Are these enough? I am lost?

[MoonFace2]

My good friend is turning fifty and my best friend and my good friend’s brother are chipping in with me to buy her a big ceramic cat ornament for her fiftieth birthday. We’re giving her the cat slippers for Easter, which were just going to be from me, but my bestie requested that we share them for Easter and I felt backed into a corner, because she wants to do something nice and I felt that I shouldn’t take that away from her.

Now, because of my bestie wanting to chip in in everything, I feel like I’ll only be spending $20 for my friend’s fiftieth birthday and I feel like I should spend more, since I was invited to celebrate her birthday party. Besides, she gives me gifts that are just from her. But I don’t want to humiliate the other two.

Is it okay to throw in a gift card to a store that she likes? Or maybe give her $30 as well, or a cheap but cute piece of jewellery, or should I leave it?

[SteveSmith1985]

You can get a side gift in addition (maybe not cash) , if you don't feel you're getting enough for their birthday. I don't think your friend will be bothered or think you're a cheapo if you don't.

You your bestie a favor. That shouldn't mean you have to feel like you aren't giving enough to your friend on their birthday. If you feel that way, I don't see why your bestie (nor the brother) should have any problem if you choose to spend more, on your own, because you feel like you want to give more to your friend celebrating their 50th.

Go with your gut. Nobody should be getting upset about anything either way.

🙂