Do you think children should be disciplined or punished by their parents for their mischief or unusual acts?
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Absolutely. But in most relationships, children want to please their parents.
they want their parents to be proud of them.
It's often sufficient to show them that you are very disappointed in their behavior. Sit them down and have a discussion about why what they did was wrong. Help them to be more mature. Kids aren't stupid. They can understand when things are explained to them calmly and lovingly.
It's similar to the way dogs respond to positive reinforcement rather than punishment. Dogs are traumatized by your displeasure. They are overjoyed when you praise them. They learn by having good behavior rewarded. The want to please.
It's definitely necessary to say "NO!" or "Bad dog!" when a pet does things that unacceptable. But notice how their ears droop and they hang their heads. They want to be good. Beating or punishing them does little good because they don't understand what they are being punished for.
It's definitely necessary to display shock, alarm or disappointment when I child acts out, too. But that's often enough for them to realize that they had done something wrong. That should be followed by sitting them down and explaining to why you are so disappointed in their behavior. Maybe even say, "Now I want you to sit here are think about what I said" and have them sit alone for a while until you call them. They will see that a punishment.
I'm not saying that there aren't times when it may be necessary to be more aggressive and apply harsher punishments, even a paddling. A child needs to know who's boss. But it's important to know that displays of rage or violence teach children to solve problems through rage and violence. It's bad example.
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Disciplined but not spanked or physically abused.
But also, it needs to be in proportion to what they have done.
@tania16 what happens with you?
Disciplined-Yes, Beat on- No.
What do you mean unusual acts? Being micheavious? Like playing a prank on a teacher where the teacher is embarrassed or playing a prank on a teacher and the teacher could have been harmed?
I am a parent of 3. Girl age 8, and 2 boys age 11 and 17.
I grew up getting my assed whipped and knew that I wanted to be different with my kids. I never wanted them to associate my hands as a weapon that could harm them.
With that being said I wanted my kids to respect and grow up with the same morals I did but not the ass whooping.
I established through grounding them and taking away objects they love as a form of discipline. It has worked.
All my children speak with respect to me and any adult they interact with. They are well roinded and playful kids.
I don't punish them for simple things. Only when their behavior warrants punishment. Parenting is hard and a learning experience. I learn all the time as a parent. I think that the bond between children and parents are sacred and should be cherished. Discipline should be done at home behind closed doors because its private and should be kept private.
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Yes barely they should do it...
It is necessary to do this without affecting the child's psychology badly..
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We start out as one cell each and every day that doubles we start out with a clear brain I don't know about anybody else but I've always wanted to understand I've always wanted to know I've always wanted to experiment I've always wanted to experience I've always wanted to explore. I was just like every other kid when I did something it was not right according to my stepfather used to beat me with a belt and I mean beat me I swear up and down that I would never ever touch my kids if I had kids well that dream came true I had kids I never once had to yell at them I never once haven't even put my hands on them all I would do is say. psssst and motion with my first finger come here they would walk over to me I already explained why they can't do what they're doing I would say do you understand they would say yes I would say go have fun think before you do my real dad was 6-4 my son is 6 7 inches he's not afraid to do anything he has confidence he's a fireman paramedic is smart is badass kids will be kids kids want to know you do not hold them back by disciplining them or restricting them for wanting to learn something to wanting to understand something if anything when they do something wrong you give them more responsibility you don't take away from them for wanting to learn and understand something once you start doing that it starts bringing down their self-esteem they don't become the person that they were meant to become
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No. Mischief is playful misbehavior in children. What exactly is misbehavior? It might be something that goes against societal norms. Maybe a little boy decided to take out his penis or something... sure tell him to put it away but by no means punish him. Or if he decided to be unusual, that doesn't mean misbehavior...
If they aren't doing anything harmful or disobedient... they don't need to be disciplined.
And discipline should always be first resort, punishment as a last resort. Some food don't know the difference. -
I am with disciplining kids not punishing them. I never punished my kids because I was communication with them instead. Kids are naughty naturally and if you punish them they will keep doing what you prevented them from doing. As a mother I used to always talk and explain to my son why he can do this but can’t do that and he always been a good boy. I know not all kids the same and many are stubborn or aggressive and make their parents lose their minds, but with a kid always you need to be cool and patient.
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To a point. It is up to the parents to make anything too dangerous impossible by not providing access to it, but once the child is old enough to know better that doesn't automatically mean that they do. It may take explanation. Or they may need to learn from experience. In any case, a parent getting mad because they are inconvenienced is failing to understand their life is already over. Their future rests entirely in their child's memories. If they don't have the time or inclination to mitigate the more crippling effects of consequences from their child's future, while still allowing sufficient consequences for them to learn not to do the thing (and also learn the benefits of learning about consequences before taking actions), then I would wonder why they bothered to become parents.
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Yes disciplined just for certain time like 1-2 hrs.. So they learn how to control themselves..
Rest let them run wild and be Kids..
Punishment is necessary if they do intentional mischief..
If it's unintentional mistake... Then they deserve a chance to atonement...
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We modern humans way over-think. Those that refuse to guide their children, children who haven’t learned respect and appreciation for the world around them tend to turn into obnoxious adults. It’s a guardians job to set limits with discipline, as much as it is to love a child. Since there is no handbook at a woman’s birth most of us were raised in the gray area.. and from some of the comments on this site, for example.. it shows.
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From the time of her birth, I spoke to my daughter as if she was an adult. I was calm and when she acted out at age two I just made sure that she did not injure herself. She found out very quickly that she could not manipulate me and that I would be reasonable with her and that I loved her and would care for her. It worked out very well and my daughter and I have a fantastic relationship.
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they should be trained and part of that is discipline and corrective action. failure by parent means the police or someone else has to deal with them as an adult.
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I do think they should be disciplined but not with abuse. My son is Autistic, And talking to a child and explaining how and action was wrong is about better than a punishment. As long as the punishment isn't physical.
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"Unusual acts"? What on Earth does that mean? Do you mean being unconventional, or just a non-conformist? Shouldn't we be encouraging that instead?
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Disciplined doesn't have to be physical. But yes of course. The reason our society is so messed up is because of shitty parents
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I think children should be disciplined for mischief. But parents shouldn't spank or hurt them in any way
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They should be guided. At younger ages be punished only to make a point. But have a focus on true guilt for what they did wrong. You teach sympathy instead of the usual groundings, timeouts, whoopins and you'll see much better results.
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Lack or discipline ( spanking) is directly proportional to prison population, the less discipline in a society the higher the prison population
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It would depend on how mischievous, and what form of unusual are we talking about?
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Yes. Teach them early in their youth their foolishness, stupidity and disrespect won't be tolerated so that way you won't have to put with their garbage when they get older.
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Disciplined yes!!! But not punished by hitting. There are several ways to punish. Like when I was kid, my mom would stop talking to me if I do something wrong to teach my lesson but she won’t beat me.
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Ultimately child need guiding towards acceptable behaviour that will better allow them to function in an adult world. Part of that guidance may be persuasion, part may be sanctions.
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Its important to make the destinction between abuse and discipline. Also children respond to different methods, so for some, they may require spankings/paddlings to understand they shouldn't do whatever they did wrong again
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No point, if you want them to not act stupid, teach them to be smarter. Either they will learn from it, or nothing will work,
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