How can people want to be with one person for the rest of their life?

Question

I've been with my family for 15 years and im already so tired of them

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

So it sounds like you need space that you aren't getting. Or maybe deep down you're an introvert or an ambivert like me. We ambiverts enjoy social time, fun and games, etc. but we also still like our own personal time and need to decompress and recharge with no one else around.

When I was growing up we were all a little too close, and were barely allowed to ever be by ourselves. To the point that even now as a grown man I still find it somewhat weird to hear about partners in a relationship or kids in a family talking about needing space. It feels alien to me and I think "You need space from the people you love/who love you?" But I had to learn that even your own blood/spouse needs alone time.

Being with one person for life is God's plan, and it takes work. It definitely will not always be easy and you will probably have moments where you just want to be by yourself or get annoyed by things your partner does. It's the same as growing up in a family with brothers and sisters.

Keyboardkat · Accepted Answer

My friend, love is a choice. Feelings are changeable. You may have had the experience that your significant other, someone you really care for, feels one way about you one day, and feels the other way on another day! But real love is a choice. It is a choice which says, "I choose you today. And I will continue to choose you in the future, even when neither of us is so attractive anymore." This is a real sign of maturity, the ability to commit, to be trustworthy, to be reliable, so that the other person knows that they can count on you to be there for them in good times and bad times! If you are not ready for that, you are certainly not very mature. Or maybe you just haven't met the right person yet.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

There are many creatures roaming the earth who mate with one partner for life. The distinction between those creatures and people is that people have "free will" -- the ability to choose beyond our hormonal instincts. So while we may exhibit some similarities with other creatures -- preening, peacocking, etc. -- many individuals mess things up by actively choosing the wrong person.

So the question isn't REALLY whether we can be with the same person for life -- we can... The question is whether we can CHOOSE PROPERLY and stop sabotaging our own chances at true and lasting love.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

@abbycado here she goes. The other day she didn’t want a relationship because she’s “seen men leave their wives for younger women enough times to make her never want a relationship”, now she doesn’t wanna be with one person the rest of her life. Just silly.

Twodogs0525 · Answer

Stop blaming everyone for your pathetic life. YOU'RE the problem, not them 🙄 It's obvious you try to justify your loneliness and fear of being alone for the rest of your miserable life by pretending that's how you want it. I've only dealt with you a handful of times on here and can't stand you! It's clear people choose to leave you, not the other way around 😂😂😂 Get help or stop with the trolling!

miana · Answer

Exactly that, you're already tired of your family, now the person you don't get tired of? That's the person you wanna spend the rest of your life with, cause they simply don't make you tired of them, and you simply feel more time isn't enough with them.

That's also the difference between having to be with people and wanting to be with people, loving someone, or being in love with someone.

aaron13547 · Answer

You will feel different about your chosen family, then you do about your birth family. Thats how. Its about growing together rather then growing apart. Your suppose to grow into a person able to be independent from your birth family. Once you do you will want that idea of family back and well find a choosen family. Then you will understand 😉

aceleon · Answer

then you and your family are not compatible people with each other.

believe it or not but some people just fits in together well enough for it to happen.

i'm together with my closest friends since 15 years and no sign of being tired of each other.

i'm together with my family since 23 years and aside from the loud noise we tend to make no sign of being tired.

uzumymw · Answer

Whene'er you get older you'll find out more about love. You don't choose your family, but you choose your partner. Hopefully you'll find someone that gives you the feeling you want to be with forever. It takes time though and don't think it too quickly.

You'll still get tired of your partner sometimes, but it's worth it with the right person.

beenherebefore · Answer

LOL your description made me laugh. The biggest difference between a Partner and family is that you can actually choose your Partner while you were born into your family without a choice. Being in a committed relationship with the right person is actually great.

RavVid · Answer

Why would you invest in another person? Put time, effort and money into them? They may break up with you before you get a suitable return on your investment.

If there is a lifetime commitment there is some certainty you get a return. if it is just a few years then you don't invest.

It is the investment and the return on it that is the crux.

Mynameisbobby · Answer

It's different with family. My family abused me when I was younger so obviously I wanted to get away but couldn't being a kid. My uncle adopted me when I was 13. I have a girlfriend she's 19 and honestly she's the best thing that ever happened to me, besides my uncle. We both know that we will get married and have kids after school.

MrChinaski · Answer

Love is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. You need attraction at the outset, but the fever wanes and what's left is what you and your partner build together, for better or worse.

At your age, wanting to create space from your family is healthy. Well done. Channel that productively to start defining who you are without reference to them... not to ditch your family, but they become mere additions to your life, like lots of other friendships, etc you will gain.

My 2c

Anonymous · Answer

How old are you, really? You have had many different accounts on GAG, all with different ages from, 15 to 30+. You have used all of them to spew the same hate. Thankfully, all but this one have been banned, and I have no doubt this one will be as well.

Staximus · Answer

If they are the right person then why not? A few years ago my friend's grandparents were the longest living married couple in my city. They got an award from the mayor for being married for so long. They were married right after high school, for 77 years when his grandma died I think.

Berethor · Answer

Because if a woman changes hands all the time then she is cheap and untrustworthy.

molonski2 · Answer

Most can't  Real divorce rates ( those who stay for $$$ or convenience ) are around 80 % . Of the other 20 % , around 15 % are single , so the number , actual is 5 % , so the chance is a tiny one.

Natasha1995 · Answer

You will know when you meet that person. When your heart skips a beat and you cherish every moment with him (or her), and plan your future together, you'll know.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is easy if you meet the right person. People fail at it by choosing the wrong mate and trying to make it work. You can only do that for so long.

AviatorTom · Answer

Dating is hard, and expensive. If you settle down with just one partner, you no longer need the headache of dating, and you two can save money by eating at home.

sawno · Answer

Because I am very loyal in nature and when I truly love someone I love them deeply, so at that point I'd rather deepen that to the maximum possibility than to weaken it with other people.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It's a concept called, 'love". I was never thrilled with very many people in my immediate family, either but, then again, I was also never in love with any of them, either!!

worldscolide · Answer

Because it's natural to pare bond. I've been married 12 years. Yet I can't stand most ofy family. I haven't spoken to my mom since I was your age... Yet I cannot imagine my life without my wife.

Twalli · Answer

You don't get sick or tired of them. My fiancée and I like to joke that we've gotten sick and tired with each other, because we've been both sick and tired while together. It's just not because of the other person.

serious · Answer

I don't think that is tough but yes everyone's thinking is different.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Because real love and real marriage makes you wanna stay with the same person forever, not all our days would be perfect, there are ups and downs in life...

iguessbihh · Answer

I really don't know. People have too many issues lol. For me to settle down the person would have to be perfect and add value to my life. That person doesn't exist so I'm staying single. 💯

Anonymous · Answer

I’d explain it to you but you don’t have the intellect or life experience to comprehend it I’m sure your parents likely feel the same way

daydreamergirl29 · Answer

You’re so young.. I wish all I had was family problems lol try being almost 30 and having to pay bills to make ends meet, be in debt, pay almost 2 grand a month for rent, and deal with 3 losses in a year for family you were once close to:(

exitseven · Answer

I have been married for many years. I cannot imagine it any other way.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

It makes a lot of sense in the moment. People just don't realise how long the rest of their life is going to take.

qwerty2469 · Answer

I pray your family gets free of you, and fast. There is still time for them to be happy. You will never be happy though.

unsteadydreadfeeling · Answer

Yep I prefer to have one partner but I'm single at moment

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'd ask my parents, who were married 53 years, but Dad passed at 76 Feb.26,1990 and Mom at 86 Oct.9,2003.

Anonymous · Answer

Simple because that one person has your heart and soul for all eternity

katiesmuff · Answer

That might be your issue to fix!

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

People usually like the person they say that about

queenofcardio · Answer

Your prescriptive changes

Zionne · Answer

maybe because they promised?

White_Stain00 · Answer

With the true love✨

Bloodparadise · Answer

Deep feelings

fish5505_87 · Answer

Your going to miss them one day!

Anonymous · Answer

They become adults.

Anonymous · Answer

Lmao sucking one dick forever

zombiewoof · Answer

It gets tiring

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