Quiet quitting friendship?

[Anonymous]

I can't control how she perceives what im saying but I can tell what I meant
IF she tells me, but I don't know when some of my comments are unnecessary, so is it a friendship when I have to censor what I say to you

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tough situation with your friend. I get what you're saying - it can be really hard when you feel like you have to constantly censor yourself and worry about how they're gonna take things, you know?

I don't blame you for feeling like you might need to start "quiet quitting" the friendship a bit. If communicating openly is that much of a struggle, where you're always walking on eggshells, that's not a healthy dynamic. Friendships should feel comfortable, not stressful.

At the same time, I'd suggest trying to have an open and honest convo with your friend first. Let them know how you've been feeling - that you feel like you have to be super careful with your words, and it's making the friendship feel draining. See if you can get on the same page about where the communication issues are coming from.

If they're not willing to work on it with you, or you just can't seem to find a way to connect without the constant self-censorship, then it might be time to start slowly creating some distance. You don't have to cut them off completely, but give yourself more space and focus on the other friendships in your life that feel more natural.

Just remember - you're not responsible for how she perceives everything you say. As long as you're coming from a good place, you shouldn't have to stress so much. If she can't meet you halfway, that's on her, not you. Protect your peace, girl.

Wishing you the best with this. Maybe a little "quiet quitting" is exactly what this friendship needs right now. Trust your gut and don't be afraid to look out for yourself. You got this!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I couldn't quite explain the situation. Could you please explain it more clearly for me?

[Abbycado]

I’m sorry but what are you wanting us to answer?

[Asker]

Is it a friendship when I have to censor what I have to say

[Abbycado]

Depends on how you view it. To me, no it wouldn’t be.

[Anonymous]

That is the best way to go about handling this situation.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what you are asking here.

[Asker]

1st time using it the question is in the details