Why do some people stay together for years while some constantly go through partner after partner?

[red324]

Like I usually only get a month or two out of a girl before she moves on. We never get to the point of having sex or really going on that many dates. Usually only 2 dates. I'm usually always talking to 3 or 4 other girls because I know nobody ever sticks around and two months isn't long enough to make things exclusive or at least i don't think it is.

[Middleman]

‘Usually only 2 dates. I'm usually always talking to 3 or 4 other girls because I know nobody ever sticks around’

I guess that explains your problem. When you’re supposed to be focusing on one girl, your attention is spread across 4 other women. That’s never going to work.

Also dating is time-limited and very much a contact based activity. If you don’t show a frequent if not regular interest in your chosen girl she is going to walk away real quick. Not only that but couples in successful long standing relationships have something else in common other than just looks or money. They may have common bonds, interests or friendships that bring them together. They may also be part of other common social groups with similar interests.

Also in my view, despite most guys expecting women to have a more mature understanding about dating, I see some women sometimes actually don’t know what they want. Which is why for them some get choosy and jump from guy to guy (because they are making choices to see who fits them better). And despite them expressing a wish to have a relationship or get married, some are scared about the idea of commitment.

Unfortunately you just have to sort out the wheat from the chaff as it were and hope for the best. The earlier you explain your needs and desires for the relationship the easier it is for the other party to accept them or to move on.

[red324]

I talk to 3 or 4 girls at once because they're so flaky.

[ElementoP]

Women don't know what they want, you're 100% right

[AviatorTom]

People who stay together for years learn a key word... Compromise. You may dislike what your partner says or does sometimes, but you compromise and live with it, because your partner is doing the same with you.

My parents were married for 40 years, until my father died. They had a rule that they never broke "Never go to bed angry."

[red324]

Girls these days can never have a civilized discussion/argument. They'll leave at the slightest hint of a disagreement.

[AviatorTom]

@red324 That's because women cannot stand to be wrong, they always have to believe they are right. See this post Why do women on this site and in general need to be right? ↗

[red324]

Is that my problem? I'm supposed to agree with everything they say like a good little boy?

[AviatorTom]

@red324 You don't have to agree. Just don't make a big deal about disagreeing.

[TransAm85]

What age are the women? Many girls today don't see longevity in relationships b/c that's how society has portrayed it to be now. It's quite sad. Open relationships, swingers, and one nighters.

[red324]

Like 25-33

[RiseofArtemis]

Todays society seems to think missery is great. Everything that modern society is which means promiscuity, Open relationships and whatever thing has been proven to cause missery in people and generaly being unhappy.

[red324]

@RiseofArtemis misery

[TransAm85]

@RiseofArtemis But that's not fair..

[On_cloud_wine]

I believe in soul mates so these chicks not sticking around, consider it a blessing that you’re not settling down with just anybody who wants to stick around longer.

[On_cloud_wine]

Sounds like you’re desperate

[red324]

Who me?

[red324]

After a couple months they lose their fake front and their true intentions come out.

[red324]

I'm not desperate. I think I tend to move a little slower than some guys who bed these girls on the first date and get them pregnant not too long after that then realize what a mess they've made when the girls true personality comes out.

[On_cloud_wine]

Oh I see.. they’re not sticking around because you’re not pulling out because you are actually looking for a good girl.. I’m sorry.

[red324]

You mean putting out? Makes me wonder if I need to initiate sex earlier on than I do

[red324]

It's just the world we live in these days ya know?

[On_cloud_wine]

No, be you. Stay true to yourself. It helps narrow down the bad apples.

[Guy13]

Apparently, you keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Some people define that as Stupid and others Crazy. Either way, you have learned wrongly and continued to engrain the wrong firmly.
When are you planning to break the Cycle ⁉️

[slatyb]

It's not unusual to meet a number of women that don't stick. I did a lot of online dating and had almost a year where I had a number of first dates and no second dates, mostly because I wasn't interested.

Or it could be that you are putting them off or just choosing the wrong women. You need to talk to someone and be specific -- how you met, what happened on the dates and afterward.

[Jltakk]

I've never had one. The ones that stay are in it for the long haul and know each others bad and good sides and are willing to work with their problems together. Factors affect the others that don't last. I know my first relationship probably won't work, due to my sheer lack of experience in dealing with anyone else in my life. I'm stunted in that regard and it will only make things harder for her if she stays.

[LazerBean]

I feel like being in a relationship for 2 years before it fails is a way bigger waste of time than going on a couple dates then it not working out.

[red324]

Thats all I ever get with these women is two dates so it's all a waste of time. I've probably gone on 250 dates in the last 5 years.

[wittymilf]

Staying in a relationship isn’t just one halves job :) both must live each other with the same intensity 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Two dates over two months, how does that happen? If someone really likes you, or if you like them, you should be seeing them at least once a week if not more even in the initial stages of dating.

[dustybiker]

Past traumas. They attract the same dysfunctional people, create the same destructive patterns.

[Blackcosmo]

Because they want commitment and a serious relationship.

[Qdbrown]

Likely something between disposable relationships and codepency.

[FilmGuy93]

Our intimate relationships a sort of a habit.

[Anonymous]

Same reason why some fisherman keep thier fish and some fisherman catch and release. Some people want and actual relationship and some people just chase the highs of relationships.

[Anonymous]

I love exploring, new cities, new culture, new bodies 😋

[RiseofArtemis]

Hope you'll be happy with also the consequences of it. STD's are not curable.

[Opinion Owner]

140+ pussies still going strong

[Bug99]

@red324 Like say bro, Patience is a Virtue. All I can say is that the Ocean is filled a lot of fish, so you need to be Patient.

[WhitneySnow]

Some people just meet the right person

[ElementoP]

Dude that's sad. Fuck dem hoes

[maximumpower]

Some are slow learners.