Dealing with past trauma, such as domestic violence. What are some options?

[live2dance25]

First time asking this after a lifelong of dealing with domestic violence. A friend said to see a therapist, but I’m not sure who to trust. He said you can try BetterHelp or other online services, I have no experience with any of this, and am not even sure what kind of help I need. I have gone to a few DV shelters to volunteer and help out, but they keep you isolated from the survivors and children (presumably for their safety and HIPAA requirements). Thought if I spoke to people in the same shoes that would help. Same for the counselors, it’s difficult to find the right person to talk to. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

[Finchie40]

Look up specialist that specialize in the trauma you are experiencing, , you can Google them also if you have insurance , call your insurance provider and they can recommend some to you as well

[live2dance25]

Thank you. I’ve checked into a few and it looks like there are lots of specialists and options. Merry Christmas!

[AngryCarl2]

Seeing a reputable therapist would be the preferred option.

[live2dance25]

Appreciate it, sounds like I may have CPTSD which can use help from a therapist just like others have said. Merry Christmas!

[AngryCarl2]

That's awful, hope you find something that helps!

[live2dance25]

Thank you!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

BetterHelp’s vetting is essentially nonexistent, but therapy is the best option. You’ll just need to do the vetting yourself or through your medical insurance

[live2dance25]

Thanks, does that mean the quality of their therapists is so varied you need to do the vetting? Or simply go elsewhere?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The quality is all over the place it’s usually easier to just do it yourself. You’ll need to, anyway, just to figure out if they’re a good fit

[live2dance25]

So basically talk to them and see if their style fits you? Do you know of what credentials are, at a minimum, good to have so I separate the amateurs from the professionals?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Therapists are licensed to hear you talk, psychologists are licensed to do that and also medicate you

[live2dance25]

Thank you. I appreciate the thorough responses and direction. Hoping they can help me figure out how to get past a DV childhood.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Their specialties are usually listed on their websites. Look for those certified in CPTSD, they have experience working with folks with complex backgrounds

[live2dance25]

Awesome, I’ll check those out. I’m not sure I have a complex case but with prolonged domestic violence exposure, any specializations I’m sure will be helpful.

[Nikki1989]

I dealt with it all on my own when I went through it. Going through the court case was probably the most traumatizing. It was like reliving it all over again.

[live2dance25]

I’m sorry you had to deal with this and in court. Were the judge and court staff at least understanding?

[fantasticass]

I suggest you see a psychiatrist. They will figure out the best treatment and therapist for you. It will take time and don't rush yourself. Healing is a process and I wish you all the best in your healing journey. ❤️✌️

[majesticwhale]

Therapy is one of the best opinions assuming that you are asking on here cause it’s too much to deal with in your own. Seek help we all need it friend.

[In_Trance]

Therapy is the only option

[live2dance25]

That’s what I thought and was afraid of. I’m glad I haven’t turned into an abusive person despite what I have seen and experienced.