Do you need to have an interesting job or to be good looking to be respected in society?

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People say having a nice personality is what matters to get friends I feel I come across people who judge me because I’m not super attractive or have an exciting job they just cut the convo short and seem disinterested no matter how hard to try

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

You may not like this answer but...

1.) Yes, those who win the genetic lottery have an advantage. Numerous studies have shown that physically attractive people are generally felt to also be smarter and have better leadership skills than they actually possess. You're not gonna change that.

2.) Yes, those people who are lucky enough to be born into wealth get the same sort of advantage as the beautiful people. Society has trained us to believe that money is an indicator of success, status, and intelligence. Even when it absolutely isn't, LOL.

3.) Likewise, society trains us to respect titles. So titles like CEO, Doctor, Attorney, PhD in Physics, Professor, Astronaut, General, Senator, etc confer some degree of achievement and experience that most people never achieve. That automatically makes them more interesting. Even if they're complete assholes, LOL.

So if you haven't done anything with your life to distinguish yourself and you weren't born beautiful and you weren't born into wealth, you'll have to work harder to get attention.

Is it enough to be a good person, intelligent, and moral / ethical with empathy? Well there are a lot of shallow stupid people out there who are easily sucked in by physical beauty, wealth, and status. You're gonna have to learn to weed them out and surround yourself with people who will value YOU. That's just the way it is.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately this is an ugly truth about the world, but probably the western world more than anything. People do largely judge others by the way they look, the job they have, or the possessions they have, instead of looking at a person's character and actions. Humans are shallow beings, very surface level, very carnal and interested in things that appear glamorous.

However having a nice personality does help to get friends, you have to be outgoing and not afraid to talk to people.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

No to both, obviously.  People will come up with any number of lame excuses for their failures in life, and that is a common one.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Ignore them. People who really like you will be thrilled by your personality and won’t care about the other stuff

DonaldDarko · Answer

I don't know, it could be. But you've got to realize that society is largely full of shit. They'll condemn the farmer who feeds them and uplift the computer programmer that censors their facebook account. They'll look down on the janitor or garbage man who keeps them safe from horrible medieval diseases. They'll uplift the "influencer" dancing around acting like a moron on tic tock. Do you really want to play their stupid games?

Godihateyou · Answer

No. I treat everyone with the same level of respect. My beautiful CFO gets the same respect as the average (i will never call someone "ugly") cleaning lady for the building. We all come from dirt and return to dirt when the world is done with us. Usually the lowest of society have the most compassion and reason for respect to be honest. Homeless people are almost always better company than BMW driving executives.

Caughtulookin · Answer

Marcus Orilleus "Never trust somebody who seeks many friends because they will betray them all."  Stay off of social media and you might find your life to be more meaningful.

serious · Answer

Yes, having a good job in a good company is important to have respect in society but looks really does not matter so much from the perspective of society.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nope. You can be respected in society without having either of those things.

As long as you're reasonably happy, trying to help the world, and you're being authentic to yourself; most people will generally respect you.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

Welcome to Earth.

I wouldn't go around trying to please rich people and attractive people if I were you. The Bible says rich people go to Hell anyway, so it's not the sort of folks you want to hang out with.

lyrem04 · Answer

Interesting job, I don’t wanna be bored at work… and respect idc much about it people would be disrespectful anyways if they wish to so 🤷🏾‍♀️

Fireguy17 · Answer

respect is earned, it doesn't matter what job you have, you can still be a gigantic butt peanut and not be respected.

Babygirl_S · Answer

You need to be a bad whore not a good woman to be loved and be safe. Otherwise you have to rely on divine intervention. All faith in humanity is lost.

BDRick · Answer

In a small scale sense, yes. You are unable to get a girlfriend, or boyfriend, depending on your choice, if you look like a rhinoceros. You will be unable to get said partner if you live off of your mother for support.

Shiprex · Answer

For men it's good looking and or rich and or have an interesting job. For women it's turn up and be pleasant.

leahzrc · Answer

I am very pretty and have no friends, I promise you I get no respect

WhiteThought · Answer

It matters more for men. Doesn't really matter for women. Unless you are abnormally unattractive, most people do not care.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Wanting respect from society is a sign of a lack of agency.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Those might impress certain people, but those are not necessarily the types you want in your life.

Chayce · Answer

Yeah. Haven't you noticed most celebrities are rich and good looking?

DrPepper12 · Answer

I'll take the job. Inner peace & satisfaction is worth it

WonderingManII · Answer

In my experience, as a former Janitor for a school, the answer is yes.

Sluttt · Answer

It helps but in reality beautiful people are often ignored and people with good career often underestimated

blackeagle007 · Answer

How I look? That’s up for debate. I don’t have many friends because I’m not a very social person

msc545 · Answer

If you are a man, you need to have money, looks, or both. If you are a women you just need looks.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Apparently according to one girl I was just watching on YT, you need to be "interesting"

Anonymous · Answer

If that's the kind of "respect" you seek, then yes.

In_Trance · Answer

Not necessarily but you have to bring something to the table

MikeTheBartender · Answer

No but it definitely helps.

monkeynutts · Answer

Nah just gotta have a big dick.

Anonymous · Answer

Even that isn't enough.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

And be white !!!

Panthero80 · Answer

It certainly doesn't hurt.

Cormac995 · Answer

Yes 90% of the time.

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

Yes...

Pohjolan · Answer

You are fat?

Heusus · Answer

Absolutely ya

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