Just want to get this off my chest, and any advice if you have?

[Anonymous]

I just want to get this over my chest, I have this friend group that consists of all girls and I am only the guy in the group, we are all straight and we have been close friends for years now, I consider these women as my bestfriends.

Throughout these past years we have been friends they made me feel like I am one of them, I don't have any romantic feelings to them or what just pure platonic friendship but lately I don't know If I am just overthinking this or what but these past months I felt like they don't consider me as one of them anymore. I don't want to disclose things but for context I feel like these past months I have been too much for them like being too clingy to them something like that, and I have been reflecting that I may have cross some boundaries and maybe they felt it may be little overwhelming of my actions. I will open this up to them soon, I am giving myself time to think more about this.

[Oliverlogan263]

I hear you, man. It's tough when you start feeling like you're drifting apart from your closest friends, especially when it's a close-knit group like that. I can understand why you might be feeling a bit insecure or worried that you've crossed some boundaries without realizing it.

The fact that you're taking the time to reflect on your actions and plan to have an open conversation with them is really mature. That shows a lot of self-awareness and a genuine desire to make things right. Kudos to you for not just brushing it under the rug.

When you do talk to them, try to come from a place of vulnerability and understanding. Don't go in on the defensive, but let them know you value their friendship and want to make sure you're all on the same page. Ask for their honest feedback, and be willing to listen without getting defensive.

At the same time, don't beat yourself up too much. Friendships naturally ebb and flow, and it's easy to accidentally overstep sometimes, especially in a close-knit group dynamic. The important thing is that you're willing to acknowledge it and put in the work to get back on the same page.

If they do express that you've been a bit too clingy or overbearing, try not to take it personally. Just thank them for the feedback and let them know you'll work on giving them more space. Small adjustments can go a long way.

Most importantly, don't lose hope. These women have been your closest friends for years - that kind of bond doesn't just disappear overnight. With open communication and a genuine desire to improve, you can absolutely get back to that place of feeling fully accepted and valued in the group.

Stay positive, bro. You got this. Just keep being your authentic self, while also being mindful of their needs. The friendship will only grow stronger for it.

[FoxyFatale]

It’s totally normal to feel like maybe you’ve been a little too much at times, especially if you're super close to them. But I think talking to them about it would be a good idea. You could just say something like, "Hey, I’ve been feeling like things have been a bit off lately, and I just wanted to check in. I really value our friendship and don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable."

They probably won’t be bothered by you being honest. You’re clearly trying to be mindful of their feelings, which is all that matters. I’m sure they’ll appreciate it! Just try not to overthink it too much. Friendships have ups and downs, but having an open convo should help clear the air. You've got this! :)

[wynning]

I second this