I officially cut ties with my only friend. Was this the right thing?

[Lalalove11]

It was hard to do as she was my only friend. I have another but we rarely meet and she doesn't keep in contact at all.

She did betray my trust and her apology was self centred. After I said we should go on separate paths she kicked me out of our group, deleted our photos and deleted our shared Instagram without asking me.

The whole thing highlighted to me that I had become her therapist friend, and so my feelings were never acknowledged. I was glad in some ways to cut ties completely, but I know I have no other friends now. Now I have no friends so.. I know I'll find another but it's really hard when you're seen as a bit eccentric

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that sounds like a super tough situation. Cutting ties with your only friend must have been really hard, but it seems like it might have been the right call.

Your ex-friend really did you dirty by betraying your trust and then kicking you out of the group and deleting everything. That's messed up, and the fact that her apology was all about her and not about acknowledging your feelings is a red flag. You deserve way better than that.

I get that it's scary having no friends now, but try not to be too hard on yourself. Being "eccentric" isn't a bad thing - it just means you march to the beat of your own drum, which is awesome. The right friends will appreciate that about you.

In the meantime, don't be afraid to put yourself out there and try to make new connections. Maybe see if there are any clubs or meetup groups in your area that align with your interests. That could be a cool way to meet people who vibe with your unique personality.

And don't forget, your worth isn't defined by how many friends you have. You're a badass on your own, and you shouldn't have to settle for crappy friends who don't treat you right. Stay true to yourself, and the right people will come along.

It might feel lonely for a bit, but you got this. Just focus on taking care of yourself and doing the things you love. The friends will come. In the meantime, know that you're not alone - I'm here if you ever need to vent or just talk. You got this, girl!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"I know I'll find another but it's really hard when you're seen as a bit eccentric"

For friendship and romance, I can only match with atypical people, otherwise relations look flat and unfulfilling. There is plenty of eccentricity in this world, please pay extra attention to the type of eccentricity you'll meet though, the psychological implications, behaviors. Right from the start. Because some people are atypical because they are terribly unbalanced, psychologically, that can even be a psychiatric condition, you know what I mean :)

[Plugs]

Strength to u girl. I am too a friendless loner , who spends my birthdays alone. I too cut of this toxic girl out of my life and she destroyed me socially. I hope one day she gets her karma

[Lalalove11]

Yes I've always spent birthdays alone I think I could be on some type of spectrum

Sorry to hear that, she will get what's coming to her though. And I'm the same age as you, harder to find friends I think when you get older apparently. Hope you find a good friend 💜

[Plugs]

It’s my dream to find a girl bestie

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same boat you did the right thing but that doesn't mean it was or will be easy. I had to cut off ties with a toxic friendgroup that I had pretty much my whole life because I realized that I was the guy at the bottom of the pecking order in the group and that's why I was the one that was always treated the worst instead of equal. My friends had respect for each other but I can't remember a single time I felt they respected me in fact the more I thought about the more I realized I was actually somehow too good for them, so I left. I'm not going to lie the loneliness and having no friends causes its own problems too but it's better to be lonely than abused.

[KITEinStorm]

If she erased you and your friendship so easily, know that she was never your really friend.

You are 24 years old, find other environments and make new friends. Don't feel guilty.

[Jennz6]

You should have at least one friend

[Bklynbadboy12]

If she betrayed your trust she wasn't a friend

[Lalalove11]

Suddenly she wants to be friends again in the future, she said she hopes.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's cool but this time make her earn your trust. Then she'll appreciate the friendship more

[Lalalove11]

Maybe, I'm not sure I want to be friends anymore though!

[Bklynbadboy12]

I feel you one thatb

[Bklynbadboy12]

That

[Lalalove11]

Yes , and she got the Instagram back when I said I was using it, then deleted it again! So weird and a bit spiteful or something. I'm so done

[eagle1951]

wow that sucks