... complicated things are these... for sure sure

Juxtapose · Answer

Nope, I never had to be hit and I have babysat for kids. I never had to hit them.  If you have to use violence to solve non-violent disputes, you're a moron.

alice55 · Answer

Spanking is bad it give children opinion have the stronger taller person can do whatever they want to those weaker and create bully.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Nah, I don't. You can raise good kids without spankings.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Rarely. But is needed at times. Ideally, sound does the job. tossing them out in teh cold for a minute also should work.

Jennz6 · Answer

I was spanked by my daddy and my mom. I still get spanked 💃💯

BadApple69 · Answer

Spanked not beat. And never done in anger. Yes, spare the rod, spoil the child.

exitseven · Answer

No, after a while spanking does not do any good. I only spanked my kids once and it was just one whack on the butt.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Absolutely not, kids deserve to be shown gracefully and lovingly how to prevent bad behaviors.

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody  needs  to be  spanked . What a strange question. Why would anyone ever need to be spanked? Especially a child!

Anonymous · Answer

They need to be guided too the light and taught right from wrong. If spanking them works for you, then that's what you'll do. Emotional correction seems like a good way forward too.

Manuelwe · Answer

You can spank a child when young. But by ten or twelve spanking is useless. By then it is a mark of respect to other kids. Also once the fear has gone like prison it is gone. Like sex.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Nope, and kids should kill abusive parents. Only backwards America believes that BS.

nawtee_me · Answer

Spare the rod and spoil the child…..

RSav4013 · Answer

Definitely, but only in severe circumstances

Massageman · Answer

As a last resort, absolutely.

dougeats · Answer

No but girlfriends and wives do heh heh

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I believe all kids need structure and discipline

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